i have a crush but hes 5 years older then me ... hes really nice, and hes a really cool guy! hes 19 and im only 14... we talked about everything that could happend .. if anything happend between us and we're both aware of it. But should i just lose a good friend because of what MIGHT happen?
IM confused, i dont know what to do!!!
2006-12-20 06:36:29 · 39 answers · asked by beckys in the hood! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you were older than 18, then I'd say go for it. But you are not in legal age to date him because of the law.
He could get in trouble for it.
2006-12-20 06:39:49 · answer #1 · answered by Nikki 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would say that is the age difference here is a little too awkward. He is an adult and you are still only 14. But I didn't really see you ask about the age thing. It sounds like you are asking more about whether or not you should date a good friend and chance losing the friend. I would say that happens all the time and that is the risk that you have to take. Some of the best relationships come about by being with a best friend. (I had to say all of that without thinking about your ages so I wasn't creeped out.)
2006-12-20 06:40:25 · answer #2 · answered by Tedo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you REALLY like this guy. Try him again in 6 or more years when the age difference won't matter. Right now you are playing with FIRE!
If he really is a good friend he will not only respect that but should have put a stop to anything other than friendship in the first place.
DO NOT screw up your life over some crush. Finish your school and be able to support yourself AND a baby before you even think of "opening up"!
2006-12-20 06:43:48 · answer #3 · answered by Steven H 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We'll it's not a bad thing. I think you should make the right choices though. I'm sure I'm not the only one thats told you but he only wants to get in your pants. There are several consequences to having older bf like first getting pregnant and second him getting introuble because you are underage. I think you guys should start off as being friends. You have a lot ahead of you and hopefully a pregnancy at such a young age isn't. If he likes you he will respect you. Be careful and good luck!
2006-12-20 06:44:44 · answer #4 · answered by c_eva02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even he is 19 his mind its not mature enough to realize the consequences , u can have a relation even if nothing sexual happens between u two , he can wait un till u r ready. u must be not only fizical ready but also study everything about sex , when u know everything then u know what u r doing , i did it also when i was 14 and now i realize how less i knew and how lucky i was that a lot of bad things could have happen to me . Please don't do anything STUPID !!! You might regret it latter ..
2006-12-20 06:49:02 · answer #5 · answered by AlinaU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need to ask this question, you are not ready.
I dated a 19 year old when I was 14 (14 years ago). I wasn't emotionally or physically ready for the relationship.
While I cherish the memories of the guy (he was a sweet heart), I wish I had waited a few years... we may have then had a lasting relationship.
2006-12-20 06:40:15 · answer #6 · answered by Wren 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The 5 year difference is not the problem, but him being an adult and you berly being a teen is the problem...im sorry and i know you dont want to hear it but forget about it...you could mess his life up if it goes too far..wait til youre 16 or 17 to try to talk to a 19 year old..and even then there will still be question...but youll just be more mature and more responsible! G.L!
2006-12-20 06:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You leave him alone and at 14 you find someone alot closer to your age. there is just too much difference in the interests of 19 year olds and 14 year old. I have a 20 year old son and a 15 year old daughter and I couldn't imagine either of them going with someone of that age difference. At 19, this guy has got to be a total loser to even be thinking of a 14 year old. Where are all the girls his age?
2006-12-20 06:40:08 · answer #8 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're too young to be talking to a 19 year old guy. Besides, you have plenty of time to start dating. Plus if anything "might happen" you should really think about it. Besides, losing a friend isn't really worth anything at all... think about how you would feel because you really don't know what's goin on in his mind
2006-12-20 06:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what the hell are you thinking?....yeah something might happen between you guys.....sure.....life doesn't really work like that you know! My advice is to just stay away from you...if you guys went out, then he'll probably take advantage of you being younger..and i don't think that he'll feel comfortable with a girl five years younger than him.....i mean i can get a guy five years older...but then that's different!!
2006-12-20 06:44:48 · answer #10 · answered by PinkPanther 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋