What do you do when your husbed and your mom can't get along?

Answer 1

well that depends. usually parents dont like the daughters significant others for a reason. How does he treat you? does he cheat? does he treat you like crap? because if thats the case, your mom has every right not to like him. But if all this is true, let your mom know that its your life and you have low self esteem so your going to stay with him and if she doesnt like that, tough. If your mom is mean and bitter about how happy you two are and is just being a miserable hag, tell her the same, you love him and shes going to have to deal with it.

Answer 2

by "Husbed" I'm assuming you meant, "Husband".. My sister is going through this problem right now. You just make the best of it. Tell you're mom all the good things about your husband and tell him all the good things about your mom. Try and let them form an unbiased relationship among each other and don't force it on them. Be gentle and don't take sides.

Answer 3

There's not much you can do. Just tell them both that they have to get along and work out whatever it is that's causing a problem. Do they know how hard it is on you. Look at the position they are putting you in. That's not fair to you. I would tell them that. Either way you go there is going to be someone mad at you. Whether it is your mom or your husband. This is a lose, lose situation. One of them is going to thing that you are picking sides. If it ever comes down to you picking pick your husband. He's the one you are going to spend the rest of your life with. If you love him then your mom is just going to have to understand. Or if it's to hard for you to do that then don't pick at all. Tell them that they are both going to have to grow up or they both are going ot lose you. That should get there attention. I'm sorry you are in the middle of immature family issues. Well Good Luck and I hope everything turns out alright.

Answer 4

The best advice I can give you is this:
You are the one who has t fix it, because if you dont put a stop to it, then it will get worse.
You are the one who needs to tell your mother that you love her and you appreciate all that she does for you, but she does need to back off, because two people are in a relationship, not three or ten etc, this goes for every relationship, I went through this recently. You do need to have a good relationship with your parents though also, but think about this, its a lot easier to lose a spouse than it is to lose a parent, so they do need to come first or else you could lose your relationship. I am not sure about your situation, but remember this, if you are telling your mother about every single fight that you and him have, she only hears that, not when you and him are making up, so just remember to put in a good word for him. let your husband know that you support him and that you love him.

Answer 5

My best advice would be to give it time because they both have something in common, they both love you. If they really cared they would at least bare each other for a little while just for your sake. She needs to realize that the man you love and married and your going to be together until death do you part. He needs to realize that she is your mother the woman that gave birth to you and there is no way your about to kick her out of your life now. Find some kind of common ground and understanding.

Answer 6

Just do what you can to avoid any stress about it. Family members don't always get along and they shouldn't have to. Some people just don't mix, like oil and water. You can talk to both parties seperately and ask them to deal with their differences on a mature level because you all have to be family. Remember, life is too short, so pick your battles.

Answer 7

1. It's your problem since you are the one who will have to choose (and the decision point WILL come).
2. If you decide it's NOT your problem, then you will suffer the consequences of whatever they do.

Recommendation: You support your husband but visit your parents by yourself. She's your mother, not his. Fear not - there will come a day when you will have an issue with his parents. Act as though it will be tomorrow.

Answer 8

the bible say youre to give up your mother and father for each other also you both are to show respect for other aswhile you need to sit down and talk it out this why god give you a mouth to communicate youre are not kids anymore and when you got married i hope you were grow up so start talking and when you get mad just remerber that first kiss that brought you together good luck

Answer 9

Sweetheart you cannot force them to get along i have been with my husband for 9 years and my mom and husband do not get along AT ALL! But of course i will choose my husband over my mother any day, because he is the one who takes care of me, the one i have kids w/. and the one i lay next to every night.. I still keep in touch w/ my mom, i talk to her every week. and she comes up to see me, thay just dont talk. After a while you get use to it..But my mother also knows to never, ever disrespect my husband in his house or around our kids..So i guess all i can say is, that you are just going to have to find your way of dealing with it, Do they argue? if they do who usually starts it? if it is your mom, and she starts on him in your home, you need to say mom, i love you, but you can not be in our home disrespecting my husband, if you want to visit fine, but you are going to have to learn to either visit and talk w/ me and not him or just not come over...Because he pays the bills here, and he does not deserve that. I hope it helps.

Answer 10

When you marry, your spouse becomes your primary focus. If they don't get along with your parents, then your parents will have to adjust or see less of you. Read the Book of Ruth.