Hi i am christian girl who is homeschooled. I am the youngest one in my family by alot im 12 and in 6th grade. My mom does my schooling we use ABeka system for that. I like it most of the time i have friends from church and my best freind homeschooled to but sometimes it gets bad with just me and my mom and i get bored with just studying with her all the time and she give me lots to do!! Not just schooling but Bible study too i do with her but i like that better. Shes strict about things tho and sometimes i get frustrated with haveing to do stuff all the time and then i end up getting her mad cos i dont listen to her and shell say im acting up and i have to stand in the corner until i can do better or she takes me to my bedroom and spanks me hard for not minding her. Is she just strict like old fashioned or other family same way to???
2006-12-20 06:30:00 · 11 answers · asked by Tia 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
It's funny how homeschooling can varry from family to family... I was homeschooled from 1st-12th grades. My parents weren't quite that strict, but they definately had boundaries for me. My parents stopped spanking me when I was about 10 or 11 and opted for more fit punishments like being grounded from TV, phone, computer, and activities in which I wanted to participate.
My mom and I had our struggles, especially when I hit Algebra, so I kinda know where you're coming from.
My best suggestion is this: pick a time to talk to your mom (and dad, when things are pretty calm) about your thoughts on the punishment you receive. My guess is there are times when you know you deserve punishment but it just doesn't fit the crime -or your age. Let them know what would "hurt" for punishment. You know, like losing phone priviledges for a week for sassing back. Or when the family watches some TV special/rents a movie, you don't get to join in because you didn't finish "homework" or clean your room in time. Ask them to brainstorm with you.
Check out the book "How to Live with your Parents without Losing Your Mind" by Ken Davis. I highly recommend it!
Even though it's extremely difficult when parents seem unreasonable, remember honoring your parents is the first commandment that came with a promise.... "that your days may be long on the earth." You'll probably make, and well at that.
2006-12-20 06:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mother is very old fashioned. I don't personally know of any other families who spank 12 year olds or make them stand in the corner. That type of punishment is usually reserved for small children. As for spanking, I don't believe that is appropriate punishment, however you mother is the one making the parenting decisions about you. She should thank her lucky stars that she has as good a kid in you as she does. I know most kids your age would have rebelled already to her behavior towards you. She just needs to be very careful that she doesn't push you to being a crazy rebellious kid, as that is often the case with overly strict parents.
My advice to you: when you get frustrated, take a deep breath (or ten) and try not to "act up" (whatever that means). Instead, calmly tell your mother, "I'm really frustrated. Can we take a break right now so I can regroup and refocus?" Maybe that will help. GOOD LUCK!
2006-12-20 06:38:41 · answer #2 · answered by Neeners 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems too strict and u too old for spankings.
Most homeschoolers get out and go to libraries, and adventures,
U may want to try public schools, so u can be around a variety of folks to get used to the real world.
Alot of homeschoolers play all day and do their lessons at night.
But if homeschooling is this bad, u really do need to ask your ma to put u in public schools.
U can read the Bible in your own time.
School is for educational purposes, Bible is spiritual growing which is very important also.
2006-12-20 06:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
HI, fellow homeschooler here. my parents were the exat same way. they were even wrose in some areas. are you in a home school group? if not then try to find one. in my church there are at least 4 other familys that homeschool and we all meet together and do feild trips (museums, farms, the rennassance fest....) we also just do things for fun like days in the park. basicly, my mom is very strict. but she often lets up and lets us have fun.
you can send me an email if you want. i have always been home schooled, so I know almost every thing about it...
2006-12-20 06:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My personal opinion is that this has more to do with you being Christian rather than being homeschooled. I'm a mother who homeschools and while I have certain rules I'm not overly strict. My kids are still young but I let them make many of their own choices with their time. As long as they're learning I'm okay. We do math and reading on a daily basis. For all other subjects I let the kids pick the topics. Some mornings they'll ask to skip lessons because they want to read or just do art. As long as they're not falling behind in anything then we go ahead and do that. We have a daily schedule we use as a guideline but we are flexible and I allow my children to use their time how they see fit...for the most part. Both of my kids are about two grade levels ahead of where they need to be. We are not Christian. We are pagan. Our beliefs are nature based. If my children want to read the bible they can. If they want to learn about other religions they can. But I don't force any of that on them. I'm disgusted that your mother feels the need to spank a 12 year old. What does that accomplish? I don't even spank my 6 yr. old. He is six and old enough to understand what I'm saying so we talk to him rather than spank. It sounds like your mother is overly controlling and isn't allowing you to be who you are. I grew up with a father like that. I'm really sorry. Parents like that can really zap a child's self esteem.
2006-12-20 17:28:17 · answer #5 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Not all homeschool moms r stricted. Im homeschooled too....I get frustrated A LOT! im in 7th grade and it is hard,u just gotta deal with it,and get it over with,cause after school it's time for fun! If you have anymore questions,don't hesitate to ask,unless your like a stalker,then i've never heard of u,lol. Anyways talk if u wanna. HOMESCHOOLERS ROCK!
2006-12-20 06:37:34 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 07:52:38 · answer #7 · answered by trinkle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see that your Mom loves you.
One day you're going to have hard choices to make an it will be your mothers wisdom and strength that helps you choose the right path.
Try thinking of fun stuff you can do together. Give your Mom some loving back. She is proud of you and enjoys doing stuff with you. She understands that she has a responsibility for your education but sometimes she wishes she could just let it all slide and have fun instead.
2006-12-20 06:44:32 · answer #8 · answered by elsbeth 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know that Christian schools are very expensive! So that's prolly why your mother home schools you right? But that's ro excuse to treat you that way. Standing in the corner is for pre-schoolers and toddlers seems she is very old fashioned and maybe a little stressed. I would let her know exactly how you feel and if she doesn't want to listen you should try speaking to another family member about this and see if they can help. It seems like your going through a lot so i hope for the best!!
2006-12-20 06:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by Curious J. 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't worry, my mom is strict too, i am 13, but not homeshooled. when i am trying to read, my mom makes me study the bible:(
2006-12-20 10:07:09 · answer #10 · answered by victoria 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋