I dated a guy a few times and we really hit it off (he invited me to over for the holidays). He mentioned he's been looking all over for certain characters from a popular Christmas show, so I was able to find them, picked them up, and sent a courier to his office with the package. He's been working a lot and has been really stressed, so I did it to put a smile on his face. I thought he'd be so bowled over that I found them that he'd call right away. It was yesterday and I haven't heard - Hell...when I get flowers I call to thank the sender right away...but, maybe that's just me. I guess I need a guy's point of view here - should I expect a "thank you" or do I just assume he didn't want me to get him a gift and that he's blown me off???
2006-12-20 06:27:20 · 12 answers · asked by illdoscott 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
He should have....
That doesn't mean he, well it doesn't mean anything that you can interpret from just that fact. Don't worry about it, next time you talk ask if he received the package. Or let him bring it up.
This is a stressful time of year for everyone, and if his work is stressful as well, he might pencilled it in for a time when he can thank you properly.
Just go with the flow -- guys tend to appreciate that.
2006-12-20 06:52:33 · answer #1 · answered by The angels have the phone box. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Odd how many people answering are women...
As a guy, I'd have to say that it either freaked him out a little and he's not sure how to deal with it yet, or he's choosing a specific way to thank you. You may be surprised yet. Guys aren't as impulsive as women about these kinds of things. And if he is really busy he certainly won't have time to call right away, nor would most men take the time. Guys tend to be more pragmatic when the job is concerned. I'm leaning towards the possibility that he's planning something. He just doesn't have a lot of time.
2006-12-20 17:37:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Irrespective of his gender he is still a human being, not from another planet without any manners.
Of course he should have called. You wasted your time and effort on this lovely gesture. Either he doesnt appreciate you that much or he did not need teh gift so bad.
Either way, he's dug his grave, now you have to walk past him.
2006-12-20 15:34:38 · answer #3 · answered by RealChic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you send the stuff to him to get an acknowledgement or to be nice? Don't do a good deed with the expectation of getting something in return. That said - I think he should at least say thank you.
2006-12-20 14:50:17 · answer #4 · answered by QnA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its rude and disrespectful of you for him to not acknowledge the gift. Whenever I do anything for my boyfriend - send him a card through the mail, or email, buy something for him I think he can use around the house, go out of my way to do something for him, etc. he's always very gracious and thanking me.
2006-12-20 14:36:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sunidaze 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys don't always call to say thank you. They are not always taught to do so when growing up or just choose not to, blow it off, as you said. He may just not know exactly what to say, or be a little uncomfortable with the situation. He should have though, if he has received them.
2006-12-20 14:33:40 · answer #6 · answered by nanny4hap 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's just not that into you......and maybe feels you have put him in an obligatory position by sending him a gift? He could be hoping by not acknowledging, you'll get the message. Men are always looking for an easy out!!
2006-12-20 14:45:06 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Don't call him! you'll seem over zealous! let him thank you...maybe he is just trying to find a nice gift for you? and a nice way to say thank you...but I'm a optimist...but yet don't chase him...he'll come to you if he likes ya...ball is in his court...maybe He's just socially slow...good luck!
2006-12-20 15:50:09 · answer #8 · answered by Jussie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
24 hrs is plenty enough time to acknowledge. It was rude. but maybe he does have lots on the mind.
2006-12-20 14:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by ricks 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, you asked for a guy's view and I think Tarbender summed it up quite nicely.
2006-12-20 19:34:57 · answer #10 · answered by skip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋