I really want to be pregnant, but I am so torn. My husband is currently deployed and will be home in Feburary. I so want to get pregnant when he gets home. The problem is that he will be leaving again in March, for 2 years. I just have an overwhelming desire to have a child with him. What should I do?
2006-12-20 06:13:57 · 8 answers · asked by raysbabe11 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
It will be very hard to do all that on your own especially when you don't have to. Plus you will be robbing him of all the great joys that a man gets to have when expecting and having a child for two whole years!!! hears what he'll miss.. the positive test results, the first and second ultrasound, the slowly growing belly, the first signs of life (baby kicking in your belly), the baby shower (or diaper party), the painting the room and decorating it, standing in the baby's room feeling so anxious because you can't wait for him or her to get here, lamaze classes, the BIRTH, ( which i cannot tell you how important it is for you for him to be there), the first couple nights home when you both have no idea what to do with this little thing you wanted so badly, the first time baby smile, laughs, crawls, walks, eats big food, you leave them with a babysitter and you worry the whole time your out, his first Christmas, birthday.. I could go on and on. I just had a baby 7 months ago. I would never have done it without my husband. because you can't get that time back. It's priceless.
2006-12-20 06:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by amanda f 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you speak to your husband about this. After all it is his child too, and he won't be here to see him/her for 2 years except maybe a little leave. Also be prepared you will be a single parent since he will be away. Have an adult conversation with him telling him why you want this baby and see what he says. You may be suprised.
2006-12-20 06:21:27 · answer #2 · answered by Amy A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your desire stems from not being able to be with him so you want to have a piece of him there with you while he is away... personally I'd want my children's father to be there with me throughout the whole pregnancy and with our children as they grow... you never get a child's first steps or first words back... I'd say wait till he comes home for good... or he needs to find a way to be and stay home now
2006-12-20 06:22:41 · answer #3 · answered by Love Me or Hate Me... 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be hard on you to have to raise this baby all by yourself while he is away. plus this will be hard on him knowing that you are home with the child and he can't be there for you. or the child. you never know what can happen while he is away, as long as the both of you think that you can handle all this then don't if you think you can go for it. its really up to you.
2006-12-20 06:19:07 · answer #4 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its something you both are wanting to do I would try when he gets home. I wish you the best of luck. It must be every hard with him gone all the time. Good luck again.
2006-12-20 06:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try when hes home work out your fertile days giving yourself the best chance im in the same boat we tryed before he left i havent come on but so far had all negative tests so dont try to hard because it wont work!im so disapointed
2006-12-20 06:18:46 · answer #6 · answered by Hayley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby isn't a toy. It can't give you the love that you are craving while your husband is gone. You sound so hurt and needing love and companionship. A baby can't give you that.
2006-12-20 06:20:13 · answer #7 · answered by Dizney 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him he should understand, good luck
2006-12-20 06:20:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋