My boyfriend is a total gamer, he loves to play WoW especially. He has been off work since May. I know he was looking for a job the first few months he lost his job, but lately I think he's just been slacking (looking every now and then). What can I do to motivate him back into looking for a job without being pushy?
2006-12-20 06:07:14 · 4 answers · asked by Twiztnin 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell him to call you when he gets his life together. If he values being with you, he'll work to keep you. If not, you just unloaded a loser.
2006-12-20 06:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's gotten a little cozy. I wonder if this would be different if he weren't living with someone with a full-time job? There are a lot of details about your life that I don't know, and I know this must be frustrating for you. If this were my boyfriend, this is probably what I would do. I would express appreciation for his contribution (even though it is small), but would also express that you feel life would be so much more comfortable for both of you if you both had a full-time income. Also, talk about how you are frustrated...maybe you feel like you are being taken advantage of? Maybe you feel that that he is being just plain lazy? ( I hate that word, but sometimes it rings true.) I don't know how old you are, if you are in school or have careers, how long you've been together etc., but I know that if this were my boyfriend and I, and we hadn't been together too long, it would raise a red flag as far of how ambitious he is. (Does he settle with what he has or is he driven toward wanting better?) It could be too that he is depressed, and with the state of the economy, it really is difficult to find work. I'm not trying to scare you, just throwing out the possibilities. Good luck to you! PS: Maybe he could network through you and your work?
2016-05-23 01:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where is he living? Who is paying for his food? If he is living with you and you are supporting him, he will never find a job. Why should he! Give him a certain length of time to find something, and when the time is up and there's no job, kick him out. You are only enabling him to be a bum.
If he is living somewhere else, and someone else is supporting him, he is a loser anyway. Get rid of him and find someone else who has some ambition.
2006-12-20 06:16:16 · answer #3 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are cutting off sex until he gets a job. And if he doesn't respond at all, cut "it" off!
2006-12-20 06:10:11 · answer #4 · answered by wade b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋