can you relate to my dilema?

Question

Are there any christians out there who truly love God but are struggling in the flesh?
I mean people who are not religious but have a personal realtionship with Christ, you know better but need strength to do better. one can preach and give sciptures as to what to do and not to do...but sometimes if you have never walked in another's shoes you cannot understand the struggles... I'm struggling with the fact that I'm in love with my church brother and we've been intimate for the past 4 months...we plan on getting married but are not yet married. We've known each other for 3 years and the chemistry between us is unbelievable.. we both love God and are trying to do things the right way but we need strength...Anyone who can relate to this???

Answer 1

Of course, you are not the only one. I was in a situation like this and found myself ridden with guilt sometimes.

I would encourage you however, to talk to your fiance' and realizes that tho' God will forgive you, you can not continue to sin and receive God's favor. If you want to keep the intimate part of your relationship in marriage, you need to ask God for the strength to resist the temptation now. It will not be easy, but you will be blessed with a more fulfilling life of intimacy when you two are married.

If he truly is a man of God, you two should both be able to work this out. If you must speed up the wedding date do so....there's nothing wrong with that!!!!

Blessings to you both.

I am a Christian and I struggle daily with one thing or another...this doesn't mean we're defeated....if we didn't struggle at all with these types of conflict, then we would be defeated! We are convicted....there's the difference.

Answer 2

I believe you two are doing the right thing,you are planning on getting married and you both have a good relationship with God and definitly seem to be on the right track..to eventually start a life together and a family. Struggles with the flesh are a hard temptation but we are in the end human,just really pray and ask God for guidance and help with the temptation. Times have changed..you both seem on the right path..everyone has struggles and yes it is hard if they have not walked in your shoes. But my Bishop always says she has been through alot and ministers about her tough times and struggles which makes it easier to talk to her your right because i do feel she understands and been there and done that

Answer 3

YES.
Strength can be recieved by praying together for that strength. You need to try and abstain for some time before you take your vows as sort of a form of "cleansing" before God. I fear that you may have more of a physical rathar than a spiritual relationship. That is dangerous. God needs to truly be Numero Uno and not your co-pilot, but your PILOT. It may be just a matter of priorities which need some tweaking and fine tuning.

Prayer does wonders; so does counseling with your pastor. I would suggest you (the female) counsel with the Pastor's wife (or other female mentor of your church), and he with the Pastor. Pre-maritial counseling is in order. Time to invest some of your time toward this before you say your "I do's". All of your "ducks" need to be "in line" and ready for the very serious, life lasting committment that you are heading into.

Lord Bless!

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Answer 4

I am sorry i can't relate. But I would like to say this! I envy you for your passion & your story is inspiring to me that struggles all the time not only in this matter! So if it helps you at all, know that what you are doing is leading by great example. What you do is what God wanted you to do you show peopel like me that HE is real by simply believing in what HE wants you to do and practicing what HE preaches!
I wish you & yourLove the best!

Answer 5

LOL @ "unbelievable chemistry"......well, of course it's just normal to have struggles and temptations, but you don't need to act on them. If you're planning on getting married anyway, why not wait? If you're trying to do things the right way, keep your legs closed!

Answer 6

I've been through the same thing... With my now husband. It's hard but no matter how much we love god... "whever I go there I am" we cannot escape our flesh. Then best thing to do is stay steadfast in prayer with eachother and draw closer to God. It's tough and it doesn't get easier sorry but the wondeful thing is Jesus died to forgive us. He wants us to love on earth but as long as you keep him first the rest will follow

Answer 7

Sure.

It's hard to do the right thing by the church. It's also unnecessary some times. I don't know if this is one of those times. Seek the council of your Pastor or Priest, but in the end do what you know is right.

I know that's not much help, but it's the best I got.

Answer 8

I was once in that situation, but fortunately, I am now married. It can be really difficult..but if you and your significant other decide to get on the right track and encourage each other, it will work out. Pray about it and you will feel better.

Hope this helps! :-)

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Answer 9

I can relate my flesh is super weak
I have been told not to spend so much alone time and go ahead and get married "it is better to marry than to burn"

Answer 10

Definitely Understand.
Please remember to always keep the relationship with you and GOD number one. He is an understanding God and relates to the worldly issues that go on.
He knows that your relationship is strong with your mate, that you and your mate are commited to him and that you love unconditionally.
Be strong and remember that YOU only have to answer to the LORD... not mankind.
Be Blessed!!