I am 15 and my mom and dad and me have been dealing with my brothers depression for 4 years now and just can't find somthing to help it! He hasen't acted like himself for a real long time he go's to doctors and we have tryed everything I am just wondering what there is left to do?
2006-12-20 05:58:02 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
ummm u can try talking to him yourself mayb talk to his friends try to find out what happend first b4 u can fix it ask if he had a girlfriend or has been maked fun of... anything then try fixing it
2006-12-20 06:00:56 · answer #1 · answered by breanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that depression is a chemical imbalance- it can have psychological causes, but in alot of cases, it dosen't have a cause.
Here's my advice to you from someone who has been depressed- treat him normally, the way you would've 4 years ago. When people started treating me differently, as though I was going to break down every second, thats how i began to feel, and my depression deepened. Medication didn't help. This went on for probally 6-7 years. Then a good friend of mine stepped in and started treating me like a normal human being- calling and asking if i wanted to get coffee, or go for a hike.. the things I used to enjoy. He absolutely refused to take no for an answer. After a while of feeling miserable and out of place at parties,and swearing my medication wasn't working, I started laughing and having fun agian. It wasn't long before I didn't need the medication any more.
So ask your brother to take you to the movies, or the mall, or to go for a walk with you. Make stuff up if you have to, but let him know that you admire him. Ask for help in your classes that you know he did well in. Ask him to go outside and play baseball with you. And don't let up, no matter how many times he says no! Just make him feel good about himself.
Don't focus on his depression- that'll just make it worse. Don't say things like 'I thought this would make you feel better' or 'your acting like your old self agian'. Let the doctors do that. Just relax, and laugh as much as possible.
Let me know how it goes- if you need more advice, or some specific advice, shoot me an e-mail!
2006-12-20 14:17:07 · answer #2 · answered by paintmeblue719 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sadly enough, taking pills doesnt take away the problem.
I have read so much regarding depression and anxiety and the only thing that I have ever seen help anyone is if the depressed person starts exercising and talking about their issues. Exercising really helps, I know it sounds silly but its true it gets out so much aggression, anger and anxiety and then their confidence is also boosted by the physical benefit of looking great. Having healthy happy friends and getting into a hobby is also going to help.
the thing is is that when your being supported in a positive way to do the things you love to do and felt independant your going to feel way less depression.
By treasuring someone and accepting them they way they are your going to make them build up confidence and make them want to live a happier life. I have helped quite a few people and I know its partly medical but its also that people allow themselves to think dark thoughts to long.
Good luck.
2006-12-20 14:07:41 · answer #3 · answered by InProgress:-) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your brother needs to find another doctor. Or your brother could try a naturopath. Usually they get to the root of the problem where other doctors just mask the problem with drugs, which operates as a bandaid and doesn't fix the problem.
Search in your area for a natural doctor and you may just find a solution which improves your quality of family life.
2006-12-20 14:17:17 · answer #4 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have they ever gotten to the root of the depression? Once that is done then it is easier to treat it. Maybe he needs drugs to increase his serotonin. No, taking pills isn't always the answer but sometimes there is a genuine chemical imbalance. But with depression, its kind of hard to treat it if you don't find the root. Being depressed due to low self-esteem will be treated differently than being depressed as a result of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. Hope I helped at least a bit. I'll keep him in my thoughts and prayers.
2006-12-20 14:02:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do fun stuff with him to keep his mind off the things that depress him. Find something that he likes to do, something that makes him happy and let it occupy his time.
I've included a link below that has some suggestions about how to deal with depression.
2006-12-21 02:49:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your family has tried doctors, therapy, meds, etc. and he is still depressed just treat him like a normal person. Do things that interest him. Talk about things other than his depression but pay close attention to his moods. If things continue to get worse you may want to consider in-patient treatment.
2006-12-20 14:13:40 · answer #7 · answered by DL 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try talking to him and find out why he's depressed. Then you can work on the problem.
Let him know that he's not the only one who's got such problems.
2006-12-20 14:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by Nirajan R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋