How do I get my two year old daughter to sleep in her own bed??

Question

Me and my husband are expecting another baby in a few months and I would like to have my daughter sleeping in her own room by the time my new baby arrives. I know it's my fault that I can't get her out of my bed but she was my first child. Believe me I learned my lesson. Never again. Any suggestions. Thanks in advance.

Answer 1

My daughter is also two and just went to her "big girl" bed. We started by taking her crib mattress and putting it in our bedroom next to our bed. It was almost like she was co-sleeping, but not quite. Next we started having her take her naps in her bedroom, but spending her nights in our bedroom. Then we had her fall asleep in her bedroom and still brought her into our bedroom at night. Then she didn't feel like we were abandoning her when she woke up in the middle of the night all alone. Finally we started having her spend the nights in her own room, but let her come into our bedroom whenever she wanted. At this point it took about 3 nights to have her sleeping through the night in her own bed.

I think this was made easier by the fact that we had her take her time, we didn't rush too many things, and she had a full-size bed to move into. So when we started having her take her naps in there we slept with her, or at least got her to sleep before we left.

Since you are expecting a new baby it may be a good idea to just get her out of your bed for now. I hope this helps. Good luck!!!

Answer 2

Make her bed in her room the place she wants to be. Have some stuffed animals and dolls she can sleep with. When you put her in bed, lay with her and read to her. At first you might have to do it until she falls asleep. When she is used to it, you can walk away, but sometimes come back and snuggle a little after a few minutes. So she doesn't feel you won't come back. If she still seems to get lonely, try having a radio playing, or a CD player running. Keep telling her her bed is her "special place". Most importantly, don't give in too easily. Just keep taking her back and reassuring her. And lots and lots of praise when she does stay there. I used to wake up and find my young son had come in during the night hauling his pillow and blanket and he would be next to my bed on the floor. It took awhile, but my staying in his room till he was asleep made a big difference. Sometimes when he had stayed in his room for several days in a row, I would ask him if he wanted to come sleep in our room for a treat. He usually said no - surprise. My guess would be that you cherish her and enjoy her a lot. But are you teaching her to have some alone time? If you don't, she will be miserable when she has to go to school. You don't say if you are a stay-at-home Mom. My daughter is a working Mom and her kids have a tendency to cling and have done the same thing as your little one, wanting to sleep with her. She worked at having some very directed time with each of them just before bed and that helped. Good Luck!

Answer 3

All the advice above is good. I just wanted to add that you need to start taking steps now before the new baby comes...having a new sibling itself can be hard on a little lady and the sooner she forgets that she ever slept in your bed, the better.

I would also recommend not putting the new baby in your room at all (even in a crib or bassinet) simply because your daughter may feel even more rejected...if you have a separate room for the new baby, use it. Just get (or use) a baby monitor for nighttime feedings, etc.

Good luck & Congratulations!!

Answer 4

I was told to never put my daughter in bed with me, I'm so glad I didn't because I keep hearing the stories of people who can't get their child out of their bed, My best friend went through the same thing. She made a little bed beside her bed and told her son that he can sleep in the little bed but he was not allowed in her bed because he was a big boy and big boys had to sleep in their own bed. They did this for a few weeks and then they moved him to his own room. He had trouble for a few nights but he got used to it! Good luck!

Answer 5

For sure you need to stand your ground and be consistent. Ley her know that you are in charge and she needs to sleep in her own bed now. Make it seem like a great thing and give her all the encouragment you can muster up. Call it her "Big Girl Bed" and give her praise when she will lay in it. If that still doesn't work try sitting or laying next to her in or by her bed until she falls asleep she will realize that you are still close and available if she need you. This will comfort her and make her feel secure enough hopefully to sleep in her on bed

Answer 6

The stickers element will no longer paintings for this reason because it happens too far after the form. It has grow to be a practise element and your daughter is now doing this from habit. on an analogous time as you're doing the main suitable issues by utilising taking her directly back, no longer giving interest throughout the time of the episode and so on you are able to desire to take it a step extra and practice her that she shouldn't additionally be leaving the mattress interior the 1st place again and notice you. this is going to leave you certainly shattered for each week or 2 however the quickest thank you to retrain your daughter to stay in mattress you and your husband are going to could desire to take it in turns sitting in her room interior the direction of the night. each and every time she wakes, re-assure her very quietly and gently yet importantly, do no longer enable her leave the mattress (except that's a bathroom pass to). ideally supply her a re-assuring touch in entire silence. After some days or each and every week enable her comprehend interior the day time which you are going to have some jobs to do interior the night so if she wakes and you're lacking it is going to only be for a 2d and you'd be back. That night and for right here couple of, take a seat outdoors her door. as quickly as you pay attention circulate, pass in as in case you have been basically on your way there besides, supply her a sprint in silence or basically enable her see you on an analogous time as you re-tuck her mattress or something and take a seat interior the nook of her room in silence till she sleeps back. progressively she would be able to have the boldness which you're consistently around such that as quickly as she does wake interior the night she would be able to no longer could want again and notice you as she knows you're consistently close and approximately if she desires something. it quite is basically a self assurance and practise element yet i do no longer envy you the technique as you will lose somewhat sleep over each and every week or 2 as you re-practice her. prepared with regard to the ideal interior the long-term however. reliable success.

Answer 7

You just have to put her to bed and keep puting her back to bed until she learns you are not going to let her sleep with you. She will cry but she will learn. Good luck

Answer 8

you have to put her in her room and let her cry it out when she gets out her bed and comes to your you have to put her back in her bed its going to be hard but thats what you have to do I went through it a couple of months ago and it took a little while but now he sleeps in his bed all night good luck

Answer 9

You are going to have a pretty big fight on your hands...stick to your new rules...and you are going to have to put up with a lot of tantrums...but don't give in because you feel bad. Don't make the same mistakes with your second one.

Answer 10

My hubby is the one that got my son sleeping in his own bed.Because when i would do it he would cry.So We decorated his room with Lots of fun stuff like Spiderman-superman-spongeBob,and a t.v with dvd's with his fave cartoons.after 1-2 weeks of my hubby putting him in his bed with his fave cartoon on he would get his blanky himself and watch tv till he fell asleep.Now i can put him myself in bed with no issue.Or no T.v