who refuses to pay you for babysitting? I watched my sister's baby for her while she worked about fifty hours a week. I started watching him in september, and she paid me for the month of september. Watched him again for the month of october. I was trying to help her out, charging her $1/hr for approx 50 hours a week and she was supposed to pay me at the end of the month. She informed me on the last day that I watched him in oct (the day that she was to pay me) that she couldn't pay me right then (didn't make arangements as to when she would be able to pay me) and had never mentioned not being able to pay me until I told her what the total due was. I later that week told her that I would no longer watch her kid. I did this to help her out as well as my family since I am a SAHM with three kids of my own. She told me around thanksgiving, when I called and asked her about it, that she would pay me when she got paid next (she gets paid every other week)
2006-12-20 05:33:43 · 7 answers · asked by bluekitty8098 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
she said she would be able to pay part of it, and I told her that was fine as long as she was making an effort. Now, she hasn't talked to me since that phone call, hasn't paid me a dime and we could really use the money for Christmas. I don't want to call her again because the last time didn't go well, she called me every name in the book, hasn't spoken to me since, and told my husband at boyscouts (our older boys are in scouts together) that she didn't think she should have to pay me because it was my fault that she now has to pay a daycare weekly to watch her kids. Basically, our relationship is ruined because I tried to do a nice thing for her, and she took advantage of me... so in this situation, what would you do?
2006-12-20 05:37:43 · update #1
What really torks me off is she still has enough money to go drinking with her friends, and have a "girls night out" weekly.
2006-12-20 05:39:19 · update #2
She's stiffing You. Confront her and tell her you will not be able to help her out anymore, plus you need the money owed to you.
2006-12-20 05:36:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start off by telling you this story ok...My husbands best friend had a lap top he offered to sell it to us it was only a year old..Well, we pd, him for the laptop plus pd. the shop where he took it to refurbish it, you know to empty it all out and stuff, so all together it cost us 200 dollars, he was suppose to pay us back 100 dollars,,granted hes not family, but he has been my husbands best friend since he was 16 and he is now 38, well he has no kids, lives with his mother, and has no wife, we have our own home and 4 kids..and he has yet to pay us back..With it being christmas time we really could of used the money..I havent been able to work due to the fact i have been ill so we live on my husbands income only which is not much. But we asked one time about it and thats it, I still made him out a christmas card still text him to tell him happy b-day..Because he knows he owes us that money, he knows he is wrong..and now we have no car it broke down, we junked it because it was a 20 yr old car, well so what i am saying is let it go, pick your battles. dont ask her about it no more, because she knows she owes you, and she will owe you it forever...Being good to her and treating her the same will make her feel more guilty then not talking to her..Everything comes back when you do something wrong, and when you do something good..Really think about what i am saying....You are a better person then that or you wouldnt have done that for her, right? But when your behind on a bill, and you just so happen to be talking to her on the phone just say yeah i owe so and so this much and i dont know where i am going to get it, but i will figure something out. BUT dont ask for the money. When my husbands friend seen the car broke down at their work he called and left a voice mail, and he hasnt called in months..." that my dear is guilt" and it will eat her alive...
2006-12-20 08:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by laci 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's your sister. so, i wouldn't let this ruin your relationship. however, now you know that you can't trust her very much. so, i'd remind her again when you know she is getting paid and just offer for her to make payments. like $20 here, $20 there, until she is paid up.
then, don't babysit for her anymore. or try it one more time, but if she stiffs you again then deal is off.
unfortunately, some people think that they can take advantage of family and it's sad. my family are the first people i would never want to rip off!
anywhooo....bottomline, if she can't pay, then don't watch her kid. just don't let it get in between you two. that would be sad.
take care and happy holidays!
EDIT:
i just read your details....
i'd just let it go. i know you need money for x-mas, but it's not worth making the situation worse and making yourself more upset. just let it go and at least now you know what kind of person she is. next time she needs something just tell her you're sorry, but you can't help her since she is a cruddy person.
hopefully, though, someday she will grow up and ask for forgiveness. that is when you should welcome her back into your life with open arms:)
2006-12-20 05:40:12 · answer #3 · answered by joey322 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not watch the kids until she realized that her paying you comes first before things like her cell phone, or cable, or luxuries such as that.
If you weren't there she would have to pay for daycare and they don't let you slack off on the bills.
Keep bugging her about it. How dare your own blood take advantage of you. I would not let it go for anything. I would announce it to everyone at a gathering what she did to you and how you were willing to help her. How else will she learn? Don't let people get away with those things when you can teach them not to do it again.
2006-12-20 05:37:31 · answer #4 · answered by Jon O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you address the issue a different way, stop giving her time. she obviously doesnt have any intention of paying you, any other babysitter would charge around 7 to 8 dollars an hour you only charge 1 dollar and hour. I would explain to her your concerns and let her know you dont want to argue but its not right that she is taking advantage of you. if she refuses to pay you, then cut ties (of babysitting) im not saying from her completely but dont offer to help her anymore if she can clearly afford to pay you then she should.
2006-12-20 05:39:43 · answer #5 · answered by Stargazer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Business, money and family do not mix. I would stop bugging her about the money. She knows she owes you. If she does not come up with the money drop it. But stand on your principles and if she ask for you to do any favors, just say no.
2006-12-20 05:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just call that $50 a lost, hope you learn your lesson
2006-12-20 05:49:13 · answer #7 · answered by san8483 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋