I'm in a long distance relationship. I've met this guy back in October, and we've been talking since. He is interested in me, and is considering on proposing. But recently, I got upset with him not properly answering me about his true feelings, and told him I can not go on like this forever. He agreed and said that he would contact me when he comes up with a decision, and will come over with his parents to finalize things. But at the same time he said we shouldn't talk during the time being. I'm confused, what does that mean? I want to continue talking to this guy because I really like him, and I DON'T WANT TO LOSE HIM. How do I get him back? Should I call him up, e-mail him, text him? Or would I look desperate?
2006-12-20 05:33:37 · 10 answers · asked by Lost 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you never really had him, someone supposedly proposing after 2 months of online chatting is a big red flag and now he is playing games.
Just write this one off, he's not going to be worth all the drama you are setting yourself up for.
2006-12-20 05:35:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think your wrong about the 2 months thing straight up.
maybe something happened earlier before all the drama started? Their always seems to be a reason that something gets drawn out for that long. Men can get thrown off easily by certain happenings and if it went on for 2 months and he was still trying, im just thinkin something must have happened to alter the scene in the first place. make an impression, try calling and if he picks up in the first place then the main question is already awnsered, just step up and tell him how he should have acted properly and then make it simple.
2006-12-20 13:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by flawless 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It just gives me creeps reading your article...I just ended my relationship...which was a long-distance one. Let me tell you something about these things...cause I've been through it. It's very tough to keep someone close when you don't see him, feel him...But it's possible! Marriage...you should really think about this great step and I think it's way too early for this in 2 months... You really need to know each other and to see if this relationship worths the pain. You should have an open conversation with him, don't be affraid to call him, especially if u think he's THE ONE. I think that communication is the key to everything and you need to spend time together to see if real life is resembling virtual one... you might get surprised to see the difference.It depends on him, it depends on you... Just be yourself and don't be affraid and most of all be sure you're making the right decision.
Good luck with this!
2006-12-20 13:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You either realize that he is seeking other options, or you put up with him until he makes a decision. This man has asked you not to call him while he is making this decision. It means he has met someone else and he is trying to decide if he likes her more. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, but you seem like you can't take a hint. You got upset with him because he didn't answer you properly about his feelings. This guy isn't into you like you think he is. I wish you the best of luck, but I doubt you are going to end up with him. Good luck.
2006-12-20 13:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be reasonable with him, tell him that you were a little upset and was under presure, (if that is how you felt) let him know that you love him and you don't want to lose him and tell him that you have all the time in theworld for him. If you love him and he loves you back then both of you should be all understandable with each other. If he doesn't except you for being you and gives yoou respect for you calling him and telling him how him how you fell then it is probably better of that you wait. I guess it is up to you on how you feel about him.
2006-12-20 13:46:08 · answer #5 · answered by Country Girl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he says you shouldn't talk while he's making up his mind, then you need to make up yours and MOVE ON! This guy is a jerk because he is expecting you to sit around waiting on his a$$ while he is out there doing whatever he wants - and probably laughing about keeping you on a string to his buddies. If he had good character (and true feelings for you) he wouldn't treat you this way. You should text him and tell him that you have decided to give your feelings to someone who deserves them and he has lost out on being that person.
2006-12-20 13:47:29 · answer #6 · answered by Tina R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long it's benn
1 you can't rush boys sometimes it's hard for them to express their feelings
2 when did it happen
- 1 week - if so then you just need to wait a while
- 2 weeks- if so then you need to call and tell him it doesn't matter if he can say that he is in love or not. All that really matters is that you know that he loves
2006-12-20 13:44:10 · answer #7 · answered by Daniela15 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forget about him! He is playing you. Nobody proposes after 2 months with good intentions. He is not worth the energy you are wasting on him.
2006-12-20 13:41:39 · answer #8 · answered by mama3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can understand wht u r going thru rite now..coz i`ve also come across this situation.do u really think he loves u .i mean its so unlike gals to take the initiative.but then acceptable but hes not supposed to hang u like this till he makes decision.how can he live without talking to u..why is he not pining nd worrying like u at this point of time..nooo just wait if he loves u he`l come back..
else goahead nd talk to him n let him know wht u r feeling so tht he can understand u nd ua love nd u never know may be this behaviour of urs can help him to take his final decision..byeee take care ..cheer up if he`s in ua destiny he`l come to u crawling on his knees!!!!
2006-12-20 13:44:29 · answer #9 · answered by Momma of Esa 05/03/10 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are way passed the point of desperation, sweetie!!!
Plus, this guy seems like a real gem!!!!
Besides that, I'm kinda' speechless, here......................
Mr Happy
:o)
2006-12-20 13:43:21 · answer #10 · answered by hagtagg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋