The Bible says if we don't forgive others he will not forgive us. So does this mean, that if someone has more to forgive than most, does God give them more understanding and patience, or does he judge them the same as someone who has endured little, with only one person to forgive? How can a person with more to forgive find it easier to understand this if they are not given more patience. For instance, some people who have been abused for years by several people, and it might take them longer than someone who just has to forgive a friend who betrayed them once. Does God not see a difference?
2006-12-20 05:28:21 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
This question is concerning the abused person who has difficulty forgiving multiple abusers. Will God not forgive them until they are able to forgive? Does Got not judge the amount to be forgiven when judging people?
2006-12-20 05:36:47 · update #1
God will judge all
2006-12-20 05:31:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You hit a note there!
Abuse is too terrible on the human mind, and expecting the abused to forgive is tough for us because we feel as all humans feel. We emote, we act out, we suffer.
God sees all and knows all, yet He said we must forgive. I always found this impossible but, with time and growing and learning and understanding, I have come to realise what He meant.
He knows we will not forget the act(s) committed against us in our physical state since we are sane and very much aware of our own existence but, He said we should make that decision to forgive - not for the benefit of the abuser - but for our own benefit - so that He can move us on to better places and bless us in ways we never even dreamed possible.
I never could see the logic because pain hurts and it is natural to want to retaliate in kind. BUT, God said when we choose to take care of the problem ourselves, we preclude His intervention on our behalf. Yes, we may get some satisfaction, but not the kind of reward He wants to give us. We shortchange ourselves, because we cannot get it exactly right as He can.
The thing about all this is that while we are grinding our teeth for years and years, the abuser is having a happy time. So, I suppose God is quite right. There is a saying, "Let go and let God!"
It is not that He is insensitive and cares little for our distress, He wants us to be the bigger person, let the fool go so He can take care of it for us. He wants to take care of us, that's all!
2006-12-20 05:47:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably will take longer for an abused person to resolve the issue enough to completely forgive the abuser. However, one must understand that as long as you hold onto the feelings of anger and hurt, you continue to allow the abuser to control your emotions if nothing else. In order to take control of your life, you need to forgive and move on. And I believe God would understand, but he would want you to forgive the other person too.
2006-12-20 05:32:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I believe each person's trials are for them alone. God states in the bible that he will never give us more than we can handle, and he always provides the peace that passes understanding (meaning, we can endure all things because we know that there is joy on the other end).
However, I believe just as people have more talents like singing/dancing/teaching... others have more patience/love/understanding/forgivness.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-20 05:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by Soon2BMommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have more to forgive, He forgives more. But you must also forgive people who sin against you. God sees the difference. Remember you were planned, everything in your life has happened to shape the person you are. He knows you better than you know yourself. Time and the love of God heals all wounds. Blessings to you.
2006-12-20 05:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a missing piece to the stated situation. That is, the abuser or perpetrator must sincerely ASK for forgiveness. Under those circumstances, one is required to forgive. If not, the victim is under no such mandate, but, if in time, the victim can bring themselves to forgive without being asked, that is God-Like quality.
2006-12-20 05:34:31 · answer #6 · answered by mzJakes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does not judge. God loves every single conscious manifestation of His/Her Divinity with the same infinite Love. It's up to us to learn how to love each other the same way God loves us. When we learn this and find our path back to God, all is forgiven.
2006-12-20 05:33:18 · answer #7 · answered by Elmer R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have suffered from extreme abuse by my father, it took years to forgive, but I have. Jesus will give us the strength to do this. I think He helps us out more, but we're still to forgive.
2006-12-20 05:32:33 · answer #8 · answered by Jesus junkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am going to offer this my perfect shot with the most objective on the favor for a blood sacrifice. at the same time as Adam and Eve disobeyed God contained in the backyard of Eden (unique sin), with the thoughts of the Serpent (devil) they succumbed to both a actual lack of lifestyles and a non secular lack of lifestyles. It develop into devil, the serpent that first bridged the divide between non secular to the actual, therefore the sin ended in both a non secular and actual lack of lifestyles. for this reason, as a fashion to fix this hollow, a divine being could take actual style and this develop into Jesus Christ. Christ, a divine being in human style, served as this blood sacrifice conquering lack of lifestyles and providing those that believe with eternal lifestyles. the answer to Why did he attempt it is modern in John 3:16 "For God so loved the international that he gave his in effortless words begotten Son". we are God's creation, and that i do no longer learn about you yet you adore and safeguard those issues that you created.
2016-11-27 23:12:19 · answer #9 · answered by wiltshire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is understanding! God wants us to rely on him to help us to forgive. He helped me forgive someone I couldn't. I said, I know i'm to forgive, i can't do it, I've tried, you do it for me. I wasn't mad anymore...amazing.
Read about Corrie Tenboom-great women who helped jews in WW2! She had a hard time forgiving and God helped her. Amazing women, amazing story.
2006-12-20 05:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Jeanmarie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why we can never judge others intentions or heart. I can state that these actions are sinful, but I can never state that my brother heart is sinful or that I know he is going to hell on the next flight!
2006-12-20 05:32:13 · answer #11 · answered by Lives7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋