i dated my ex for 3yr 10mo and then i broke up with her to see if i really wanted to be in a relationship. (we were talkin bout movin in possibly getting married). So during the break i hung out with a girl named mel that was total ***** and a gold digger. My ex thinks we had a thing but really we didn't. We actually ended up hating eachother. And for some weird reason she thinks that on our break i was out hooking up with all these other girls which is false. I was only hooking up with my ex when we were on a break. Prob not a good idea, but whats done is done. How do i get her to trust me again. I cheated when we were first going out, but i was 17 so it was diff. Every since then we had good communication and we trusted eachother. Advice please.......
2006-12-20 05:24:02 · 6 answers · asked by Bman 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First you know what she likes, so what you need to do is to make her feel like you made her feel in highschool when you were 17. Also you could try to bring her flowers. that's always a given. Also girls love the Romeo type guy so do something out of teh ordinary. As if you were Romeo. Also don't go to overboard in trying to get her back because she'll think you're obsessed, or a stalker. (A good piece of advice for you is DON'T CHEAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-20 05:30:15 · answer #1 · answered by Daniela15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You f**ked up real bad and now you have to pay the price, its hard to hear but she may never take you back again. However, there is hope of gaining her back- you have to prove that she can trust you. You know her more than I do, you gotta figure out which way to earn that trust back. She may be a believer that since you cheated before you'll do it again and that makes it not worth it, besides- if you really loved her and wanted to stay with her then you should not have questioned leaving; you would have know she was for oou and been there, but instead you up and left which made her question/doubt your relationship too. if she was the one you wanted to be with then you wouldn't have been scared about anything together in your future but confident. Accept you screwed up and then, if she is worth it, in a way you'll grovel your way back to her an convince her to give you a second chance...maybe...Good luck...
2006-12-20 13:41:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You broke up with her for a reason. There isn't enough substance in your realtionship to keep you together. You both sound fairly immature; trust, forgiveness and communication comes with wisdom and experience - perhaps you both need more time, and more relationship experience, to figure out what is it that you want at the end. She is not the last girl you will ever meet - move on, and chalk this one up to experience.
2006-12-20 13:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it takes time to regain trust. My mum cheated on my dad, and at first, the best you can hope for is if you start grovelling, and work your way up to trust. If you're really determined and dedicated, you might yjust get her trust, but if you aren't really bothered and don't put the effort in, you'll end up worse than when you started.
2006-12-20 13:35:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All what you can do to gain her trust back is to be worthy of her trust.You love and care a lot about her.Stand by her whenever she needs you.Just be determined to keep this relationship with her.Your actions will speak louder than words.Be compassionate and prove that you can be trusted again.Try to talk to her as often as you can and spend time with her.
Remember,Only your love,care and affection can draw her towards you.
2006-12-20 13:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Sheeth 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you just told us and i would take you back
2006-12-20 13:28:11 · answer #6 · answered by im always right 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋