They don't want to do anything! They haven't even gotten fitted yet and the wedding is in May! Help!
2006-12-20 05:08:12 · 13 answers · asked by tenieweny00 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
gather all of their email adresses and make a "wedding newsletter"
make a list of things that have to happen and have a list of important numbers and adresses, as well as a time table.
For example:
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Ladies,
The big day is comming! We are 5 months out and I'm so excited and honored by your presence on our big day.
As a reminder, the bridemaids dresses need to be fitted NLT than March 07 to make sure that all teh alterations are done on time. I want each one of you to look beautiful and be confortable with teh dresses and llook stunning walkind down the aisle.
Pauklona's Bridal is open MON-SAT from 1030 to 1900. You can walk in or make an appoitment. they are located at 455 X street, in the mini-mall. Let me know if I you need directions.
I would like for all my bridemaids to wear X style of shoes ann jewelry. Please let me know if yoru would like to join me in my Beauty salon . If you do, please let me know so appoitments for you can be set. If you will do your ow hair and make that is fine, you are all beautiful anyway
Also, the wedding rehearsal will be set on the Prebiterial Chuch on Friday 8 of May at 1800. I would like the privilege of your timely attendance. Please wear the shoes that you are going to wear to make sure that you are confortable.
Once the rehearsal is done, the bridal party would be honored at the rehearsal dinner to show our gratitude for all that you do. More details about the reherasal dinner will be sent out as they come.
I'm looking forward to my wedding and also my bachelorette party... any ideas? Let me know.
To conclude, here is a list of all our phone numbers and emails so we can communicate with each other.
thank you so much
The Bride
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I hope this helps
Congrats and good luck
2006-12-20 05:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, first and foremost, I strongly suggest you chill. It is the holiday period and although your wedding day is the most important day in YOUR life, it is not so for others. Even your nearest and dearest will look at the dates and decide action is needed for the holiday season now, whereas, May is a very long time in the future. (Yes, I know, in terms of planning a wedding it is not, however, you are the only one planning the wedding - they are planning the menu for the dinners they are all making next week!)
So, wait until after the first of the year and then ramp up the wedding activity with a special get together for your team. Communicate your wants and desires and ask for help on creating your day to remember. People want to help - well, most of 'em do, anyway. If you can motivate them to contribute - and I know you can, you will have a day to surpass all of your wildest dreams. So, my unknown friend, chill and enjoy the holidays. Your time starts soon after the first of the year. OK?
2006-12-20 05:30:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's a week before Christmas - and your wedding is not for another 5 months. Wait till after the holidays and don't worry. I had a May wedding and only got the dresses 2 weeks before. Not that I'm recommending that, lol - I'm just saying, you have time, and your girls have a lot of events/expenses right now. Wait until after the holidays and you are more likely to find them ready and willing to get involved.
2006-12-20 12:26:28 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May is still quite awhile away, even though you are fitting dresses.
Maybe you should ask yourself a few questions:
1. do these girls have a lot going on in their lives?
2. how much am I expecting from them? (a lot of brides expect their bridesmaids lives to stop for the wedding)
3. how much are the dresses? (they might be way out of budget)
4. am I stressing too much?
After the holidays, plan a nice day together. Take them out for a mutually convienent date for lunch and fittings, as well as gossip and fun. And remember... they are not your servants, they are your friends. Remember this, and they will remain so.
2006-12-20 05:50:45 · answer #4 · answered by shaclare 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For starters, relax..May is a few months away yet...it's not really smart to get fitted during the holidays don't you know people pig out during the holidays, now if it gets to the end of February then I'd worry if they are not getting the dresses fitted. Why not take a wedding break and enjoy Christmas.
2006-12-20 06:55:37 · answer #5 · answered by Kitikat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My sister got all her bridesmaids and mom together for a weekend rented a hotel with a pool and made an appointment so we could all do our fittings one afternoon, shop for the bridal shower after, and then went out to dinner. We got a lot accomplished in that one weekend.
Maybe you should have a talk with your maid of honor or your mother and see if you can get some help getting them together and find someone to lead them. You have enough to do.
2006-12-20 05:21:18 · answer #6 · answered by ecogeek4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The wedding is still far away! Do you have your dresses picked out (for them)? If so send them an email/call and let them know it is imperative that they get fitted (for your peace of mind). However do not turn into Bridezilla. NO bridesmaid likes that.
I am sure they will understand where you are coming from!
2006-12-20 05:28:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer without knowing how old you are, if they have jobs, kids, how close you are to them, how many, etc. Some brides pick a bunch of woman they aren't close to because they want a line of matching girls. Some women choose only 1-2 very close friends. You need to communicate with them - but it's a little much to expect their attention right now- wait until after the holidays.
2006-12-20 05:10:53 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to put your foot down and tell them this is your wedding and if they want to be in it they need to go and get their dresses fitted and help you out. Mostly it's the maid of honor that's suppose to be by your side all the time. You just have to put your foot down girl.
2006-12-20 08:56:34 · answer #9 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let them know if they are not yet married that Karma can come back at them if they do not what is required of a bridesmaid and remind them of the commitment of being a bridesmaid and to please do you the favor of helping you make this a day to remember fondly
2006-12-20 08:44:40 · answer #10 · answered by bright eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋