We have been togeather for 4 years we have lived togeather for 1 1/2 years and recently bought a condo togeather. I am still totally in love with him, and i could no even imagine one day with out him. We used to have sex and fool around all the time, our sex life was great. About six months ago it took a durastic down fall, and now its been 4 weeks since we've even touched eachother, his attitude has not changed, he is still very nice and sweet to me. And I have tried several times at night when we are in bed to try to get some, but he turns me down. When we started dating I only weighed 100 lbs, i then gained 40 lbs, and just recently lost 15, I am and never have been fat by any means, but I can't help but think that the sudden drought in your sex life is cause by that, he tells me everyday how beautiful I am, what do you think??
2006-12-20 04:56:26 · 8 answers · asked by *STAR* 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OH and i know hes not cheating on me, I know that sounds nieve, but hes not, he works all day for my uncle, then he comes home to me, and when he does go out he calls me, or i end up meeting up with him at the bar or where ever he is at, so no he is not getting it from some where else!
2006-12-20 05:03:41 · update #1
I am 21 he is 24, I am 5ft tall, he is not cheating on me!!! I am 1 million percent positive of that!
2006-12-20 05:10:06 · update #2
My brother is his best friend so 90% of the time when he is not w/ me he is with him. and my brother is very protective over me,
2006-12-20 05:10:58 · update #3
Everyone keeps saying things about going to the doctor, I had cervical cancer almost 2 years ago, and i have to go to the doctor every 3 months, for a pap and they give me an std test and i was just there a week ago, and as usuall it came up negative!!
2006-12-20 05:12:37 · update #4
I think you 2 need to sit down and have a chat. Mabye go out for a nice dinner , some wine ....and have a heart to heart talk and find out what is going on. Be ware you might not like his answers, but remember at least his is telling the truth.(we hope)
2006-12-20 05:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by terri2003anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello Dear...:)
Well, men tend to get into a "rut" of feeling secure and comfortable in a relationship. Since we are really lazy dogs at heart, we tend to do as little as possible to maintain that relationship, and still get all of the love, attention, and support we need.
Some of us (myself included) need occasional reminders (up to and including a smack with a 2X4 up side the head) that we are doing this, because from our end, everything is going just great (since we are getting everything WE need out of the relationship)....
Try talking to him, seriously about this, and do mention that this is not the way you intend to spend the rest of your life. If he doesn't want to step up and provide you with what YOU need, you are prepared to leave him.
That should do the trick. If not, then actually leave, if only for a little while.
Sometimes a wake-up call is needed, and sometimes, a wake-up call needs to be somewhat, well, shocking in nature.
Namaste,
--Tom
2006-12-20 13:02:09 · answer #2 · answered by glassnegman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok Hun, you need to talk to him. If he is your Fiance and you cannot be open about a conversation like that, than there is something wrong.
You guys have been together for four years, you guys should be open and honest with one another. Talk to him.
Tell him baby you know what, we havnt made love in a while is everything ok?
Tell him why he doesnt want to have sex.
Ask him if everything is OK outside of your lives, work, friends...
Talk to him, It is very important to have an open communication with your spouse, that is the best advice I can give you.
Its ok hun, if you talk to him about it than you will actually relax and find out whats going through his head. Your stressed right now and you want to know why you guys have not had sex, and the only way to find out, is just talk to him.
Good luck to you and Congradulations!
Wish you guys the best, Merry Christmas, and Happy New YeaR!
2006-12-20 13:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Happily Married 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i doubt very much that your weight has anything to do with it.
most relationships go through patches such as these.
you should both sit down and talk this through, ask him if anything is worrying him, maybe hes thinking the same?
tell him your concerns and how upset you are.
then when you've talked it through start thinking up some fantastic ideas to spice up your sex life!!
2006-12-20 13:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by mowgligurl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems strange...have you asked him about it? Maybe he's having prostate problems?
The worst case scenario is he's getting it somewhere else, because I have it on good authority that guys simply do not go that long without sex..
2006-12-20 12:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by Haven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ain't you lady. It is his problem, but it could be just about anything. He is stressed. He is spooked about something. He is having an affair. He did have an affair and is wondering if he caught something and doesn't want to give it to you. Talk to him. See what comes up.
2006-12-20 13:05:02 · answer #6 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him and ask him honestly if it is your weight that is turning him off. If it isn't, then there has to be another reason...maybe it's gotten boring for him?
2006-12-20 13:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by Mintygoodness1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You mention nothing about your ages........Your height.....
His schedule.........Does he have male friends? Or the last time he's been to see a doctor.
2006-12-20 13:06:05 · answer #8 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋