I am wondering how you handle people who fail to respond to invitations, when on the invitation it clearly asks for the recepient to respond. Should these people automatically be included in preparations or should I call and ask these people if they will be attending, or just not include them in preparations and if they show up then to bad. I don't want to handle this the wrong way but feel that the reciepents should take some of the responsibility.
2006-12-20 04:42:24 · 15 answers · asked by walknred 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Many people don't respond to invitations. You will have to call those who have not responded yet and get a definate yes or no from them. That is just how many people are. Although it is frustrating, grin, bear it and start making those calls.
2006-12-20 04:47:18 · answer #1 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to give a call to those people who haven't respond a week or two before the event, because sometimes people do just forget. Otherwise, anyone who fails to respond should be excluded. You're not being rude at all. I usually plan for a few extra people anyway, just to make sure everyone gets plenty of food plus a couple of stragglers who tag along. But otherwise, you should not feel bad about excluding anyone. It's rude for your guests not to respond.
Some of my friends are flaky too, and fail to respond. Sometimes, I let people know on the invitation (I like using evite.com for reminders as well) that "I'm sorry but late-replies and no-replies cannot be honored."
2006-12-20 07:27:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you sent out invitations and requested an R.S.V.P. then it is up to them to give you a call or acknowledgement of their attendance. If they fail to call, then you should not include them in your preperations. If they do show up, tell them that since you didn't receive a call you didn't order enough food and unfortunately they cannot attend. You are right- it is your invitation recepients to take some responsibility and show common courtesy.
2006-12-20 05:18:18 · answer #3 · answered by Manny P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Miss Manners has answered this one many times. When someone shows up you are free to tell them "Oh dear, I am so sorry, but I did not know you were coming, and I don't have enough food and drink for everyone" and turn them away.
Should you not want to turn them away, you can apologize profusely with the same statement and make a display of setting another place for them at the table until you are sure they have gotten the message and are confident they will remember this next time you invite them.
Personally I always assume there will be extras showing up (with guests) and prepare for this. Should I be mistaken there are extra leftovers for me the next day when I am exhausted and don't want to cook!
2006-12-20 05:06:22 · answer #4 · answered by NightBear01 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would assume that they are not coming, but have extra food/beverage out just in case. We recently had a party and those who did not RSVP did not come. The great thing is that you can save money on the postage for the invitation next time when you don't invite them again. Not RSVP'ing is pretty bad but not always their fault. Sometimes people just get busy but it does show you also what kind of person they are. So, just put that in your file cabinet and think of it for next time when you are making invitations out your next blow out bash. One exception is family. You do have to keep inviting family members who don't rsvp to save the peace.
Wishing you a wonderful holiday party!
2006-12-20 05:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by yuppiemommy 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i love Dolly's reaction, except that i imagine that is a lot too close now to the extremely date of the shape. Her reported wording for an e mail will be *proper* for sending out to non-responders and "maybes" a week *beforehand* the RSVP cut-off date. yet at this late date, lengthy gone the RSVP cut-off date, you extremely do favor to furnish very last numbers to the position you've booked. i'd be tempted to anticipate they are not coming, except then you run the probability of them showing up besides, with not sufficient places for them to sit down and probably not sufficient nutrition. interior the same position you're (except it replaced into for her wedding ceremony), my cousin very last 3 hundred and sixty 5 days had no time nor inclination to telephone those who hadn't RSVP'd with the help of the cut-off date. She waited one extra week (in case the numerous playing cards were given tripped up interior the mails). She then despatched out an e mail to the non-responders that study: "basically wanted to say we are sorry you may't make it to our wedding ceremony, yet we are going to be confident to percentage photos with you afterwards. superb to you, 'Rachel and Jacob' " She as we talk heard from numerous invitees who insisted they were coming, yet they lost the answer Card, or their canines ate it, or any kind of alternative (lame) excuses. besides, that e mail gave the bride her very last count number. that is a pity that human beings are so impolite about RSVP's lately. yet, i don't think of that's good for you or the different host to ought to bypass to severe lengths to music down those who were honoured to be invited interior the first position. good success, and satisfied Anniversary!
2016-12-01 00:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What I do is call them and say something like: I am making the final arrangements for the party, ordering food and such and was wondering if you will be able to attend? You did get my invitation, didn't you?
Usually, it's because they forgot to respond.
2006-12-20 04:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Jane 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've been on both ends of this. Yes, I forget to respond occasionally. If I'm not going, I always call right away. But sometimes I'm waiting for the right time to call to say yes, and then I forget. I feel that if you are spending $ on an event, you might just pick up the phone and give a call to someone you haven't heard from. Someone did this to me and I was very grateful.... And embarrassed....but greatful.
2006-12-20 04:49:02 · answer #8 · answered by ankle biter tamer 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Give them a coutesy call and let them know that if they do not let you know withing a certain number of days you will assume they are not coming. And also make a note that you will only be making enough food for those that have rsvped.
2006-12-20 05:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by prettyblueeyes101010 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
personally i would exclude them from the preparations if they didn't rsvp....if they showed up without an rsvp i guess i'd say something like "it's nice to see you....i wasn't expecting you since you didn't rsvp.....there might be enough extra (food, etc) to accomodate you though".....
it's incredibly rude not to respond and then to show up....you might be better off without these types of people in your life altogether
2006-12-20 04:46:34 · answer #10 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋