I gave birth on 8/25/2006 and I feel terrible I am very moody, I sleep all day while the kids are at school its like a have an exterme lack of motivation to anything. I need a job and I know this but I am too lazy to go out and get one. My kids Christmas is definetly not going to be like the ones they're used to. I feel awful when I do try to get some rest at night I wind up waking up and staying up all night til the wee hours of the morning. I think I am depressed but I am not sure. The littlest things irritate me my kids get on my nerves so I snap at them it like I dont have patience and thats not me. I also hate the rundown feeling that I have no energy at all this not me I want to get back to my normal self so me and my children can be happy. I hate the person that I am right now and I so desperately want to change for the better for the children because they deserve more than what I am giving right now I am just an overwhelmed single mom what do I do?
2006-12-20 04:31:09 · 13 answers · asked by yousexythangyou 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Oh Baby Girl,
I am so sorry for what you are going through... You may have still some postpartum... but it may have rolled into fatigue and low iron. It could also be diabetes...
I would see a doctor if you are able to... even if you don't feel like it! Just make yourself go or have someone take you! It is for the good of your well being.
Women's bodies are constantly changing... and you just need to figure out what your body needs.
Don't wait any longer, Please call your doctor... I will pray for you... I will ask the Lord to make known to you what it is you need!
God Bless you and your babies....
2006-12-20 04:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by Esther J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you may have some form of depression, whether it's influenced by hormones or not, I'm not sure. Sounds like you have more than one child, and you're also a single mom - I think anyone would be overwhelmed.
Do you have a history of depression at any time? Have you ever been on medication? Were you depressed or feeling this way after the births of your other children? In my opinion you need to get some support and some help? Do you have family, friends, neighbors that can help?
Make an appt with the doctor to see about some medication, and a therapist if you need to talk. If money or insurance is a problem, you can at least see your OB/GYN for a referral, if you mention the words "postpartum depression" they will take it seriously
2006-12-20 04:37:53 · answer #2 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with anything contact your primary care physician or ob/gyn is the most effective thing you could do at a time like this.
The diagnostic criteria for postpartum depression (PPD) are the same as for major depression, except that to distinguish PPD from the mild, transitory baby (maternity) blues, the symptoms must be present one month postpartum. Depression can also occur during pregnancy (ante-natal depression). Postpartum depression may occur up to one year after childbirth. PPD ranges from mild to suicidal.
5 or more of these symptoms for at least a 2 week period;
Feelings of overwhelming sadness and/or fear, or the seeming inability to feel emotion (emptiness).
A decrease in the amount of interest or pleasure in all, or almost all, daily activities.
Changing appetite and marked weight gain or loss.
Disturbed sleep patterns, such as insomnia, loss of REM sleep, or excessive sleep (Hypersomnia).
Psychomotor agitation or retardation nearly every day.
Fatigue, mental or physical, also loss of energy.
Intense feelings of guilt, helplessness, hopelessness, worthlessness, isolation/loneliness and/or anxiety.
Trouble concentrating, keeping focus or making decisions or a generalized slowing and obtunding of cognition, including memory.
Recurrent thoughts of death (not just fear of dying), desire to just "lay down and die" or "stop breathing", recurrent suicidal ideation without a specific plan, or a suicide attempt or a specific plan for committing suicide.
Feeling and/or fear of being abandoned by those close to one.
2006-12-20 04:45:45 · answer #3 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like stress then postpartum depression. Or, it could be both. You're not lazy, so don't be so hard on yourself. What you are going through is harder than the average new mom. Being a single mom with young children and giving birth to a new little one is about the hardest thing for the average woman to endure. See your Dr. and tell him of your symptoms. Vitamins will help you tremendously, and maybe your Dr. will prescribe tranquilizers (temporarily) to help you through the rough spots. Good luck mom, my prayers are with you.
2006-12-20 04:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Vida 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to be having a bit of Postpartum it's usually natural but if you feel like it is getting out of control you do need to see your doctor I had it and didn't seem to think it was that bad until my est friends dad said I sounded so depressed over the phone.My doctor prescribed me a anti-depressive called Welbrution and it worked it also helped me quit smoking not that you have that problem or anything but sometimes when it doesn't seem like you cant take it you may need to see your doctor all he will do is give you this test to take ad walk out of the room that way it is confidential and then he will go over it and tell you what he thinks you should do.
2006-12-20 05:55:14 · answer #5 · answered by Whitney Hixon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound pretty depressed to me and if you have a little baby and your slapping him/her you need to get off the couch and go see a doctor today! You can leave a permant scar in your kids memory if you continue to let this go. You will only get worse and worse and if your a single parent with no job I can see why you would be depressed. Medication can help with this but getting up and doing something can work wonders as well. I was depressed for 2 years and took all kinds of meds for it but as soon as I got a job I felt better instantly. Please for the sake of your kids and your health go do something!!
2006-12-20 04:42:07 · answer #6 · answered by freakyallweeky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see your doctor. Sounds like postpartum depression to me. They can put you on pills and they help TREMENDOUSLY!!! Try paxil (if the doctor says OK). It works extremely fast. Not completely until a month but you feel the effects sooner. I love it. I had the same thing with my second and have been on them ever since. ( I have a history of bipolar in the family so you may not need them forever.) Good luck
2006-12-20 04:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Always Right 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is not your norm, PLEASE go see your Dr. They can help you. Don't wait another minute. And remember that every one reacts differently to the meds. If you don't get a good amount of relief from your symptoms with in a couple of weeks, go back to your Dr. and try something else. Don't give up. You and your children deserve the "old" you!!!
Merry Christmas and Happy New Year
2006-12-20 04:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by ArkiePeg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds very much like PPD(post partum depression). You should see your ob/gyn and get support. A great site is the ppdsupportpage.com. There are moms who have been there and know what you are going through. You have a lot on your plate being a single mom. Good luck and God bless!
2006-12-20 04:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by : ) 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sad that you are depressed. Yes I would say that that is pospartum depression. I have dealt with depression for most of my life, so I understand how hard it is to live with. Talk to your doctor, they can definatly help, but remember to mention that it is pospartum depression so that if they give you something for it, it will be safe for you to take. Congradulations on your new baby! And try your hardest to see the good things in life!
Angey
2006-12-20 04:55:01 · answer #10 · answered by Angey L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋