Making cats loveable??

Question

We have 3 black 2 year old cats. We love them. But they are not lap kittys. Two years ago we lost 2 lap kittys that we loved, then replaced them with the ones we have now, but these ones just come in to eat,sleep and they fight alot with each other. They don't like to be held at all, and my kids want to hold them. I will not get rid of them, but my question is " Is there anything I can do to calm down my kitty's, make them more loveable lap kitty's, any herbs, treatment?? Yes they are fixed with all there shots, No I will not make them fulltime indoor cats. No rude commets please..

Answer 1

At 2 years cats are still full of energy and haven't quite got the lazy lie around the house thing down yet. What I have done with mine (5 of them) is to snuggle on the couch while watching a movie with a blanket. It takes about 10 minutes and I will start having them come lie on the blanket with me. The might start at the foot but if you leave them alone they might wind up under the blanket, curled up next to you. Now when I sit down I have three of the larger ones fighting to lie on me. Not to bad except they are about 12, 18 and 25 pounds. Not fat, just big cats. When they all lie on me they almost out weigh me. (I weigh in at just over 100 pounds and their combined weight is 71).

Answer 2

Well, from what I've read, all cats' temperaments are different and the ones you have now may never be "lap cats". I know that you can slowly get them to "tolerate" petting and things but I don't know that they will ever like it. I am going through just the opposite. I had a very independent kitty who just wanted a quick pat on the head once in a while and then wanted to do her own thing and be left alone, which suited me just fine....she was killed, and I eventually got a new kitty. This one has to be in my lap non-stop....I can't seem to get her to stay off of me, even when I'm trying to eat supper! She's about to drive me nuts! So, I think that just like us, every cat has it's own personality and likes and dislikes and we just have to love them the way they are.

Answer 3

Sounds like they're partly feral. The only way to get them to be more "lovable" is to get them accustomed to more human contact. There are two options that I see, one will work quickly but require more from you, the other more slowly but might be more acceptable to you.

1) Fast way: Bring these cats indoors fulltime TEMPORARILY. Bring them in for a couple weeks. This will serve a few purposes. It'll get them accustomed to people more (more "lovable" as you put it), and it'll also form a bond between the cats so they won't fight as much. Of course, they'll be unhappy for the first few days, with each other and with you. That's to be expected but the lifetime benefits are very much worth a few days of discomfort.

2) Slow way: Keep the cats inside for several hours each day (after breakfast, perhaps, but not during their usual sleep time). This won't work quite as well simply because they won't have the time to get bored -- and turn to you and your family for entertainment. But, they'll still get a bit more accustomed to you and should eventually come around.

Whatever method you choose, find a treat that the cats really love (a bit of raw hamburger, or cheese, works wonders with my cat) and only give it to them in person. If they won't take it from your hands, you can start out by putting it down then sitting quietly nearby -- but you should quickly change it to only from your hands. When you leave, you take any uneaten treat with you. The cats should learn to associate you with something nice that they really like.

There's no herb or medicine to make your cats like people and attention. I suppose you could give them a sedative so that they don't run away, but is that the kind of "love" you really want?

Good luck!

Answer 4

I know what it's like to lose a kitty and get a new one. Comparisons will drive you mad at first but you learn to let go and move on. Instead of looking at the bad, focus on the good. Spend time feeding, grooming and playing with your new cats and see what it is that you love about them that makes them unique.

Perhaps someday as the cats age they may come to appreciate a warm loving lap. All you have to do is make sure if that day does come, you have one ready for them. What I mean is, just love your cats for who they are and if they have any lap cat potential you may bring it out. But don't get your hopes up either. It's up to your cats to decide what they feel comfortable doing.

Answer 5

Patience. I have a cat that was the same way until she was about 3 1/2 yrs old. Now she is always in my lap or cuddled up to me. You just have to wait for them to calm down a little, they are still young and bundles of energy.

Answer 6

I'm so sorry to hear about your other kitties.

Now, some cats will never want to be held and cuddled no matter what. But you might try catnip. Or you might be better off finding a third cat that is willing to be a lap kitty.

Good luck.

Answer 7

Any activity you would like to do with a cat must be started right off the start. If cats are not held a lot when they are young kittens, they will not tolerate it when they get older. That's just the way it is. You may as well accept it and continue to be their devoted servant and expect no reward.

Answer 8

Spaying them seems to cause them to calmer. that's great which you stepped as much as have her fixed. If she has been an outdoors kitty, she may well be a sprint skiddish for somewhat a while. She won't be used to human touch. i could save her indoors and properly entertained with toys & such. This creates an incredible bond between the two one among you. She could at last start to sense extra delicate to prefer again closer & commence sitting on your lap. as quickly as you notice she is getting use to you, attempt brushing her. They certainly love this. Treats each and every now & then is great too. whilst feeding time, place her nutrition down & stroke her on an analogous time as she's ingesting. wait and notice and be continual.

Answer 9

Every cat is different, and I'm sorry to say, you cannot change a cat's behavior from independent to lap-cat. You can try all you want, but you'll just end up frustrated.
Love them for who they are, and NEVER expect them to replace the ones you lost.

Answer 10

There really isn't anything you can do to change your cat's personality. Just give it time, my cat use to be the same way, but now she older and she loves to cuddle and sit on my lap.