Quick recap... I met him, went to starbuck, casual chatting online, 2nd time met at a bar did not see alot of interest..more casual chatting online...3rd time we missed each other at a club and at 2 am he asked me come over to his apt ( yes I know booty call) didn't give it up but there was some major kissing involved...and now what ? he has retreated how should I react? all of this took place within a month...how does he view me to ask me over to his apt in the first place?? dudes?? any advice??
2006-12-20 04:18:12 · 17 answers · asked by red_klinik 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Us guys are a little strange, we want it, then when we get it we run! Then we want it again and we come back.
It sounds like he has shyed away because:
A. You didnt give it up or
B. He didn't like you that much...
A. he might be a little offended that you didn't give it up, he was probably drunk at 2am and horny. If you were trying to portray the good girl thing by not giving it up, why would you show up? He may feel teased, he may feel like his ego is torn. We pride ourselves on our ability to close. We're the hunters, we live for the kill.
I'm not bashing you for not giving it up, that's a huge choice and yours and I commend you on saving it for a later day. Just realize that he might be pouting a bit because he got all worked up and didn't get to finish, if you catch my drift.
Then there is:
B. He may not like you that much. We all people will do things sometimes that we normally wouldnt when we're drunk. He might, not be totally into you and in a moment of courage called you for the booty. Then when you went he thought he'd be getting some. Then you got together, he woke with a sick feeling in his stomach, a swolen ego and blue balls no doubt and is now evaluating what he's doing with you.
Give him time! When he's done pouting or done dealing with his confusion about you, he'll be back. Just enjoy your life and take good care of yourself and continue dating if that's what you want to do.
Most important, be patient and see how it pans out.
2006-12-20 04:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Cabbage 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) Not necessarily like a **** or anything negative.. He was just being a guy.. we have to try ya know...
2) I'm sure he was expecting to "score" when you came over.. However, since you didn't "give it up"... (he did try didn't he?), my guess is he has determined one of the following:
- you are a tease and/or flirt.. not a good thing.
- you were playing him... not a good thing.
3) Another alternative (especially due to your "not much interest" statement); He is a player.. and you weren't easy enough (good for you).
- This would be my choice..
4) Generally speaking
- You might want to check your intentions.. that is if you knew it was a "booty-call" why did you go??
2006-12-20 04:28:09 · answer #2 · answered by gjm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well he asked you over to his apt so he was looking for a little
something something
You did not give it up so no you were not easy and in no way acted like a s l u t.
Perhaps he found one and is persuing her.
Take his retreat as a blessing adn find yourself someone wonderful
2006-12-20 04:21:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
On the surface it seems as though he miight have just been looking to get into your panties and when he could'nt he lost interest. But maybe he's just been busy of late? Is he ignoring all your calls? If he is, then just ignore him and let him contact you. And don't wait around or pass anything else up that might come along.
2006-12-20 04:22:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you said that you didn't see a lot of interest, so he may have retreated because it WAS a booty call and since you didn't give it up (good for you!), he doesn't want to hang out anymore. basically he wants booty.
2006-12-20 04:21:58 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my interest. trouble-free to bypass in and initiate artwork, yet demanding to end with the aid of fact i've got have been given already been there 10 hrs. all I wanna do is flow homestead, kick boots off and loosen up and be nowhere on the part of that place!!
2016-12-11 12:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy but, sounds like he was trying to get lucky to me. You don't have too much invested in the guy so write him off and move on. Once he didn't get lucky looks like he did.
2006-12-20 04:22:50 · answer #7 · answered by mjm52 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All he wanted was to get laid. You wouldn't give it up to him (which is good for you) so now he is going to move on to someone else who will. That's not the kind of guy you need to be with anyways.
2006-12-20 04:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by my_own_frog 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he wants a sex toy - you shouldn't be selfish - you should always remember that he is a man and you are just a woman , i hope this helps you
2006-12-20 04:40:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE VIEWS U AS U PORTRAYED YOURSELF! EASY! Y DID U GO TO HIS APT AT THAT TIME SO SOON!? HE WAS EXPECTING SEX... IF U DIDNT DO IT HE PROBABLLY WAS LIKE 4 GET HER! IF HE DID HE PROBABLLY SAID 4 GET THAT HO CUZ HE GOT WHAT HE WANTED! SORRY BE MORE CAUTIOS WITH YOURSELF!
2006-12-20 04:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by SEXY CRML 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋