I am convinced I am not alone and i just want to see if anyone on this site shares this experience too, and hopefully know from you how you cope with that :) -
have you gone through a period (or still am going through such hard time) when you're actually deeply depressed (e.g. burst into tears instantly when you get up in the morning because you'd think "why am i still alive?" etc...) and you're really stressed but you still need to pretend you're normal, because people's expectations are on you, you still need to work to support your parents/family, and you simply can't break down because you need to be the support for the one you love?
2006-12-20 04:16:30 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
well i've having my depression since around 3 years ago and sometimes it seems it's going away but sometimes it just comes back as it wishes. My boyfriend is the person who saved me from going to the bottom several months after the depression began...but now he's joined the army and i feel like i don't really want to give him anything to worry about...
this might sound crazy but i took quite a number of psychology courses back at univ and somehow that made me lose the confidence and trust in counselors/psychologists after learning what they've learned too...all empty theories and assumptions and they never truly understand what the "patients" are going through...
2006-12-21 03:47:24 · update #1
I know exactly what you are saying as I have been experiencing this for about three months. I have had my hardest year ever and I'm only 25, and somedays I don't feel strong enough to get through it. I do have a wonderful boyfriend, family, and freinds, but i have felt like i am just pretending with them. I don't want to bring anyone else down due to how i am feeling. Please know, as I do, that this will pass for both of us and make us stronger. It may pass sooner or later, but know that you are here for a very special reason and are worth so much. If you ever want to talk you can email me at caterinacop28@yahoo.com
2006-12-20 04:31:36 · answer #1 · answered by Caterina C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression is terrible. It can eat you up. Your heart can hurt deep down. You feel like you're carrying an extra load and there is no one to help. Hey but if you lay all these burdens on Jesus, He is more than happy to help you. When I am feeling depressed and get to that point that I can't take it anymore, I go into my room and have myself a good cry. Then I call out for Jesus to come and touch my heart and take away all this feeling. I plead with Him to calm me down for I don't like to cry. Instead, I want to laugh and be happy. Right after, that feeling disappears. Then I thank Him, for He is so great and wonderful. Do you know Him? He is the best friend you could ever have. He is like a dad to me. Whenever anything happens to me, I get angry or depressed or sad, I call on Him. He is so wonderful!
2006-12-20 04:42:15 · answer #2 · answered by Mirts 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can relate to what you are saying and did it for years. Then one day, I couldn't seem to do anything but cry. That's when I realized that I had lost the control and needed help.
Don't let yourself get to that point. Go get some help. I take medication now and feel wonderful. I am back to what I was before I had major stressors in my life. I still have small episodes of feeling sad, but for the most part, I feel good and I can go about my daily duties like I should be able.
I don't spend a lot of time sleeping or worrying like I used to.
But I felt I had to be strong for other people. I was always worried about them and not about me. As if I wasn't worth worrying about.
But we are. We have to take care of ourselves before we can take care of anyone else.
Good luck and please get some help.
2006-12-20 04:21:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What you're doing is completely wrong and you need help to get out of this fake behavior because it's only making everyone else happy but you.
It's shocking. Stop doing it immediately.
People need to know how you're feeling. It's the only way they can help you, otherwise they think you're doing great and lose their role in your life, and will probably get angry at you if you choose to cry in front of them someday.
And DON'T ever take medication for God's sake!!!
2006-12-20 04:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by Vette 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a lovely Meatloaf song says
Tyre tracks n broken hearts is that we are leaving behind doesnt matter what we lost only matters is what we going to find
people who leave or gone are like corpses that you carry they stink... they only invite an old lady .... called misery...... she is veryy very possessive of you.... and wont let anyone specially happiness close to you... and she doesnt leave on her own
she needs to be told to go ........
how have been thru a bad patch where life was meaningless.... then gave myself reasons to stand back
all in end is WHAT DIDNT KILL ME MADE ME STRONGER
if am not dead of broken heart..... my heart next time cant be broken so easily
bottom line is u need to find things exhausts in life...... throw awy with a cold heart all the things that remind u of past
the colors the letters the gifts the emails the pictures everything
read the starting line they are all supposed to be left behind and walk afresh
and believe in something i believed in music........ like RHCP says music is my Aeroplane...
and in end till date when i thnk back
all ican hear is
NO ETERNAL REWARD WOULD SAVE US FROM WASTING THIS DAWN
so dont waste a moment a day anything on the past
walk again.......... real character is not in walking ... real character isnt in falling
reall character is in rising from a fall to walk back again
2006-12-20 04:22:50 · answer #5 · answered by rocks_life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all have problems.Maybe you should find out what's getting you down.Try getting to the root of the problem.Now figure out what makes you happy. Find 1 friend to talk to I don't want to think you're doing this all alone.Make sure this person could be trusted before you tell them any thing.The best thing to do is get to know you.
2006-12-20 05:08:46 · answer #6 · answered by lorraine B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im not waking up crying anymore, but when that was the case i found it helpful to keep the worst picture i could find of one of my favorite musicians,, with a picture of the ugliest dress i'd ever seen cut and glued to him. i kept it glued to my nightstand so it was the first thing i saw,, it kinda helped. as far as the rest, well if the outside looks together not too many are gonna notice the inside. fortunately and unfortunately. be glad you can do that much.
2006-12-20 04:47:11 · answer #7 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
most people are at some time in their lives. expectations are just so hard to live up to. talk to someone about it. a friend. it will help relieve the stress of it all.
2006-12-20 06:08:02 · answer #8 · answered by venitian_glass 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
YOU NEED HELP PLEASE GO SEE COUNCILORS BEFORE ITS TOO LATE BECAUSE IF YOU ARE LIKE THAT YOU CAN JUST BREAK DEAD OR EVEN HAVE SUICIDE ATTEMPTS. HOPE YOU RECOVER
2006-12-20 04:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by mmadamor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋