Desperate. What can a mother say to her son that stopped calling on the phone to say hi mom what's up?

Question

I called him last week to wish him "happy birthday." I never got a thank you. I called him again a few days later and his wife said he had taken the day off work and was still in bed. Still no call back. Should I wait for his call or what. Please answer me. Thank you.

Answer 1

Though it hurts you deeply, you must let it go. In due time he may come around, but there are no guarantees. My oldest son from a previous marriage has not been seen nor heard from by either his mother, nor I, in three years. We have no idea if VJ is even alive.
He was last heard from while still attendin MMI in Daytona Beach back in December of 2003. His mother is still tryig to understand what is going on, where is he, does he even care. The last message I received was in January 2004 via e-mail. VJ said he had some thing to deal with and he would be in touch when the time was right. 'I just want to be left alone, ok?' What can we do, it's their life to live.
We used the Harry Chapin song, 'Cats in the Cradle' to remind us, he & I, what has been and vowed to not let it be........that vow has been broken.
Keep them in our prayers that they may be safe and happy. That someday they will return before our time is gone and we are called to the other side.
God be with you.

Answer 2

Try in a casual way asking his wife how he is doing. If she tells you he is doing well, then let him have some time and space.

Sometimes during the holidays people get overwhelmed with work and things to do after work. You know you've been there trying to figure out just how much you can fit into your schedule, that may include simple phone calls. Then when we least expect it our bodies and our minds finally put a halt to it and make us slow down and recoup. Give him time to recoup and check with him after you have spoken to his wife, hopefully she may be able to shed some light on what may be going on with him the last couple of days.

Answer 3

Write him a letter or email. Tell him that you miss your conversations very much and your confused why he doesn't call you. Ask if he is angry at you for some reason. Let him know that you will always be there for him no matter what, but you really kiss him greatly.

Could his wife be the cause of this? Or drugs? Think about it.

Answer 4

If he lives close by, stop over at his house. Keep calling him, but don't make a pest out of your self. He should have the repsect to call you back. If you are the type of mom that calls all the time and needs to always know what he is doing, then maybe he is avoiding you.

Answer 5

Since, I don't know you or your son or your relationship, I can only give you some general advice...

sounds like he may want some 'space' or he may be very busy or preoccupied.

why not wait a week if you don't hear from him, give him a call or email, and simply discuss the issues you brought up here.

Good Luck!

Answer 6

He's married and has a life! Have you ever stopped to consider the fact that he may have just been that much of a 'mama's boy' to get you off his back! Give him room to breath and if he loves you he'll eventually get back to you!

Answer 7

You're his mother. You made him. Call him again. You can use the excuse that you're checking to see how he is, but you don't really need an excuse. He used to live in your stomach. (Yes, I know he is his own person, etc.)

Answer 8

wait for his call. If he doesn't call that means he doesn't want to talk with you. Don't be overbearring. He is a grown man and can do what he wants....just relax.

Answer 9

Don't play games. You are his MOM! Call him as much as you want. It's your obligation to annoy and pester him. That's what mom's do! I love my mom and her annoying calls every other hour!

Answer 10

leave him a lone he has a women in his life now. Let her take care of him.