He picks up items(despite being told not to) that do not belong to him and puts them in places most people would not think to look. For example he put my husband's wallet in a backpack that was not being used, nothing was missing. That is not the only item found in a strange place. He puts food that should be in the fridge in a cabinet. My daughter folds the laundry, if she leaves, (even for a moment) he will put every thing back in the basket (not carefully). We have two closets-utility and coat that he literally throws every thing in. Is this typical teenage laziness or something else. We are at our wits end, this has been going on for about a year and a half. My house is in a state of disarray because of this. We have asked him numerous times to please stop. He says he will but he doesn't. I have asked him what I can do to help him. He says he doesn't know. Thanks.
2006-12-20 04:04:53 · 21 answers · asked by TommyGirl869 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
There is something going on inside him that he may not even be able to control. He really wants to be good but he has probably got a condition call OCD which is compulsive disorder. Don't freak out that your son has some weird condition. In fact a lot of people have this and medication can help tremendously. There was a girl I worked with when I was nursing, she constantly washed her hands even when she wasn't with patient. someone had asked hr why and she said she didn't know. she later asked one of the doctors and he diagnosed her with it and once she started taking her medication she was wonderful. She would also take pens from the charts and put them in the ice chest or put them on te carts with the food to be taken down to the kitchen. She used to take people shoes and put them in the hallway under the curtains in the windowsill. Strange thing but she never hurt anyone and is the sweetest person. I would make an appointment with a psychiatrist for his age and see what tests can be done for him. Depending on your insurance you may have to get a referral from your pediatrician.
2006-12-20 04:17:22 · answer #1 · answered by Karen A 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
That's actually pretty funny! But I think that he's not getting enough attention. Are there siblings in the house or do the parents work two jobs or often or is it a matter of everyone being busy doing their own things?
A 13 year old may have self-esteem problems that may be need to be addressed. He may like a girl at school or maybe he's not fitting in the various social groups. I would try to get him to open up and figure out what's bothering him the most. Most often at 13 it's something social.
Good Luck and Happy Holidays!
2006-12-20 04:10:38 · answer #2 · answered by kjbopp 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Ah, subconscious attention seeking. Ignore it when he does this (except to ask where items are). Then, give tons and tons of positive attention for every single little thing he does right or for no reason at all. When you do ask him where things are, just ask casually, like it's no big deal.
It will stop when people stop paying so much attention to it. You'll have to have a good talk with your daughter to help her understand. She will certainly get frustrated (as you all will), but stopping the attention (good or bad) for this behavior will stop the behavior.
2006-12-20 04:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 13:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had that problem with my 12 year old. I spanked him good once and let him know I was sick of it and was not going to put up with it anymore and he has stopped. My son has adhd and is a pain in the azz. Don't accept "i don't know" as an answer. take something away that he loves (tv games movies) everytime he says it and keep him in front of you and demand an answer. Don't let him get away with it. He is getting a kick out of watching you all freak out so don't let him see it. Just hold him accountable for his actions and make sure the punishment fits the crime...Just don't let him get away with it.
2006-12-20 06:03:17 · answer #5 · answered by talarlo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What does he want? Like if he wants a skateboard, then set up a system for it. Say he hides another item, eveytime he does that you take away $1 from his allowence. When a week is over, and he hasn't hiden anything, give him a reward.
2006-12-20 04:38:38 · answer #6 · answered by #!@#^$*#($ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that is really a hard thing to deal with. I think if I were you I would check into seeing your family doctor and seeing what options he has for you. This may just be a phase, but I would not think it would go on for a year. Good luck, I hope everything works out for you. Merry Christmas.
2006-12-20 04:13:51 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. SmartyPants 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
well some of the things you talked about the clothing and the closets sounds like he is doing them out of spite just to piss you off but the wallet thing is another issue. now does your husband get frantic when he is looking for his wallet? maybe he is getting off on watching peoples reactions. I would like to say he needs his little *** whipped but next time he does it take away a favorite thing then if he does it again take something else away then maybe he will learn that his messing around is costing him alot. start with his video games etc. this bull crap of putting kids on drugs and having mental problems is a bunch of crap he is trying to get attention and piss everyone off. Take his toys away. until it stops for good.
2006-12-20 04:16:31 · answer #8 · answered by kissybertha 6 · 3⤊ 3⤋
It sounds as though your son may need to be examined by a doctor. Talk to your doctor and tell him what's been going on...laziness is one thing..but actually TAKING things and putting them somewhere else is rather odd. Better safe than sorry, so I'd find out more.
2006-12-20 04:07:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
I'm thinking OCD too. Get him to a shrink for an evaluation.
2006-12-20 04:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by tabithap 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋