hes overweight and in everyones eyes isnt "boyfriend material".
Should I face the peer pressure and go out with him or save myself the trouble?
he likes me and i like him and the whole thing is secret, but i have to my closest friends. he hasnt told anyone. we arent going out yet but i have a stong feeling that he is going to ask me out soon. help!
2006-12-20 04:01:15 · 22 answers · asked by elementamigo4 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you like him and he likes you then the hell with what others think. You may be passing up a great opportunity to learn more of another person who may be very nice to you and treat you properly. Everyone has something that others don't find attractive so if he is a bit overweight his shows, while others may not be visible outside it may be internal or mental. Peer pressure is an awful thing that happens to all people but to allow it to ruin your chances of having a great time is foolish. Who knows you going out with this fella may be not only a good thing for you but for your peers also. As afterwards you may be able to help change their perceptions of this guy and tell them how interesting he is and so he then may not be teased or ridiculed as much due to your explanation.
2006-12-20 04:10:49 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Misery loves company. Don't worry about other's telling you who is and who is not "boyfriend" material. Boyfriend material is a person who makes you feel special when you're with them and feels like your best friend. Life is too short, if he asks you out, go! Have fun and enjoy his company. Sometimes, well, most times the really cute buff guys are jerks anyway.
2006-12-20 12:04:42 · answer #2 · answered by karen W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sweetie if you really like this guy then don,t you worry about what other people think.Its your life and its you that has to live your life,and its up to you if you make that life happy or sad...Everybody has an opinion but you can,t make everybody happy.So What ! if he is over weight? If i liked a guy and he was over weight then I wouldn,t care what anyone thinks...If your friends make lousy comments,drop them they are not your friends,Plus who ask for their opinions anyway.....He amy be a woderful person...If you are afraid of peer pressure,then you need to Get stronger in what you stand for,and look peer pressure right in the face...good luck
2006-12-20 12:10:07 · answer #3 · answered by slickcut 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is special to you, then your friends should understand, if they don't they can't be that great of friends. Sometimes looks aren't the only thing that starts a relationship. Face the peer pressure, even if you do get **** for it, it will die down when they realize he isn't going anywhere.
2006-12-20 12:03:54 · answer #4 · answered by TOO MUCH TO THINK ABOUT 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you really like the guy then you should go out with him.....maybe you going out with him will make him want to have a better self image. You should not care what everyone else thinks....i am going out with a guy that is....well what you might say....not cute but in my eyes he is...and he is VERY nice. Who cares what everyone else thinks...as long as you are happy. If your friends don't like it that you are going out with him...well they aren't very good friends are they? Your friends should care for what you want not what the social status is.....i hope that i could be of some help!
2006-12-20 12:08:15 · answer #5 · answered by thatonegirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him and he likes you than ofcourse, go out with him and forget what your friends to have say. So what if he's fat. Everybody has to be something! If he is a great guy than go for it. You have to live your life by your own rules, not what someone else feels you should do.
Give the guy a chance and a break.
2006-12-20 12:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Bathroom Graffiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're that attracted to him - go for it! If people make fun at first maybe they'll shut up when they see how much you all dig each other. You gotta find happiness in this world. Life is too short.
Also - if you haven't seen 13 going on 30 - rent it if you can. That'll convince you!
2006-12-20 13:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by mama_mia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he's overweight doesn't make him boyfriend material as your friends put it. he probably has a great personality and yes if he asks you to go out with him then accept his offer and nevermind what other people say. he might give you the greatest time you have ever had.
2006-12-20 12:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends greatly on how mature you are.
If you care about peer pressure there you go.
If you care about your own growth as a human being then by all means go for it. Mature people don't care about peer pressure.
2006-12-20 12:05:11 · answer #9 · answered by khanofali 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i had to go through it before if yourafraid of being made fun of thats not fair to either of you. he dosent deserve a girl who wont date him cause of peer pressure! i think you should give him a chance, if not just stay friends and dont put him through the embarrassment. if you date him and someone makes fun and you brake up b/c of it that will kill him inside knowing your too good for him. just go with your heart if you cant go thru the teasing dont go with him at all, besides if they do make fun it should be just a feww days then it'll blow over
2006-12-20 12:05:56 · answer #10 · answered by call_me_LaLa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋