Ok, I graduated college a year ago and now I work back near my hometown a little over an hour from where I went to school. I'm at the point in my life where I wouldn't mind settling down with a girl but now I have no options in sight.
I work in an office with 10 guys and 1 girl and she is taken. I have been going to the gym regularly for a year. The only one I'm attracted to works there and I'm afraid to ask her out because I don't want it to be awkward every time I go to the gym. I go to church fairly regularly but there is only one girl there around my age and she is getting divorced with two kids. I'm not real outgoing so I don't normally have a lot of luck at bars and clubs. Finally, the girls I still know at school probably don't want to start a long distance relationship where I could only see them on weekends.
Does anyone have any other ideas? I don't think online dating is something I want to try right now. Any other ideas would be great.
2006-12-20 03:57:02 · 8 answers · asked by boredatwork 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My biggest problem I'm stuck in a small town in Missouri, if that helps
2006-12-20 03:59:44 · update #1
If you have any interests and/or hobbies you could join a group of like minded people. This way you will meet new people and there may be people who you will befriend. They may have a friend that they think you would get along with or there may be a female there that you get to know very well and become interested in and visa versa. I did meet my fiance via the internet but you have to be very careful with chatting with anyone on line as there are a lot of users and losers and people may not be who they claim to be. I had a couple of bad expereinces before I met this lovely lady that I am marrying next May. Best of luck to you and congrates on finishing post secondary school and becoming employed.
2006-12-20 04:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting to know the girl at the gym a little better. You're not making any promises, so there's no way it can get unusually awkward. If you don't want to chance it, try going to a community thing and seeing who's there. If you don't like that, maybe you should wait a bit or go for the online dating. You said you wouldn't mind settling down, but, keep in mind, it's something you wouldn't mind. That doesn't necessarily mean there's a big rush.
2006-12-20 04:02:25 · answer #2 · answered by kytigirl200 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to get over your fear of bars and clubs and go there. The trick to meeting women is that you can't care if they like you, can't care if they call you later, can't care if you end up hooking up with them or not. Trust me, if you can get to that point, then it will all fall into place. Women can smell desparation.
Also, get over being an introvert. I understand you're shy, but no girl ever goes for the shy guy. You start talking to girls that are obliged to talk to you like waitresses etc. Get comfortable speaking to them, then take that to the bar.
2006-12-20 04:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by Morty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your normal spots don't have girls you want to talk to, get out and go other places.... when the time is right a girl will come along, most likely when you least expect it.
2006-12-20 04:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by TOO MUCH TO THINK ABOUT 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Learn to socialize with the opposite sex. Get out of your comfort zone. Be proactive.
2006-12-20 04:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Confuse_Guy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a hospital in your town, become a volunteer. There are lots of pretty nurses that work there.
2006-12-20 04:03:31 · answer #6 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WHY DON'T U ASK A FRIEND 2 HOOK U UP?
2006-12-20 04:01:50 · answer #7 · answered by NONE OF UR BIZ!!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no......... none here!
2006-12-20 04:02:59 · answer #8 · answered by Rosie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋