My boyfriend is rapid-cycling this week I'm getting to the end of my rope. I just need a few words of encouragement.
2006-12-20 03:56:55 · 12 answers · asked by Sublette 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
He's not off his meds . . . the holiday season is a trigger for him and he just had a fight with a friend,
2006-12-20 04:03:47 · update #1
Hon its tough i know, but if you love him stick with what you are doing, i know how you feel my husband also has bi polar, and i also feel like you do some days, this is when you need to stand up straight, take life by the horns and say i can get through this. And you will i know you will, because you have done it before, and will be able to do so again. hang in there, and if you ever need to talk to somone drop me a line im on everyday.....
2006-12-20 04:01:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mintjulip 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son was just diagnosed with bipolar disorder, and this is by far the hardest thing we've ever gone through as a family. It breaks my heart to know that this is something he will deal with for the rest of his life, and it's hard as a mom to know that there's only so much I can do - the hardest work has to be done by him, and there may be times when he choses not to do it. I've learned that, when he makes that choice, it's not my fault - and that the time may come when he isn't going to want to be a part of this family because he's tired of being "pushed" to stay well. Just remember that you can't make your boyfriend well, you can't force him to do the right thing, and for your own sake there may come a time when you need to walk away. Good luck, my dear.
2006-12-20 12:26:22 · answer #2 · answered by woodlands127 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did he stop his meds? My wife does that after she 'feels better' and takes herself off the prescriptions.
It will probably take a few days for him to balance after he restarts.
Addendum: If not off meds, then he will just need some extra tlc until the balance is regained. The various holiday seasons can definitely trigger the rollercoaster, even 'special' days in his life can do it; things as simple as when his dog ran away 20 years ago. See what I mean?
2006-12-20 11:59:59 · answer #3 · answered by credo quia est absurdum 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have bi-polar. I was recently diagnosed this year and before that...I thought was just a *****. The best thing that I can tell you is it isn't the medicine that helps with the manic cycles that get us through. It isn't the knowledge of learning more about our disease ....it is the loving people in our life that offer us support and encouragement. The people that stay even during the manic times...you all are what get us through!!!! Hang in there!!!! God Bless you!
2006-12-20 12:00:59 · answer #4 · answered by Ginger P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be very tough, my best friend had bi-polar and things are okay if she takes her meds everyday when she is supose to, but things can get a tough even then, things will get better, remember don't get mad at him that will only make things worse, just take a step back and a deep breath, you will get through this, keep your head up, and Best of Luck!
2006-12-20 12:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by randyssgirl25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My Son is bi-polar.This really is a hard disease to handle isnt it? All I can say is hang in there with him.He didnt ask to have this disease.But if its bringing you down to much you need to get out of the relationship.Always show him love but not smother him like I was doing. Good luck.Maybe you could find a support group for you
2006-12-20 12:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by daklove2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hang in there...it's tough to be close to someone with bipolar (no hyphen). My best friend had it (still does, but is no longer my best friend) and it ended our 20+ yr friendship.
If it's tough to deal with him on a boyfriend basis, know what you are getting into if you decide to take the relationship long-term or possibly even marry (also learn what the chances are of kids he fathers having it). It takes a LOT of patience and understanding of the illness, to hang in there when they are manic or depressed.
Breathe deeply...know that things typically level off at some point...hopefully he's taking his meds...
2006-12-20 12:01:12 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its really gr8 to find that love is still there here coz i hv seen ppl leaving their loved ones for petty reasons.Living and coping wid someone who has bi-polar disorder is really something for which you really need to be very strong at heart,mind and soul!But do take care that he takes his meds regularly coz ignoring them may lead to something very fatal too.And yeah keep as much patience as you can coz ur outburst may worsen the situation.Nyways,i want you to know that you gained my respect for your sincerity towards ur love!
2006-12-20 12:09:40 · answer #8 · answered by vivs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my bf is bipolar...
its hard. its really hard. but we have a baby. but we dont live together anymore. he goes to some classes for his problem and takes medication. he visits us all the time and he is doing so much better. it got so bad at one point that he actually started to abuse me! thats when I told him to move out. so he did. got a court order for classes and meds. he's been doing both for a year and is doing alot better. just hang in there and everything can be ok if you make the right choices..not for him but for yourself. the best thing to do is be safe. dont allow yourself to get hurt. try to do something fun together, something you both like. but dont go to over crowded areas. good luck!
2006-12-20 12:02:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am bi polar and so is my husband.so from both sides try to get
away for awhile go shopping something.and tell him if he doesnt
want see that this affects you too then maybe he needs some counseling.i may not always be able to control my reactions but
i can tell you that a sorry and a thanks from him to you for dealing when he cant goes a long way either way.tell him that.and
if he wants to know who. tell him a fellow bi-polar
2006-12-20 19:37:50 · answer #10 · answered by mentalzan2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋