My mom just told me she doesn't want any Christmas presents from my family if we don't get my stepdad an equal amount. I've never bought my stepdad big gifts because we're not close; he doesn't buy any gifts for me and my family. I'd already bought one joint gift and one gift for just her, but I really don't want to go spend more money on someone I don't like.
2006-12-20 03:40:47 · 9 answers · asked by Robin 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Thanks for the answers; the reason this is weird and why a lot of the answers don't apply is that they've been married for almost 20 years, and this is the first time she's done anything like this.
2006-12-20 07:39:53 · update #1
Girl, i think everyone that has step parents are in your same shoes. Its a part of life. Give them the joint gift and if you want you can try and give her the other gift or wait till after christmas and give it to her as a "just to show you i love you" gift. Parents go thru these things all the time but most of them that do never had step parents of their own so they don't know what it feels like having a third party there, acting like they want to take the other parents place.
2006-12-20 03:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter if you like this man or not, You are giving the gift to him for your Mom. Get him a bottle of cologne and be done with it. It will make your Mom happy.
2006-12-20 03:49:16 · answer #2 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her the joint gift you bought for her and her husband and save the gift you bought "just for her", for her birthday. You need to respect her wishes.
2006-12-20 03:44:47 · answer #3 · answered by NAN G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a gift certificate to a great rest urant that way he'll take your mom and in all actuallitity she gets two gifts and he gets his belly full, so there's nothing for him to "throw out" , merry christmas!
2006-12-20 04:06:40 · answer #4 · answered by SHEFOX 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your Mom just wants everyone to accept him in the family, and she wants him to be treated equally and I really don't see anything wrong with that, just respect her wishes and get them both the same amount. Happy Holidays
2006-12-20 04:45:53 · answer #5 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him something that you know that he will not like, something that you or your mom like.i.e. a Colonne or you could give a gift certificate from a restauran or a shop that you like and may dislike... you just forgot or did not remember that you didn't like it...that will force him to go with your mom and you. Whatever you give make sure that your mom or you could use it more then him.
Merry Christmans
2006-12-20 03:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by megalura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i don't blame you. give her the gift and if she refuses it then you know exactly where she stands but that sort of manipulation should not be used against you.
it's not fair. if u do decide to buy something which i wouldn't, buy something inexpensive!!
2006-12-20 04:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She in all probability has heard approximately you and basically desires to fb stalk you, maximum possibly. i could think of that she is jealous or intimidated by utilising you, incredibly in case you have been being friendly.
2016-10-05 13:18:38 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go with what you got, should be enough.
2006-12-20 03:45:40 · answer #9 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋