I recently have been involved with a woman that I work with and in no way physically attracted to her at all. However she has been calling me out for about the past three months, asking if I were scared of being with an older woman, "she is 43". Recently, I guess to prove my manhood, she and I went round for round, and around. She has become very attracted to me. Again I am no way attracted to her and now wonder if what I did is was wrong.
2006-12-20 03:40:41 · 9 answers · asked by Rooster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't see where it is wrong to date someone you work with but I don't think it would be a good idea being that you will still have to be around that person if it doesn't work out. That is a very uncomfortable situation.
2006-12-20 03:48:26 · answer #1 · answered by K-E-G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join the club. so you did something with someone at work that you're not attracted, which, more often than not, is how it happens. so you did something with an older woman you were ashamed to be involved with, again, she's an older woman, wiser than you are, 30 steps ahead of you so there wasn't too much you could do about it she was really serious about making it happen. you think that you're proving your manhood, to yourself, which is what she wanted you to think, and now you've * yourself into the corner, which is exactly what was going to happen. so now you have to ride it out and see what happens, and you can't ever tell her why you want out of the situation, because you work with her and have to see her every single day. yeah what you did was wrong, but again, hooking up without commitment is wrong, particularly when you're not attracted to the person and particularly at work, so you have to lie in the bed that you've made. or the one that she's made, rather, because you're probably still trying to figure out how it went down in the first place.
2006-12-20 11:47:09 · answer #2 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong to have done her if you are "In no way attracted to her". But she's old enough to know better. If you were just her fling, just tell her you want to still be (just) friends. (The mention that she "has become very attracted" to you doesn't give the fling theory much chance, though.) I hope there's no boss-employee relationship involved. I'd say let her down gently and try to stay friends, only doing her eight or ten more times if necessary to ease her transition.
2006-12-20 11:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by David W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let me see.. you weren't interested, but then to prove something you did her. And now you want to know if it was wrong.. uhhh YEAH!
You were wrong to lead her on, you need to let her know the truth now. And don't mess with someone you work with again!
2006-12-20 11:44:08 · answer #4 · answered by heidifreckles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you have been with her if you are not physically attracted? You have to let her know you feel and hope she does not pursue a sexual harrassment claim against you.
2006-12-20 11:44:31 · answer #5 · answered by Alexandra 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
u are attracted to her, and u went "round for round " with her. thats what u did wrong.
2006-12-20 11:47:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im glad I dont have a male ego to deal with. Dont lead her on anymore, work relationships are VERY bad, they can sometimes cost you your job.
2006-12-20 11:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes what you did was wrong. you should never mix pleasure with work. wait until you are off the clock
2006-12-20 11:52:39 · answer #8 · answered by ken s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now you're stuck with a stalker, should have messed around with someone you liked OR didn't have to see everyday
tell her you're seeing someone else
2006-12-20 11:47:11 · answer #9 · answered by Lg 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋