Does anyone have any suggestions to make this holiday special and alleviate some of the sadness/loss we are all starting to feel?
Some background: He died in February at the age of 29 of a drug overdose. He had no children, just my daughter and son as niece and nephew. His older brother is my husband, his younger brother lives at home with Mom now and his father lives with my family. Everyone is quiet and reserved, they don't typically open up, so I don't wish to make any of them. Also, we are ALL celebrating Christmas Eve at my parents (which is a first for all save my children and husband).
2006-12-20 03:39:38 · 8 answers · asked by skiwitch 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tapestry-People are "milking" mourning a loved one? If you are no longer mourning your mother's death, you got some problems girl!
Try to make it a happy occasion but keep it low key. If you pretend that you are really happy, it might be seen as insensitive. Or ask them, "Do you have any ideas that you would like to do for Christmas?" You can also ask your husband what he thinks.
This is a difficult situation and the right answer is hard to find. Follow your heart and good luck!
2006-12-20 03:44:47 · answer #1 · answered by jack russell girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could place a special ornament on the tree in his memory.
Make a donation to the rehab in his honor (something he liked-animals ,children)
Remember the good about him not what he died of.
You could get pictures of Christmas thru his life &make a special memorial book about him & have each person make a small notation why that was special .
Sorry for your loss.
Merry Christmas
2006-12-20 11:48:40 · answer #2 · answered by LCee 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry to hear about that. Well when my grandpa died back in 2002, that next Christmas all my aunts and uncles and cousins (pretty much everyone) had a toast to remember him. But then again, my family is pretty weird. Hope you all have a great Christmas and that everything goes well!
2006-12-20 11:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by 77684 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, first I'd like to apologize for your loss.
Second, it would be a nice gesture to maybe get him a small gift and put it under the tree. Maybe even hang a stocking up with his name on it just so that you acknowledge that fact that you haven't forgotten him. Then as everyone is enjoying the festivities, it may be a good idea to take a moment of silence to focus on his memory, and if you're a drinking family, take a drink for him.
2006-12-20 11:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mister 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear about your lose. I know it's hard on you and the rest of your family especially since it's Christmas but just hang in there and remeber that he won't want you all to be sad. It's ok to talk about it and remeber the good things about him and all the wonderful times you all had together. It's good that you and your husband and children found God. If you lend on him for help he'll help you. I am truly sorry for your lost and I'll be praying for you and your family.
2006-12-20 11:46:37 · answer #5 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either don't say a thing and go with the flow, OR be courageous and break the ice by offering a casual, semi-funny toast to the brother-in-law who you will get to see someday in that great somewhere. Be yourself.
2006-12-20 11:52:29 · answer #6 · answered by ♨ Wisper ► 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom died in April and we are celebrating Christmas. Christmas is about life and a hereafter that is open to all.
Celebrate life with your children.
Some people never get over a death if they have to mourn this long they just are milking it.
Enjoy your Christmas!!
2006-12-20 11:42:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
this will be my frist xmas without my brother in law an my sister.after loseing both at diffrent time this year its going to be tuff.but you have to go on an remember the good times that you did have with them.dont talk about bad times at xmas it make everyone sad.instead think of funny xmas times the situation will be better for everyone.an yourself.,, happy holidays
2006-12-20 11:47:44 · answer #8 · answered by doll56 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋