2006-12-20 03:31:56 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Think of it this way. Would you buy a car without a test drive??
2006-12-20 03:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your own beliefs; this is something you should probably decide for yourself. If you are Christian, many people say that the Bible does indeed call it a sin, but many Christians also realize that not everything in the Bible should be taken word for word. Even though the Bible can be a great inspirational tool and can provide valuable spiritual guidance, there are flaws with it--many which stem from corrupt Catholics and other religious leaders from the ages of antiquity when they were deciding what they put in the Bible and when they were translating it.
Anyway, we all sin--even the best of Christians. Besides that, I think if you are a mature person who is truly in love with someone and you are ready for what you are doing and know what it means, and you are SAFE, then by all means, proceed with caution. In my opinion, if you are younger than 17 or 18, you might be a little too young to be doing this....you have to think about what your boyfriend wants, too--does he really love you, or does he just want some? You both need to talk about it before you do it.
I read something yesterday that someone did a study and found that 95% of Americans have had premarital sex....even if that statistic is wrong, it's probably not too far from the truth. That said, having sex before you get married isn't for everyone. Some people want to wait so that their first time will be especially meaningful. Some people want to wait so they can avoid unnecessary risks. Either way, do whatever you can to ensure that your first time is special, safe, and entirely mutual. If tell him NO but you end up having sex anyway, that is rape.
I was not a virgin when I got married, although my husband is the only person I have had sex with.
2006-12-20 11:46:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW you really asked a serious qusestion.
I am 21 years old and a virgin and Proud of it, its so hard in todays society to stay one. Every one and everything tell us to have fun and experience things. I believe that SEX is a sin outside of marriage and should be taken very serously. Just remember that its a gift you can never get back. The Bible says that it is a sin 1Corinthians 6:18-20 and 1 Corinthians 7:1-2 .
2006-12-20 12:06:19 · answer #3 · answered by Apple 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex before you are married is called fornication and the Bible says that it is a sin. In fact, Christ said that if you marry someone and when you start to have sex with them, you find out that they have committed fornication and are not pure, you are allowed to divorce them. This is the only reason that the Bible gives for permitting divorce.
2006-12-20 11:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not a sin --- look at all the "celibate" religious figures in history that have sex and have taken a vow of chastity --- its hypocrisy
having said that i was a virgin when i got married -- now that i am single again sex is an enjoyable activity that is part of getting to know a lady
2006-12-20 11:37:49 · answer #5 · answered by trader1867 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible views it as a sin. I believe that if you are only having sex with ONE partner, the partner that you are with, its not a sin. Cheating on someone is a sin though, a sin that most people are guilty of. If you TRULY love the person that you are with and they love you back then maybe you're ready.
2006-12-20 11:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Dani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your own personal morals - don't listen to other people, do what feels right.... I waited until I was in love, and it was much more satisfiying that way, but i didn't wait until marriage. Other people I know have lots of meaningless casual sex with random people and that feels good to them, but I feel sorry for them because love is a more powerful feeling than that and at least some of them are not truly happy, but that's thier choice and I don't judge them by it. Some religious people I know say that it's a sin to have sex before marriage, but I say if God didn't want us to do it, he wouldn't give us the sexual feelings that we have towards our partners, and loving relationships are supposed to have a physical side. My own personal advice is that you should wait until you love the person, but it's not necissary to wait until marriage. I didn't wait until marriage and I don't think I'm a sinner for that.
2006-12-20 11:58:45 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people think it is a sin. I think you should have sex when you are ready or wait 4 marriage.
2006-12-20 11:35:34 · answer #8 · answered by Shivanie R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the bible, it does say that it is a sin. i'm not married yet and i am a virgin
2006-12-20 11:33:54 · answer #9 · answered by ~sasha~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is but we where made to make sins and thats why we ask for forgiveness no i was not a virgin and stillnot but i m not married yet well until feburary anyways
2006-12-20 11:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋