im 19 & this girl i link wid is 16 .
she told me she 2 weeks pregnant n she told me she dont no what to do. what should i do & what can i do ?
we aint even a couple ive been with other girl while ive been linkin with hershe dont no.
2006-12-20 03:10:00 · 18 answers · asked by redz 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you need to be there for this girl because you were the one who got her pregnant. stop cheating and become a couple. help her through her pregnancy and financially support her. you dont need to marry her but you need to help her because a woman cant get through a pregnancy on her own. if you dont want the baby, DO NOT GET AN ABORTION, encourage her to put the baby up for adoption. there are many loving families waiting for an infant to adopt. if adoption is not an option, some states have a policy where you can give your baby to a person working at any police department, fire department, or hospital. find out if your state has this policy.
2006-12-20 03:14:56 · answer #1 · answered by sj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off you are a complete and utter idiot for getting this girl pregnant, im sorry but were you not educated at school about sex? you arent even a couple? er how utterley irresponsible and immature you are, this girl is 16 probably not even fresh out of school, and this happens? what i suggest is you two do is have a sit down and discuss ALL of the options like, how are you going to maintain the baby? afford to buy baby clothes, food, keep a roof over the babys head?
Are you willing to work every hour god sends to make ends meet for your child,do either of your parents know? are you prepared to deal with the fact this can potentially affect your family, your parents have raised you, are you going to expect them to do what you should be doing, looking after the child? bringing up a child isnt easy .
Im only 19 myself, and i dont have children, but my parents raised me and i can see its not an easy thing to do, you have to be very mature, and stabilised financially and mentally to cope with the fact raising a child isnt just a walk in the park.
That you have to be supportive towards this girl no matter what, be a man and take some responsibility, it is evident you were willing particpants, to the cause of this baby, but you need to reasses everything, because i can guarantee it will change your life forever!
Last but not least, what is a 19 year old like you doing,cavorting with a 16 year old girl, you may be in the same age group but this girl is very young! and for the record why were you playing games with this other girl? so you have lied to her too? well you better start with ending it with the bit on the side, and be honest to girl with baby, and see what goes on from there..
A long answer but i hope this gets through to you...
N.B Guys remember if you arent wearing a glove, expect no love!
2006-12-20 03:31:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to the doctor to see if she is really pregnant.Ask for a DNA test if it is true and she say's your the dad.She deserves to know about the other girl now instead of later.If it is your kid hopefully you have a good job and pay support.Depending on what state you're in pray you dont get charged with statutory rape.
2006-12-20 03:16:02 · answer #3 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd sit this one out, depending on the laws in your state, perhaps you could get checked out to find out for sure if it's yours, but then again that could get you locked up as well.
then again you could step up the plate and raise the kid, if she's 16 she doesn't really know what to do or where to turn. then again that could get you thrown under the jail as well. good luck, and stay away from those 16 year olds.
2006-12-20 03:15:14 · answer #4 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly am sorry but you will have to face up to your new responsibility i would say get a job and start prepairing to pay child support and i would also advise on counselling because parenting is not easy you have to be prepared.
as for your other gal, maybe its time you finished that to be honest you already played her i dont think she will be excited to know when you conceived the baby.
2006-12-20 03:58:12 · answer #5 · answered by shiro 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear who's been a bad dog then your in the doghouse now you better do the right thing for her.
Face up to your responsibilities to this person.
2006-12-20 03:21:19 · answer #6 · answered by arthur3home 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats is why it is good to wait for the appropriate time before doing it. Now you have place yourself in deep **** and remember mate soon, you are goner be a dad.
2006-12-20 03:23:15 · answer #7 · answered by cajadman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a responsibiltiy.
Getting a girl pregnant is easy.
Dealing with the consequences may not be.
If she chooses to go full term (and it IS her choice) you will have maintenance to pay.
Do not attempt to browbeat her into an abortion, unless that is POSITIVELY her choice.
2006-12-20 03:14:53 · answer #8 · answered by alan h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you first need to find out if she thinks u 2 are actually going out.
if she thinks you are then u have to tell her you are with someone else but want to help.
if no then its ok, you can help.
but thats if u want to help.
if you do, then just try find her somewhere to live, like one of them homeless places for teens.
i cant really say much because i dont know much. good luck.
2006-12-20 03:33:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a good job and pay child support
2006-12-20 03:13:01 · answer #10 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋