2006-12-20 03:01:17 · 11 answers · asked by Lola 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just sit him down and calmly tell him that you want a commitment and if you don't get it, then you're leaving and thats it. Even if you do leave, he'll come running back to you soon enough once he realizes he misses you.
2006-12-20 03:06:48 · answer #1 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Listen, take it from a guy (not a girl)
Don't TELL him anything.
Nagging - continuous complaining or fault finding
Anything you TELL him about what you don't agree with is nagging (you're finding a fault) so instead ASK him.
Sit him down or go out to eat at a nice restaurant(don't do it when he's watching a ballgame or playing a video game or something) and give him a compliment and tell him how much you enjoy being with him. At this point he'll probably know something is coming, so don't be offended if he rolls his eyes, let's out a big sigh or asks you where this is going. If that happens, it simply means that he's a lil uncomfortable with the 'mushy stuff' (as a lot of men are)
Then ask him how he feels about the last 4 years that the two of you have been together and where he'd like for it to go. That'll get the ball rolling, and while in the conversation, be sure to NOT point out any faults or try and force him to express too much emotion. That could make the conversation take a bad turn. Just express YOUR emotions and leave the door open for him to do the same if HE chooses.
Good Luck
2006-12-20 11:12:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, if you have no form of commitment after four years you've let it go a little too long to start pushing for one now. Anything you come up with will probably sound like nagging to him whether it is or isn't. Men have a "if it ain't broke, don't fix it" mentality. He probably thinks you are fine with this because you have been for all this time....
2006-12-20 11:06:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start reading a book about being a mom or baby names or something so that he sees it and gauge his reaction to this. If he freaks out he probably doesn't want a commitment. This would all be moot if you already have kids. As a forewarning though, once he realizes you aren't pregnant, he's probably going to be upset.
Another idea would be to browse at rings while you are shopping at the mall, that way if he really is ready to commit he knows exactly what kind of ring you want and doesn't have to stress out about getting you a ring you'll hate forever.
2006-12-20 11:11:17 · answer #4 · answered by Ask me anything 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
4 years is not a short time 2 have a relationship with someone. I think if he really serious with you, he'll not afraid 2 take your relationship 2 the next level. You should have a deep coversation about this.......;)
2006-12-20 11:10:03 · answer #5 · answered by yulia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit that person down and gauge his feelings and intentions. You can bring it up when the two of you are out at a restaurant or something. A nice ambience is nice for such a convo not during the Super Bowl or something...
Maybe he or she doesn't think he or she is ready for an exclusive relationship. Maybe he or she doesn't think you are the one for him or her. Either way, you need to know because you have your life to live and would need to know how to proceed...
2006-12-20 11:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by David C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would simply start telling him hints of marriage, like "oh those r the flowers I would love to have at my wedding" or " There's a great place for a honey moon" and see if he gets the picture. And if not then I would just ask them to marry you, there's no wrong way for proposing weather the man or woman does it. good luck
2006-12-20 11:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by jenandybell03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you want a commitment
2006-12-20 11:06:18 · answer #8 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like when ur eating dinner w/this person just bring it up and catch them off guard if they blow it off then try again l8ter!
2006-12-20 11:08:11 · answer #9 · answered by Brittany T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him how you feel.....have you done this yet? Has he told you he loves you?
2006-12-20 11:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋