I have prepared a Christmas get together and when asked what I was serving I told them horsd'eouvre's and sandwiches. They were upset and wanted to change it to something else. I told them that this was what was being served and they said, "fine i'll bring my own food.
2006-12-20 02:49:52 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Rude, inconsiderate and in extremely bad taste. I wouldn't invite these people again clearly they have no couth.
2006-12-20 02:52:05 · answer #1 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 8⤊ 1⤋
If they are vegetarian, have a medical problem or a religious preference, then you as a host would do well to prepare food suitable for them on the side.
If it is that they are just picky eaters, maybe they are better off bringing their own food. Or you could just uninvite them. You could have your party so that anyone can bring something if they want. If this person is just a picky eater to begin with, I think they were wrong to get angry with you and even more wrong to say that they were going to bring food that they like. They should have asked you if it was OK for them to bring something that they liked. After all, it is your home, your party and your guests.
Are they the only guests or will there be many others besides them? If they are the only guests you could reconsider your meal plan, but if they are some of many then don't change a thing - unless of course it is for a medical, religious or if they are vegetarian.
2006-12-20 11:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by Think.for.your.self 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The guest have NO say in a menu planned and prepared by the hostess. Rude is not the word for it. Uncalled for is more like it. What BALLS that person has.
Let the idiot bring their own food and then when the moron leaves you can laugh at them. Certainly the whole group of people will think their an idiot. Remember to NOT invite them to the next dinner. And limit time spent with anyone like that!
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2006-12-20 12:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by Kitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you've got some mighty ungrateful friends there. Since when is a get together about the food? Let them do what they want, they don't have to come and you certainly didn't have to invite them.
I could understand if it was a vegan or a vegetarian or someone with a strict diet saying that there was nothing on the menu that was suitable for them so they would bring their own food.
It's your party so do not feel pressured to change the menu. Enjoy your Christmas!
2006-12-20 11:03:39 · answer #4 · answered by Diet_smartie 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'd like to know WHY they insisted on bringing their own food. Perhaps ohhhdear was onto something as far as the time. Or maybe this person does have certain medical reasons, but they should be used to explaining this. As you have explained it, it certainly does sound like someone is being a wee bit selfish, but we don't know why they were upset. If the entire menu was a problem, why are they bothering to come at all? Who is this person and how do they fit in? Are they family?
If they are bringing their own food, have you asked if they are bringing enough to share? (It is a party after all.) Are they bringing their own dishes too? That person might feel pretty silly being the only one there eating out of tupperware, if you take my meaning...
2006-12-20 18:06:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly considerate friends, if they didn't like your menu, would have eaten before they arrived. After all, this isn't a sit-down dinner where it would be noticed if they didn't eat anything. Then if they didn't want to eat your food, they wouldn't have to. It's a shame they chose to insult you instead.
Trying to change the menu that you have already planned for is inexcusable.
The only possible exception I can think of would be when a guest has dietary restrictions [vegan, no dairy, low salt], in which case they might ask you if they could bring something small just for themselves. To me this would be OK. This is obviously not the case.
Stand your ground and cross these boors off your list for next year!
p.s. The plural of hors d'eouvre is "hors d'eouvres." It's not a possessive.
2006-12-20 11:08:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's rude.
It's obvious this group of guests feel they have the right to determine what the meal will be. Perhaps they're co-workers or relatives who had expected a larger meal. Maybe it's the time of the get together... if you're holding it near suppertime they would naturally expect a full meal.
Hors d'oeuvres and sandwiches are light-weight foods suitable for a luncheon or later in the evening party.
I suggest that if your guests want to help plan the menu, that you assign dishes as if it was a pot-luck and then be cheerful about it.
2006-12-20 11:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mmerobin 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, sounds rude. Even if they were on a special diet and maybe couldn't have some of the ingredients in the sandwich, it seems a guest could mention that and discreetly bring their own food to the gathering without making a big deal out of it or even bring a potluck dish for all to share.
2006-12-20 11:02:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Any "guest" who would presume to change the menu at their host's dinner party would cease to be a guest in my home for eternity.
Only the rudest and most gauche fawktwits would even think of questioning the food to be served. The only time it is proper for a guest to ask about the menu is if they have food allergies.
I suggest you uninvite these boors immediately. There is no reason their company should be tolerated by your true friends.
2006-12-20 10:55:35 · answer #9 · answered by castle h 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Soem people jsut have no manners. It is extremely rude for peope totry to tell someone what to serve at their party. If they have food allergies they should know that you are serving just in case. but some people are just so wrapped up in themselves that they don't think of others, and how much work goes into putting together a party...not just the food, but also getting the house ready. Unless this person is a family member I would not invite them back for your next party.
2006-12-20 10:55:14 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
terribly rude. I am a picky eater and I eat BEFORE I get somewhere if I think I won't like the food offered. I hope these people are not your friends.
2006-12-21 00:46:00 · answer #11 · answered by cynthia s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋