ok my gf and i will move out when we are 18 together but my parents have legal guardianship over my money so if i get a job and get money it goes to them to use for me but i have to run away because my parents dont want me in a relationship at all so i can never use that money. my gf plans to be a tattoo artist and she will raise lots of money and i can stay home. but is that right? isnt that basically using her even though i love her with all my heart and will always do what i can? she plans to leave me money to go out and do stuff with but again...isnt that wrong because i never earned that money?
2006-12-20 02:46:55 · 8 answers · asked by dark plaugue 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
as long as you cash your check you have money...
2006-12-20 02:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, trust me, when you are 18 your parents WLL NOT have legal access to your money, they may just be frightening you and telling you this so you don't make any plans to run away.
All you have to do for a start is open your own bank account.
To do his you need to get something that proves where you live. Try and get a utility bill of you mum or dads (if you have he same surname) from powergen. Or take a few of their bills (if they keep them in a draw or something?) but make sure they are recently dated (within the last three months). Or if you already have a bank account take a bank statement of that. You don't need to tell your mumor dad you are opening the accoumt, and if you signup for online monthly statements they can go to your email account and not through the post. Also take your passport or some form of identity if you can get it.
Whens thats all set up you can have your wages paid into that account, trust me. No parent has the right to take away their childrens money when they are legally an adult.
You are right when you say it isn't completely fair that you won't work and your girlfriend will. Being a tatoo artist doesn't mean that she will be earning enough money for both of you.
You could go to the job centre (if you are 16 or when you turn 16) and maybe find a job as a waiter or something like that, there are always jobs going.
When you are earning money you and your girlfriend need to start saving money for a deposit on a flat somewhere, then look round in your local paper or around, theres always a few going.
Do that when you are 18.
Its great to dream and have a plan. If its meant to be then it will happen, try and remember that. If it doesnt happen you will always look back on the dream.
I can help you sort this out if you want to email me and ask me for any advice, doesnt matter how old you are.
Good luck sweetheart.
2006-12-20 03:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Dark plague" I think that's an appropriate name for yourself because that's where I think you are headed unless you
1) realize that you are 18 years old
2) there's a very good reason why the money is in a guardianship
3) you are very immature
4) your plans are completely unrealistic and foolish.
However, the fact that you are asking a question about all of this is encouraging. At least, I think it might be. (This could be a made-up question and you're just jerking me around for kicks.) But, assuming you are sincere, don't go through with what you are contemplating....just yet. Jumping from mommy and daddie's little nest and jumping into another nest where someone else is taking care of you is not healthy.
Take some time to grow up. If you must leave home, get a job, earn some money - enough for first and last on an apartment of your own - and be truly independent. Don't move in with your girlfriend. She needs some independence herself.
Good luck.
2006-12-20 02:55:35 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you are probably not ready for the real world. This fictional future of yours is missing a little info. She "plans" to be a tattoo artist.....hmmm, well, plans to don't pay the rent. #2: It won't last, she'll have 20 guys a day trying to get into her pants & eventually she will figure out that she can screw em too; while you're out spending the cash she gives you. Then she'll figure out it's cheaper to lose you and keep having fun. You should just try to find a chick you parents like dude.
2006-12-20 02:59:44 · answer #4 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah...that's a little low. it's sorta like pimping her out for work (not sex)...don't be that guy. thank her for wanting to help but make your own money. it's not cool to let a woman take care of you no matter how well meaning. you didn't say you old you are but i have a feeling your really young. don't run away. all that will have is it will be very hard for you and the police will find you and bring you home. don't waste your time or possibly risk your life and break your parents hearts. 18 is just around the corner. wait, take your time and everything will work out.
2006-12-20 03:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by NoDeal21 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think being in love is wonderful, but are you sure running away is the right thing to do? I know parents can be a lil' over-protective, but that's because they know how the real world is.
They don't want anything bad to happen to you.
Have you sat down with your parents and explained (in a calm voice), that you feel that you're old enough to be in a reationship?
If that hasn't worked, try showing them that you're a responsible adult capable of making intelligent decisions.
Working, contributing in the family, things like that show that you're mature. All I'm saying is try to do things that'll benefit everyone. hat way everone will be happy, you wouldn't have to "run away", your family will support you, and you'd still get to make your own decisions.
2006-12-20 03:01:39 · answer #6 · answered by p00mkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well no, but maybe you can get a job that pays under the table.....
that way she doesnt have to fully support you both.
But at least she loves you enough to do that. =]
2006-12-20 02:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you guys need to grow up.. Things don't really go to plan.. and how can you have a girl support you.. what makes you guys think you'll be together forever..
2006-12-20 02:50:03 · answer #8 · answered by crazgrss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋