he says that if i sleep(sex) with him then only he will be with me . i love him a lot and donot want to loose him. but i cannot do what he is asking me to do.i belong to a good family and cannot do this .what should i do now.
2006-12-20 02:42:23 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. "If you sleep with me, I'll know you truly love me." Honey, we've all heard this crap before, and sometimes, some of us have fallen for this load of horse manure. He's completely full of it. If he had ANY respect for you AT ALL, he would understand your feelings and not pressure you. Typical guy just wanting to get into your pants. Sorry to be so blunt. Do NOT go against your principles just because he's pushing you to. You need to find someone who will respect your morals and your wishes. Kick this chump to the curb and get yourself a real man.
2006-12-20 02:46:47 · answer #1 · answered by Koko Loco 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's pretty obvious that he only wants to be with you for sex. Is this the kind of guy you want? You may really like him alot but he doesn't feel the same way about you. It's time to move on and find someone who can appreciate you for who you are without forcing you to have sex as a condition of the relationship. You deserve better.
2006-12-20 10:46:18 · answer #2 · answered by Harley 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he demands that then he is not worth keeping.He is only after sex and if your not ready he needs to understand that and if he is not willing to wait he is not worth it.He does not sound like a gentleman.Be strong for you and don't change for anyone else.Life is too short, love is too deep and there are many other fishes in the sea to catch.Let him walk away and you can find bettter.You need a sweet guy, not a guy who is trying to force you to do something your not ready for.he is being selfish.
2006-12-20 10:46:11 · answer #3 · answered by swtluvingcntrygirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is not worth it at all. If all he wants is sex then he really doesn't love you for you. You should leave him NOW and get a better man that will respect you and your decision!! Don't fall for abuse. You are much better than that. Get the bravery to leave and get out while you still have the chance. Please don't become another victim in the end. If he is acting that way now who knows how he will act in the future. Good Luck.
2006-12-20 10:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by smores 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In a relationship it is very hard to not give into pressure that is putting on you. IF your boyfriend loves you he would not put that type of pressure on you. If he is the understanding type then explain to him the reasons why you are not willing to sleep with him and hopefully he will be more understanding than what you thought. Good Luck!
2006-12-20 10:52:47 · answer #5 · answered by Chipper33 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you love him but you don't share the same beliefs. Nobody should be asked for sex in exchange for staying together. As bad as it may hurt to split, you put a condition on him. If he loves you enough, he will wait. See if he can handle that, if not move on.
2006-12-20 10:46:29 · answer #6 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just trying to make you give him what he wants and not caring about your feelings of beliefs. Obviously he doesn't respect you and he will not wait until you are ready so therefore doesn't care about you. leave him before you do something that you will regret for the rest of your life, stand your ground and don't give in.
2006-12-20 10:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by Beauty&Brains 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, he's trying to get the milk without buying the cow! Drop him like a sack of poo!
2006-12-20 10:44:26 · answer #8 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Break up with him if these are the conditions he sets. Stand your ground. What if you do as he says and he breaks up with you afterward? You lose what you wanted to keep, and you lose him anyway. So, break up.
2006-12-20 10:45:44 · answer #9 · answered by perfectlybaked 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find someone else. Or figure out what YOU want. If you cannot have sex until you are married, it's fine!
2006-12-20 10:45:20 · answer #10 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋