My 15 month old is not?

Question

sharing well. I recently took in my niece and nephew. They are 2 and 4. She is having a really hard time sharing anything. She also has a 2 year old sister that comes over every weekend that she shares fine with. How can I help her to learn to share, and get along with the other kids. They will be with us for 6 months or maybe longer?
Please help, I need some good ideas.

She is socialized regularly as well. We go to weekly playgroups and library groups. We also take kindermusik classes. So she is around other kids her age often.

Answer 1

When your toddler refuses to share his favorite truck (or even his least favorite truck), he isn't really being selfish — he's just acting his age. Sharing is a skill he'll develop over several years. In the meantime, struggles over toys will be common. It's no fun to watch your child grab a toy and shout "Mine!" But if he's playing with other toddlers, he won't be the only one doing it.

That said, kids learn by imitating what they see, so take every opportunity to show your child how to share. Offer him a bite of your meal or a chance to assist in the fun of decorating a cake. As you do, use the word "share" to describe your behavior. ("I'm eating a really good sandwich, and I'd love to share it with you. Would you like some?") When your toddler attempts to share, praise his efforts. Little by little, he'll drink in the positive reinforcement and feel good about repeating those actions that seem to make you so happy. Before long, he'll start sharing because it comes naturally.

Toddlers do lots of "proto-sharing" — showing an object to other people and allowing them to manipulate it without quite letting go. Though it doesn't look like it, it's a big step toward sharing, so reinforce it. "How nice of you to show Seth your telephone," you might say. Later, when he's started playing with something else, you could suggest he pass the phone to his friend, and praise him for doing so. Whether the other child wants the toy at this point is not as important as practicing the act of sharing and being rewarded for it.

One way to avoid tantrums over sharing is to let your child hide a few of his most precious playthings before his friends come over. Tell him these toys are ones he doesn't have to share, then put them away. Make sure your child is aware that what's left is for everyone, though. If he says he doesn't want to hide a favorite toy but you know he'll have trouble sharing it, you might want to buy a duplicate if it isn't an expensive item.

If toys just seem to incite too many quarrels and tugs-of-war, you may want to steer clear of them altogether and engage your child and his playmates in a project such as making pretend cookies with modeling clay or drawing pictures. That way, they can be involved in the same fun activities without having to share possessions.

You should never punish a child, especially one this age, for not sharing. You can let him know you're disappointed and sad when he doesn't share, but that's it. Don't make a big deal out of it. Some of these struggles should be ignored — you don't want sharing to become a parent-child battleground. Let him work this out with other children. When he doesn't share, his friends will let him know in no uncertain terms how unhappy they are, and he'll learn that sometimes it takes hard work to be a good friend!

Answer 2

I do understand My daughter is four and also not so good at sharing but, she is an only child so must of the time she does not have to. But if she is going to be with these kids for a while she will learn to share it just might take a little time hang in there!

Answer 3

At this age, toddlers don't know how to share even if they're used to being around lots of other kids. So, try to help her. When another child tries to take one of her toys, see if you can distract her with something else. Try showing her how to take turns even for short periods of time. Don't expect her to learn to share overnight; she'll learn what it means eventually.

It's important to understand 1 year olds :

Temper tantrums are common. They have difficulty sharing toys. They may be possessive. They want to do things independently. They cannot remember rules. They show increasing fears. They have rapid mood shifts. Their emotions are usually very intense but short-lived. Routines are very important. They enjoy playing by themselves or beside (not with) other children. They view themselves as the center of the world. They may continuously ask for their parents. They become increasingly more self-aware. They begin to express new emotions such as jealousy, affection, pride and shame.

Answer 4

Sharing sucks. It means that everyone only gets half of what they want (at best). It's hard to share and the younger the harder. She is awfully little to understand sharing. Explain that to the 2 and 4 year old and then show them how easy it is to get the baby interested in something new to prevent problems.

Answer 5

Yes, however with a few cautions. We took ours to the zoo for her moment birthday and it used to be simplest half-hour away (now we have performed the aquarium too however she used to be a bit older). It might be first-rate to have two different compassionate adults with you (so if you'll enlist a grandparent or a well buddy) so there are additional individuals to entertain and toodle if/while matters pass south. Plan to take matters fairly gradual and count on to take a first-rate holiday each and every hour or so for a snack and a relaxation considering that they'll get worn out - it is fairly intriguing and overwhelming to a youngster. Also do not plan on staying a fairly very long time. Chances are that you are simplest going to get two or three hours out of them however you might get extra. We acquired two one million/two hours on the zoo and three one million/two on the aquarium. But she idea it used to be the finest factor on the earth whilst it lasted. So so long as your expectancies are practical, do it. As a facet word, mine is just about three and he or she nonetheless thinks a commute to Petsmart (down the street) is the finest factor on the earth. We in general spend approximately an hour and a part in there. They have fish, turtles, birds, hamsters, snakes, puppies and cats, after which we purchase stuff for our possess puppies, cats, and fish.

Answer 6

the best way is to bring her some plays which can be played by1kid so she feel she needs to share

Answer 7

she probably just isn't used to her cuzins!!!!
it takes time!!!
don't worry about it!!!!!
she'll get used to it!!!!good luck!!!~_~