I"m 27-about to be 28 and I met this real handsome 25 year old guy(won't be 26 until summer). He's very smart, and in med school. I know it's only a couple years, but I've never dated anyone younger than me before.
Also, in this age bracket, I'm looking for who will be my life partner(not marry tomorrow, but want to be in serious relationship) whereas I'm afraid someone his age might still be in the playing stage
We haven't even gone on a date yet, so he might be very mature, or heck, we might not even like eachother, but I was just wondering about others experience with this.
Thanks!
2006-12-20 02:36:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-12-20 02:38:04 · answer #1 · answered by ScoprionKing07 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Right now I am dating someone who is also three years younger then me (I'm 23 and he's 20) and to be honest, I don't think that age necessarily dictates one's level of maturity. I was married young (18) to my high school sweetheart and our marriage ended last March due to another infidelity on his behalf. My ex-husband was the same age as me and his level of maturity is more equivalent to that of an adolescent. He is mature in some aspects (like career wise) but as for being able to have a relationship, not so much. He was very immature and cared more about 'leading' the bachelor lifestyle then being a husband and still even after everything that has transpired within the last few months with the divorce, he has not changed and is just doing it to somebody else. However, the guy that I am dating now is extremely mature and kind of caught me off guard because like you, I was expecting him to be different based on his age. I definitely don't think that it is wrong to question one's age especially if you have never dated anyone younger before (this is my first time too) and because of the whole stigma that gets attached that younger guys = less maturity. However, the things that you are looking for (a serious relationship) are things that you have to question about any person you date (if a serious relationship is what you are looking for) regardless of their age. From what you have said about this guy, he seems to have a good head on his shoulders and I feel that it is definitely worth a shot. Just because some guys his age aren't ready to settle down or have a committed relationship, doesn't mean that it applies to him too and I think this guy definitely deserves a chance. I mean to be honest, there are plenty of guys who are older and who are probably still playing the field and aren't ready to have a relationship so once again I don't think age really should be too big of a factor as to whether or not you date him. Perhaps it will only result in a one or few dates and if that's the case at least you can say that you took the risk and can go on without wondering 'what if?' and who knows, this guy could definitely prove all of your doubts wrong and sweep you off your feet. In either case, I don't think that age necessarily has to apply to one's ability to handle the responsibilities of a monogamous relationship and I hope that everything works out for you even if it doesn't necessarily work out with him. Good luck and take care:)
2006-12-20 03:00:01 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I have dated both younger and older men ...... Older by 10 years and younger by 10 years as well.
Every man is different honey ... you might date a guy in his 40's or 50's that has no intention of ever settling down and you may find someone younger who can't wait to start a settle life.
Look at the man not the age when making decisions.
2006-12-20 02:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah. I used to date only older men thinking they were more mature. NOT. Then, I started dating younger men. I was 29 dating a 21 year old, moved on to a 23 year old and have now been married to him for 15 years with two beautiful kids. Go for it.
2006-12-20 02:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never thought I would date a younger man in my life either, but I met this guy named Ryan a few years ago. I was 28 and he was 21. He kept on assuring me that he was a lot older acting than his actual age. I kept pushing him away cuz i thought that he was just too young for me. Well, eventually, i gave in cuz he was just so damb cute! Seriously, he was really good looking. Anyways, he moved in w/me and his age did show throughout our relationship quite a few times, but he treated me good and I fell in love w/him. He is now 24 and I am 31, we just had a baby girl in October who is just precious and we plan to marry. So, it does work, you just have to give it a try. Med school? Those guys have to be very mature and stable to be able to handle that as it is very challenging as far as careers go. Go for it! He'll probably surprise you. Mine did! We are happily in love and I have never been happier. All cuz I gave him a chance.
2006-12-20 02:43:54 · answer #5 · answered by Brooke's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, and he was almost 4 yrs younger. The age difference did not make a bit of diffence.
If the guy doesn't ask you out......why not ask him? Just go out and have fun and get to know each other. Who knows what will happen. Could be the start of something grand.
Good luck
2006-12-20 02:47:39 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My boyfriend is a year younger than I am. At first I was against dating a younger guy, but he treats me better than any older guy that I have dated. And I can tell that he truly loves me. But on the flip side, he is soooooo childish. At first I thought it was cute, but sometimes it works on my nerves. But the fact that he loves me, outweighs all of his childishness. We are happily in love and have a beautiful 5-month old daughter. Sometimes I still think seeing him act silly is cute, but you have to know where seriousness comes into play. But good luck with your relationship and Merry Christmas!
2006-12-20 02:44:29 · answer #7 · answered by Lady Smooth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I have always dated younger men. I went with a guy who was 8 years younger than me. I never thought much about it and never thought that I would go with a guy who is younger than me. My husband is 2 years younger than me. It's no big deal. What does age have to do with anything? He's good to me and we love each other.When I am with someone younger than me then I know that he finds me attractive.I feel good about myself when I am seeing someone younger than me and it always makes me feel young again.
2006-12-20 02:55:19 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes
we did 4 y 2gether and we grow apart, when he started tgoing at clubs i let him a little b/c i did want to lost him and wanted to give a little space and he get attention from other girls and end up cheating on me and i let go.
i break it up when i was 22 and he was 20 going on 21y so u never know.
u guy seem alot older then my time so go with the flow, enjoy like, he is here in your live 4 a reason so have fun what ever happen,
like i said you met him for a reason
2006-12-20 02:46:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sheesh!! 2-3 years makes a big difference? You gotta be kidding
2006-12-20 02:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honey, just go out on a date with the dude! i know easier said than done, and let me tell ya, you prolly won't regret it, no matter how it turns out! Age don't mean jack!
2006-12-20 02:40:42 · answer #11 · answered by whydiduaskthis? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋