I have known this man for almost 2 years now and his job moved him away like 450 miles. Well I have a daughter in high school here and could not go unless I left her. Well to make a long story short he kept giving me ultimatums to come there and ended up moving in with a woman when his lease was up. But started calling me more once he moved in with her well I have to let go but how? My life feels like its over I have nothing to live for.
2006-12-20 02:29:54 · 19 answers · asked by BC 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and why can't you move your daughter with you? look at it like this, if he was your husband, would you be willing to stay behind so your daughter can finish highschool or would you say, hey you have to move too? i also understand your point as well too, trying to be the "good" mommy, etc. she's going to be on her own soon mom, or perhaps all three should discuss this whole thing to see what ideas you all can come up with to please everyone.
2006-12-20 02:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by whydiduaskthis? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my gosh, this is just a man. Please don't tell me that the only thing in life worth living for is a man. Get a hold of yourself. You have a daughter to live for. Stop talking to this man. You have plenty of men where you live. Don't let yourself drift into depression. Fix yourself up, get a new hair style, some new make-up. Read some good self help books. It's time for a fresh new start. Join a health club, or a book club. Get out and meet some new faces. Before you know it you will have a new man in your life. Don't waste any more precious time on a dead relationship.
2006-12-20 10:38:33 · answer #2 · answered by sunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I liked the answer about your daughter needing you! Hey, if she's in high school, it can't be that long of a wait, and 450 miles makes it close enough to get together on weekends. I think he's being a bit selfish, and you're better off.
And what's up with him moving in right away with someone else? Does he want to be taken care of??
2006-12-20 10:35:23 · answer #3 · answered by aggie babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you never really 'let go' of those you love. Even when they have proved themselves unworthy of that love.
What you can do however is distance your feeling by becoming active in something else. You could get involved in some sport or activity, join a club, get a new pet, volunteer somewhere - whatever activity gives you pleasure.
If you have other things to think about and do you are less likely to pine for this man who is giving you pain.
2006-12-20 10:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by Axel M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter is something to live for and she needs you. Yes it is going to suck a lot to try and get over him. It will take time. I know because I went through it not too long ago. I was very distraught and went to a counselor who helped me begin to evaluate what I wanted in life going forward etc. Eventually she encouraged me to see a new guy and I'm so glad that I did because he is truly awesome. I am more happy now that I ever was before.
2006-12-20 10:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by zyllee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have made the mistake that so many women make...they give so much to their man they forget to keep some of themselves apart...in effect they loose their identity and in doing this they loose their ability to see and think outside the box....i'm not saying that giving your life to a man is wrong but only if the man is worthy of you. anyone who gives you ultimatums is not worth it..you say you love him?..ask yourself why and are his actions worthy of your love. when you get up in the morning and can think of nothing else but being with that person and they with you then it is love..if he truly loved you and due to circumstances had to move because of work commitments he would truly find a way to be with you. he certainly wouldnt move in with another woman!!! .this guy is obviously trying to have his cake and eat it. you would be better off in concentrating your affections on yourself...turn your love inwards and find yourself again...form your own circle of friends...get out and discover new things even if its only an exercise class...a man who truly loves you will love you for who you are even if it takes time to find that one person being alone is better than being taken advantage of... a relationship should be equal not one person doing all the giving and the other doing all the taking...don't be a door mat for anyone....your priorities lie with yourself and your child...i wish you well in your new life and count yourself lucky that he is so far away as absence can help you move on quicker than if he were living across town.
2006-12-20 10:47:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that there is someone else out there for you just waiting.
It's not the end of you're life, it's the beginning of something greater.Sounds like you're whole world was wrapped around him.You need to concentrate more on "YOU". Pay more attention to friends & family now.These are the people that realy matter.
2006-12-20 10:41:59 · answer #7 · answered by jimbobob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him moving off has nothing to do with if you have anything to live for or not. You are hurt and was forced to make a decision between him and your daughter.
You made the RIGHT choice. No argument about it, you made the right choice that you will never regret. He shouldn't of put you in that position if he was worth a crap anyways. Personally, your better off without him because you can do better. He chose a job over a relationship with you. Think about it??????
Come to your senses. #1 He tried to put conflict between you and your child #2 He picked his job over you.
PS: You have plenty to live for. Yourself, your child and you have a really bright future ahead of you because your smart and you make right decisions.
2006-12-20 10:39:19 · answer #8 · answered by Wondrin Dude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Use this time to spend time with your daughter - you made the right decision - she is your life, your responsibility. She is still there, you chose her, so live for her now.
He made his choice & you made yours. He moved in with another woman? & now he's talking to you? & You miss this loser? Seriously, what do you think he is telling his "roommate"? Get over it, you are better off without him.
Be grateful for your daughter - let her know you love her & ask her for advice... I'm sure she's wiser than you think.
2006-12-20 10:35:31 · answer #9 · answered by CoronaGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have life and you have a daughter so do not say that you have nothing.
Forget the man and move on.
2006-12-20 10:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋