Should I Move?? Parents seem to hate me... Im 16?

Question

My parents call me a faliure at life and say im wasting it up in my room. But whenever i try to go and do stuff, they ask so many questions and are so strict that its not even worth it. They have banned me from doing everything i love for no real reason. I have a place i could go and stay until i go to college... Do you think it would be a good idea? By the way, my parents pretty much disown me... im not quite sure why tho

Answer 1

I think you should move out as long as you have a place to go. I know how you feel my parents were the same way.

Answer 2

I would say to try and talk to them about how you feel first. Find out why they are treating you this way and be sure to tell them how it makes you feel. If they are being strict and asking questions then it sounds like they truly care or just being nosy. Ever thing deserves a chance, if talking don't work, and you feel like you would be better off leaving then go. But don't just give up no matter what your parents say or do they love you. If you do leave make sure to keep in touch with them because once you stop talking it can be hard to start again. What ever you do Good Luck.

Answer 3

I'm sure your parents love you very much, when I was sixteen I felt just like you. I wanted to do what I wanted but it just doesn't work that way. Parents sometime get on our nerves but believe me they are looking out for your best interest. If you leave you will only have to deal with others telling you what to do as well. You only have a couple of yrs left until graduation hang in there ( the grass is not always greener on the other side)

Answer 4

My husband left his Mom and Dad's home when he was 16. Moved out on his own and had a real hard time. He did not talk to his Dad for 14 years and it was real hard on his mom. Her dieing wish was that they talk and become a family again. Think long and hard about this. They may not be the best but they are your Mom and Dad. The only ones that you will ever have. Try telling them how you feel. If you can't talk to them wright them a letter and see what happens. Or talk to an aunt or uncle and ask for their help. Good Luck

Answer 5

I think you should sit down and have a talk with them and find out why they feel this way .. I am a parent and my son always is in his room , I hate it .. it feels to me that he does not want to be apart of his family , he is only 11 years old , but still I wish he would spend some time with me ( his mother ).. sit down with your mom alone if that would be better .. some times having both parents is to much .. then you feel like you are out numbered.. I bet you Will find that is not how your parents feel ..I know it gets sicking when parents ask were, when ,who ,why ,how long .. When I was younger my mom did the same thing to me . I hated it , But know as a mom my self I do the same thing .. it is not that we want to be nosy , but to know you are safe .. now days to many weirdo's out there .. give them a chance ..

Answer 6

1 your parents never hate you, its not your fault and never will be your fault, for your dad accusing your mother of an affair. #2 for christmas if you have money you can go hotel in a cabin and have a winter fun vacation, if you can't maybe go to a buffet without your dad. And tips i really don't know never been in your situation but I think if you can try talking to your dad and saying your yelling is effecting and hurting my feelings and the whole family while mom did nothing wrong if you wanna yell and fight take it outside and go to a relationship counselor, which i suggest is a really good idea for them to take. You can google search a counselor in your area which is good in the relationship area. Hope i helped Bless! and have a have a happy soon to be christmas!

Answer 7

So much negativity on both sides. Your parents do love you and you have to remember that. I am the parent of four kids and one is sixteen. I ask him alot of questions too, but I won't to know what is going on and he won't tell me unless I ask. Why don't you join a club or team so you can get out of the house more? Then your parents know where you are and will stop hassling you about being a failure. Don't runaway or move out. It will only cause more problems for you and them. Trust me on this one! Good Luck!

Answer 8

I know it is hard to be in a place that your at right now because you may be getting stuck on how they are with you and blind to what your doing or not doing. In a house hold it is hard when you have even one person that slacks off and does nothing around the house to make it function smoothly. It is like trying to run a car with on piston giving up. It makes it hard and it gets to everyone. So if your this piston that slacks off take a good look and recognize it and make this piston do its job and you will see that as soon as this happens things begin to fall in place. Recognize truly what your doing or not doing. My mom got upset with me but i didn't' stop to recognize that the piston that was making the house hold run with so much drag was me. When i got a little older i recognized that if i had just done the small things like clean my room help out around the house and if i had not hung out with kids that wanted me to fail with them , that my life would have went smoother for sure. For the sake of you and your family who love you and must be at their Witt's end and for your own life. Really look at who IS the piston that is making this car drag behind , what piston is not pulling their weight???

Answer 9

I hate to hear that your relationship with your parents is so negative. Have you tried sitting your parents down for a talk to get to the bottom of this? Have you let them know how their words affect you? If you really feel that you have to get away from that situation to be happy, I'd say go somewhere you feel safe and accepted. You deserve to be happy and uplifted, not degraded and disowned.

Answer 10

It's amazing how your perspective changes when you get older! I can remember being punished or questioned when I was 15 or 16 and I thought my parents were being completely irrational and bogus! I rebelled - and someone told my mom to let off me, get off my case a little, that I was a good kid - and she did. I ended up going off the deep end thinging my mom had given up on me. I ended up pregnant at 17 and graduating High School by the skin of my teeth!
Stay home! Talk to your parents! And trust me, you will discover later in life that they loved you and had good intentions. Like a lightbulb was turned on in my head, it all makes sense to me when I listen to myself talking to my kids.
Parents are not perfect - and neither are kids, especially teenagers! But they do love you!