im kinda confused i want to come to him on a serious approach what should i say need help quick?
2006-12-20 02:19:01 · 15 answers · asked by dipset da chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to find out if he is indeed cheating on you. Do not accuse him of anything at all.
2006-12-20 02:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im sure you have reasons for suspecting. Don't accuse him---just ask him questions. Like--is there some reason you go into the other room when your cell phone rings? Or---why did you tell me you would be home at 5 and it was after 10? Give him a chance to answer you and be honest...but then tell him, even if he doesn't give you a straight up answer that you feel like when he does those things that he is seeing someone else. That you want to be with him, and hope nothing else is happening. That certainly gives him room enough to either come clean or hang himself. Good luck.
2006-12-20 10:24:18 · answer #2 · answered by donnabellekc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your man is cheating, he has no respect for you. He may think he loves you, but no repsect. If that's the type of BOY you want to waste your time on, then that's pretty sad.
You need to have a little more love for yourself. Why do you think you deserve to be with a man who's going to spit on your love for him by sleeping with another chick. I mean, do you hate yourself or something?
You sound younger that I am and I remember being just like you when I was a young woman. Been there, done that. My advice to you is to drop his sorry azz immediately. Yea, it's going to suck for a bit, but it's for the best. He's a loser and immature and a weak excuse for a man or boy or whatever he considers himself.
Worst case scenario - He gives your herpes or worse! Love yourself, darling. Don't set yourself up for failure because if you allow this, you'll allow everyone else in your life to walk over you, as well.
2006-12-20 10:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by 11:11 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit him down and tell him you need to have a serious talk look him n the eyes and ask him if he's cheating if he says no then accept it for now but tell him what you do in the dark always comes into light and if you find out different your leaving because he just sat and looked you in the eyes and lied so forgive but never forget and if you finally find out he is cheating leave him do not stick around because if you do he may feel he can cheat all the time and know you not going to leave him!!!GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-20 10:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by new life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for a start you have to be 100% positive he is,,,and if he is you need to get rid of him, if you really love someone you never cheat,as for a approaching him,,is there anyway you can catch him out, or just bring up the subject cheating,,like hey have you seen that show cheaters how awful that people can do that hey,,,and see what he says,,,then hit him with the big artilery,,, hope it helps , and good luck
2006-12-20 10:25:28 · answer #5 · answered by danz_vb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you think or do you know? If you know for sure, you have to confront him.
You have to realize first that this may not work out. Don't sell yourself short and stay w/ a cheater. You need to be available when a good man comes along. In the meantime, you may be lonely.
2006-12-20 10:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you should approach him calmly and give him reasons WHY you feel this way ... don't start off with accusations because he will become defensive. But if you really know for certain that he is cheating, then maybe you should just leave him. Leave a note.
2006-12-20 10:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by danika1066 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he is cheating first. Accusing him is horrible especially if he is innocent. On a lighter note you can always higher that Cheaters show to find out.
2006-12-20 10:24:14 · answer #8 · answered by detfan12_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
don't try to sugarcoat anything, just get straight to the point: "are you cheating on me?" if he denies it, tell him exactly why you think he's cheating on you. if he still denies it, then it's up to you whether or not you believe him. if you want to try and work things out with him, then that's your decision to make, just keep in mind that the majority of people who cheat once will cheat again.
2006-12-20 10:27:02 · answer #9 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you don;t know what to say then your not even serious about the cheating thing so let it go i think you should move on and dump him otherwise he might leave you for that girl
2006-12-20 10:24:12 · answer #10 · answered by maya 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋