My significant other is a friendly type of guy. He likes to joke around & is an extrovert. I am quite & shy. Sometimes he is a little too friendly with women at the store when we are to gether. For example: He asked a women who was shopping at the grocery store what she doing for christmas & asked her what is she making for this christmas. Another time he asked a young cashier what church she attends & if she lives around here. Am I being too sensitive? He tells me I hope you are not upset when I am talking to those girls or joking around with them. He did tell me that one girl was cute but not as cute as me. It kinda used to bother me alot in the past but now it doesn't bother me as much. I never told him that it bothered me because I don't want him to think I am insecure. When he was away on business trip he told me a woman asked him if he was single because she wanted to hook him up with another woman. We are faithful to each other & love each other very much. Should I worry?
2006-12-20 02:17:05 · 12 answers · asked by cluelesschickus 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont think that you should worry. i think that he is just being friendly, which to me, is a good thing. if he is faithful like you say he is, you have nothing to worry about. but you should tell him how you feel.
2006-12-20 02:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by sasha_miller_2008 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
IF your not capable of letting him know of your insecurities, then it's possible your setting yourself up for a world and life of alot of pain!!
He needs to hear it from you how it bothers you. So what if your insecure. Alot of us are in way or another.
You say you trust and love each other now, but will you be on here in 6 months asking us what you should do because you found out he's cheating?
There has to be a reason why this great guy is telling you about the women on his trips away from home. WHY would any guy do that? He's doing it, because he knows it hurts!!
Tell him how it bothers you.
2006-12-20 10:24:40 · answer #2 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I think that he's not acting out of the ordinary. When he's asking what she's making for Christmas or what church she attends, that's not exactly a pick up line. Those women, for the most part, won't be interested in him "like that." Being extrovert and charismatic is simply part of his personality and compliments yours (from what I understand) nicely. If he were more like you, there probably wouldn't be an attraction between you.
If you're worried that he's cheating, or might be thinking about it, find a nice time and ask him. It's ok for him to know that you're insecure, just don't NAG him with insecurity. For example, my wife ALWAYS notices if I check out another woman. She remembered an occasion 4 months ago! She's not insecure, she's observant! She didn't pounce on me for it, but one day I brought it up and we discussed the issue. I have made a policy, which it sounds like your man has done, that when I see another attractive woman, I look at my wife deliberately, check her out, and compliment her beauty. :) :) I made a choice to love her, and I think your man has too. Unless he's making overt sexual advances (in which case you should literally kick him in the butt!), he's probably just being friendly and outgoing... both attractive qualities!
2006-12-20 10:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by bluebelly83 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think he's insecure if he has to PROVE his desiribility by asking u, 'I hope you're not upset...' question. Well at least he is being friendly IN FRONT OF U. In the future, just dont talk along side him to those strangers, who'll no doubt will think you're both weird. I say tic for tac: while he's doing what he wants to continue doing, do it back to against him with a cute male stranger.
2006-12-20 10:24:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I'm wondering how long you've been together? If it's been a year or more, then don't sweat it. There's nothing wrong with being social. And it seems like he's open and honest with you. I think that means he gives you credit for being more confident than you actually are, that says allot about how he views you. Have confidence in yourself. He is your man you have to believe that and let him know you confident that he's not going anywhere. Stick your chest out a bit, there's nothing wrong with being secure in yourself. Remember a confident woman is a sexy woman.
2006-12-20 10:29:02 · answer #5 · answered by majones83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just smile and say nothing. Now if the conversation he is having with another female becomes sexual in anyway, then I would consult him in private. Never let another woman see your weakness. She will zero inon that and use it against you!
I am an extrovert and my husband is an introvert. I would want him to allow me to be me and realize that I am not planning on leaving him because I speak to other men.
2006-12-20 10:24:19 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wanna know the truth?? the real truth coming from a guy?? HE'S the one who's insecure. This is why he keeps doing this. He needs reassurance from other women to make sure he's "got it". You need to tell him that you "notice" when he's there. He may also be trying to impress you. He is doing this because you are very nice, but seem naive. Show him that you are becoming independent, and see how fast he'll change his ways. Talk to another guy in front of him, I'll bet you he'll be jealous. Listen, life's short, don't play this stupid childish game.
Merry Xmas
2006-12-20 10:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by godzillasagoodman 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He's trying to make you jealous, in my opinion. He is acting like a child trying to see how much he can get away with. You must set some boundaries for your relationship or before you know it, he'll be telling you how he actually DID hook up with someone.
Tell him that you're not okay with his familiar behaviors with other women and you don't appreciate hearing about every female that crosses his path. Every relationship has rules, it's time you established some.
2006-12-20 10:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by vicarious_notion 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds to me like he was only being friendly and making conversation. If you don't suspect him of cheating just let him be him self. Sounds like you are being a little insecure. I
2006-12-20 10:23:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I THINK YOU SHOULD JUST NOT JUMP THE GUN BUT WHILE HE'S HAVING THE DISSCUSSION WITH THEM WHERE ARE YOU ARE YOU NEXT TO HIM IS HE ACKNOWLEDGING YOU AS HIS GIRLFRIEND IS HE INTRODUCING YOU AS HIS GIRLFRIEND IF HE IS NOT DOING THAT YOU HAVE A PROMBLEM , ANOTHER THING KNOW THAT YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL AS WELL KEEP TELLING YOURSELF THAT BE CONFIDENT IN YOU KEEP THE ATTITUDE THAT HE'S NOT THE ONLY MAN THAT WANTS YOU
2006-12-20 10:29:29 · answer #10 · answered by Angela H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋