to be envious of anyone else is wrong. How to control it when you know your friend seems to have what you have

Question

wanted the most in your life. I am a Christian and I do not want to be like that, but sometimes we just can't help it. HOw to send away the bad feelings?

to some answers, I thank you, to others, I prefer just to ignore, as for some pictures as well.

Answer 1

That is a great question, as I too struggle with that sometimes. What helps me is this:
1. To get my attention off of the other person. Off of what they have, that I may wish I had.. I find that helping people is a great way to do that.
2. Too look at what I have. I know it's an old answer, but it really does work. When I look at ALL God has done for me and blessed me with and given me, I don't think so much on what I don't have.
3. Try to put yourself in that person's shoes...if God blessed you with such and such, wouldn't you want the people in your life to truely be happy for you? Now, if they flaunt it in your face, that is their problem and something that they need to work on. But try to truely be happy for them.
4. Examine WHY you want what they have. Is it for the right reasons? If your motives for wanting that is pure, make a list of steps you can take to reach that goal. Believe that if you do your part, God will take care of the rest. If you are actively working towards something, and believe that you are going to reach that goal, and don't give up, you WILL see results.
5. Know that God does know what is best. Reminds me of that Garth Brooks song, Thank God for unanswered prayers. I can look back on my life and think of times that I REALLY wanted something and prayed and prayed but it never came about , and look back now and think..Whew! I am GLAD I didn't have that..it would have been a mess. God DOES know what he is doing. It is always God's will to have people saved and healed and free, etc. It says so in His word. But there are things not in the bible ( like what school you should attend, etc) that comes down to the plan He has for YOU and what is right for YOU. Just because something may be right for your friend, and LOOK good to you and even feel right to you, it really may not be.
HTH God bless you

Answer 2

Well the Bahai faith teaches us

The betterment of the world cam be accomplished through pure and goodly deeds, through commendable and seemly conduct.
~ Baha'u'llah ~

So what I get from that is to try really hard to have pure intentions, and do good deeds not just talk about it.

I am really proud of how hard you are trying to be a good friend.

And trust me your time will come too, Allah'u'Abha!

Meg
http://www.bahai.us/

Answer 3

Yes, it is wrong, but jealousy is a real emotion and it's okay to have it, but wrong to act on it in a negative way. Sometimes when these negative emotions surface the best thing to do is smile, and find out what you can do in your life to improve your situation, jealous of a car, work hard to get your own, jealous of your friends perfect relationship, find your own, etc.

Answer 4

Well heck that is easy just list all the wonderful things you have that don't cost money!
Prayer works.. just ask the Lord for help in this temptation.
Ask and you will receive.

Answer 5

I'm thinking if you were truly a christian and believed in your faith, this wouldn't be a problem.
You realize you are breaking a commandment?
Talk to your pastor or something.
BTW, this doesn't really sound like you are full of life and compassion, perhaps a re-appraisal of you who you are is in order.

Answer 6

try to take all the jealous energy and use it to work towards gaining what ever it is that you wish you had. since im not completely sure what your envious of, this is a very vague answer and im sorry for that.

Answer 7

I simply learn to appreciate what is around me. If you lost all that surrounds you right now, would you suddenly realize it's value?

Peace and Merry Christmas.
Please send me a new puppy toy to chew up.

Answer 8

You sound uninteresting and usual. :p Actually you sound like a young person. So I take it you do recognize what a sociopath is? And I additionally take it you've gotten spent a few study into figuring out what the features of sociopathy are? Well forgot all that! I did the equal factor a couple of years in the past. In truth I grew to become very good versed in what defines ALL the character issues (they are all on wikipedia). And wager what? I satisfied myself I had a few blend of the Schizoid character ailment, the Narcissistic character ailment, and an anti-social character (that's the equal factor sociopathy) But wager what? In truth I did not have any of the ones issues... Yes, some of the first matters you must recognize earlier than you're making the equal mistake I did, all the symptons of the ones character ailment are written in an excessively indistinct and generalized method. EVERY healthful and usual man or woman has a minimum of three to four of the "stipulations" those supposedly mentally unwell individuals have. And individuals who're depressed by and large have extra (despite the fact that they do not have a character ailment!) Secondly it isn't well to self-diagnose youself or emerge as interested with the concept that you've a distinctive ailment. There has been study performed that indicates that individuals who believe they've a specific ailment, whilst they do not, start to begin appearing like they do have that ailment. It's bizarre, however by means of pondering you're some thing, you begin to emerge as that factor (even though you by no means have been to start with). It occurred to me. Now what I'm pronouncing is, you most commonly shouldn't have a significant ailment (you are not a sociopath). I'm now not pronouncing you shouldn't have ANY challenge (considering that like me, you most commonly do). But much more likely you've gotten most commonly simply received it into your head that you've a significant intellectual challenge and feature been overanalyzing your habits to the factor that you simply believe you honestly do. ----- Here's my individual instance. I have an incredibly intricate time speakme with individuals. As a effect I spend so much, to all, my time by myself. When I was once in top university this was once very frightening to me considering that I was once continually by myself and remoted. You see even as every person else had peers, having fun with top university, going areas, and was once having amusing I received to spend my lunch in the toilet and spent hours of time by myself in my condominium. Okay now then, there is a character ailment in the market known as the Schizoid character ailment (SPD) that's characterised by means of a loss of curiosity in social relationships, many times sexually apathetic, an inclination closer to a solitary culture, secretiveness, and emotional coldness. Which all gave the impression of me. Because therefore of being by myself I was once bloodless, now not having intercourse, being solitary, and being secretive (purpose I did not speak). As a effect of this I suggestion I was once a Schizoid. Now wager what? I'm now not, see by means of being a loner I NATURALLY had all the ones traits with out honestly having any ailment whatever... I misdiagnosed myself considering that the Schizoid character ailment was once so by and large characterised it would are compatible EVERY loner on this planet (however now not each and every loner has a intellectual challenge or is Schizoid!). I additionally misdiagnosed myself with a Narcissitic character ailment and an Anti-social character ailment. And wager what? I'm additionally now not narcissistic, see by means of being by myself I grew to become incredibly unbiased, which in flip gave me features of a narcissist. And in a similar way by means of being by myself I grew to become fairly depressed and emotionally bloodless which gave me features of a sociopath, despite the fact that I wasn't... You see the factor? You're most commonly depressed. As a effect it is most commonly given you traits like a sociopath. Depression motives individuals to be uncaring, remoted, self-interested, and so forth. You most commonly are not a sociopath although. You certainly simply believe you're considering that your melancholy has given you extraneous features.

Answer 9

just take it easy,and if having had the bad feeling,
you will be OK gradual.

Being a mankind,everyone has the feeling that we cannot help.

Answer 10

Envy is caused by harbouring sin in your heart. Ask GOD to create in you a clean heart.