well four months ago when I was going to go clubbing with a friend he had stopped me because he was unconfortable about it.....so I said ok......as long as you dont go to a bar without me....I wont go clubbing without you.....but just today a friend has asked him and now it seems like he had forgotten all about it.....and wants to go on his own.....I'm not sure what I should do......it just seems hes being really unfair about all this
2006-12-20 02:07:28 · 13 answers · asked by Nadya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You love another person, you do not own them. It sounds like your relationship has trust issues. You need to work through this or it will not be a healthy relationship. He should be able to go out with his friends and you should also be trusted by him to go out with yours. Respect, trust, honesty are elements of a good relationship. Work on this.
2006-12-20 02:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say let him go but let him know that you are gonna go out with your friends also. Maybe the last time the issue came up he was a little insecure about it (which is silly to me but whatever) but now that the shoe is on the other foot.. if you show him that you trust him and that you want to go out also.. and he says no again. Well then you really need to have a serious talk because there is something going on that you need to find out "what is up".
Yes he is being unfair about this but he could also just be stupid and forgotten about his insecurity.
Dr prescribes a girls night on the town!
2006-12-20 02:23:43 · answer #2 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is. You made a pact, and being boyfriend and girlfriend, then he should honor that pact. You should go clubbing now, if you feel like it, or tell him politely that you don't want him to go to a bar without you. Tell him that you feel it's unfair. He should trust you, and then talk things over from there.
2006-12-20 02:10:55 · answer #3 · answered by i6am6satan6 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
When he goes out, make a point of going out on your own also. It is a great chance to spend time with friends which is a very healthy thing to do.
2006-12-20 02:11:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
The two of you need to talk, and you need to give him friendly reminder. What is good for one is good for the other. However, i personally think it is very unhealthily that neither one has enough trust in the other to hang out alone with friends. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-20 02:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys do not have a healthy mature relationship. If either of you wants to go out with friends, then you should just go. You don't need your boyfriend's permission and he doesn't need yours.
2006-12-20 02:11:01 · answer #6 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go where you want and he can go where he wants. And if theres a problem then maybe there needs to be more trust in your relationship.
2006-12-20 02:11:26 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is unfair; if it is ok for him to go out with the guys then it is ok for you to go out with the girls. Put your foot down!
2006-12-20 02:13:15 · answer #8 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes let him but only if you can go clubbing without him
2006-12-20 02:10:56 · answer #9 · answered by germanrose20 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You both are. You shouldn't limit each other like that. It's about trust, and if there is no trust, there is no relationship.
2006-12-20 02:10:18 · answer #10 · answered by Jessie P 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋