I have been dating my boyfriend for 3 years and we live together. This past weekend we each went out seperatly with different groups of friends then met up later that night. I told him where I was and who we were with. The next day while I was sleeping he went into my phone call log found a phone # that he did not know and called it. The # was my girlfriend's co-worker phone. She borrowed it because she forgot hers at home and I was running late to met them. He did not tell me about it and deleted the dialed call off the phone log. My friend called me and told me what he did and then he admitted it. I felt violated by what he did and was/am pissed about it. He claims he trusts me but I believe his actions say the opposite.
2006-12-20 02:03:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
omg!!@
Wow.. i would be SO pissed off about that.
"Trust" is not double checking everything you say.
Sounds like this boys trust is just so far as he can see what you are doing AND he called the number? sweet hopping jeebus i would have chuck norris-ed all over his Emo butt.
But turn about is fair play.. i say check his call log and junk. If he has cleared/deleted it then you know hes worthless.
Alot of people who are paranoid at being cheated on are the ones doing the cheating and the guilty conscience comes through.
Dr prescribes a pimp slap to your live in spy in training..
2006-12-20 02:09:15 · answer #1 · answered by Prof. Timpo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is going to be super hard for you to hear, but this is absolutely the best advice you will ever get (and I'm not the only one giving it here): get out of that relationship right now. Look, it's not going to be easy. I get that. But when it comes to men that hit women, it's not a beginning-of-a-relationship thing. It's a he's-abusive-even-if-he-is-usually-nice thing. I would seriously consider informing the police or else a women's safety hotline/organisation about what's going on. But if you don't want to do that then please just leave. Honestly, you're not safe with him. Remember this always: No one has the right to hurt you. No one has the right to destroy your possessions. No matter how angry someone is, it is NEVER okay for them to hit you/slap you/push you or even touch you in any way. Protect yourself. You are worth so much more than what you have now.
2016-05-22 23:55:25 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well look at the BIG pic...
#1. he must really care about you
#2. he wants to reasurre himself about you..........
#3 I think hes preparing to take the next step in a relationship
#4 If you have nothing to hide heck let him check it. It will only give him security to know the offer is open, and soon the cell phone who even be an issue to him.
#5 is you refuse then he will think you have something to hide and that will make him so curious to wanna check it everyday
#6 check his also
heres something sweet you can do it if you like. go to netzero.com and sign up for a FREE voicemail box. they will give you a local number, you can create a voicemail messgae esp to him and tell him how much you care about him and checking a cell phone is meaning-less.
tell him you love IF YOU DO.
once you get the voicemail number,,,,,,text yourself a message that says call me now i need to talk to you ...(leaving the voicemail number) he will see the text and get curiuos and prob call the number or ask you about the number. He will feel good at the same time, i bet he wont check your phone again.
good luck
2006-12-20 02:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No need to be mad if this is the first time he's done this. You have nothing to hide so just laugh at the matter. If he continues to check your phone then he doesn't trust you and that's something you should talk to him about. Trust is a big part of a relationship.
2006-12-20 02:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you continue your relationship with this moron you can expected more of the same. And if you ever slip up and do something then he will be able to justify his stupid actions. I am sure he has been checking up on you a lot and this is probably the first time you caught him. I could not stand that type of betrayal.
2006-12-20 02:11:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be mad, that is invading your privacy. Tell him how you felt about it, and how it felt like he didn't trust you. Say that you don't want to fight, you just TRULY want to know what he thinks of you, and why he did it. When he answers, and if he says he doesn't trust you that well, tell him you'd never cheat on him, that he is the BEST guy in the world. THen hug him, and maybe kiss him. Remember, not everything ends in a fight, fighting is not a solution.
2006-12-20 02:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would be pissed and if he trusted you why did he go thrue your call log on your phone but alot of men do have trust issues and he may have gotten cheated on before and that could be why he is being the way he is being he may love you and not want to lose you as well
2006-12-20 02:08:36 · answer #7 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This definitely shows a lack of trust and you have a right to be angry about it. With that said, if you did nothing wrong, tell him what you think and move on.
2006-12-20 02:09:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He lied, no he doesn't trust you. If he did he wouldn't check you phone. Just think about what he will do if you get married. Maybe you should check his phone.
2006-12-20 02:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by harold 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
obviously ther are some trust issues in your relatonship.if he doesnt have any reason to not trust you then tell him that and tell him that if he wants to know sumthing about you or wants to look at yuor phone or sumthing that alls he has to do is ask and you will be willing to show him but you rilly shouldnt have to do that if he loves you then he should be able to trust you jus tell him that he has nothing to worry about that you are his and no one elses and that you want him and noo ne else
2006-12-20 02:09:15 · answer #10 · answered by xxrlhoodratxx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋