i recently had sex with this friend, I had being with him for sometime and all seemed to be alright, just when i realised i was in love with him he tells me he has a fiance but is also in love with me what should i do? should i forget all about him and let him go or should i fight for him since he says he's also in love with me?
2006-12-20 02:01:40 · 24 answers · asked by Naughty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
are you guy or girl?
2006-12-20 02:04:44 · answer #1 · answered by wrfab 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am I correct in assuming that you're a man and he's a man? The only reason that matters is because I'm wondering--you said he has a fiance. So he's engaged to a woman? I think that you should definitely sit down and have a long talk with him about this. For his sake and her sake--at LEAST--he should not be getting married if he is not fully heterosexual. It's going to lead to a life of pain for him, and agony for her when she finds out. And she WILL find out, eventually. That's not even including the fact that he's in love with someone else. (Whether or not that someone else is a man or a woman doesn't even matter.) Studies have shown that the majority of bisexual men eventually become fully homosexual, so the chances are pretty good that his feelings will eventually go entirely that way. If he feels that he's in love with you, then he should at the very least not plan a wedding until he gets this fully straightened out in his mind. He needs to be fair to himself, her, and you. As for YOU, until he does, don't give your heart to him TOO completely. He might not be ready to acknowledge his sexual orientation, at least not publicly, and you're going to wind up with a broken heart. Good luck to you.
2006-12-20 02:15:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jess H 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i know u're really in a tough situation.but the best thing to do is to talk to the guy and ask him if he still wanted to marry his fiance or he'll choose you over her.
then,if he still wanted to continue his relationship with his fiance,you need to respect his decision even though how hard it is to accept but it would be the truth.let him go.he can't be in two places at a time.
get a time for you two to talk..
2006-12-20 02:09:21 · answer #3 · answered by chicky_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he loves you enough to leave his fiance. If he says yes than you should continue seeing him. If loving him is wrong I am sure that right now you dont want to be right.
2006-12-20 02:07:57 · answer #4 · answered by Hillary N 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. If he's truly into you, he'll leave the fiance and come back to you.
Note to other answerers: It really doesn't matter if the asker is a male or female!
2006-12-20 02:05:38 · answer #5 · answered by Ali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u i'm confused r u a boy r girl but he's goin 2 get married to whoever an i'msure he loves thta person so i would say let go caz there r way more people in this world
2006-12-20 02:05:34 · answer #6 · answered by Restricted 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TO FIGHT OR TO LET GO ? THIS IS SOMETHING YOU MUST THINK ABOUT CAREFULLY YOU CAN AND WILL FIND THE ANSWER YOU JUST HAVE TO TAKE IT DAY BY DAY AS TIMES GOES BY YOU WILL SEE CHANGES IN THE RELATIONSHIP IN FACT YOUR PARTNER WILL BE THE ONE TO SHOW U WHICH PATH TO TAKE WITH HIS OR HER ACTIONS SO KEEP YOUR EYES WIDE OPEN LISTEN TO EVERY WORD SPOKEN BY YOUR PARTNER AND BEFORE YOU KNOW IT YOU WILL HAVE THE ANSWER THE REASON I SAY THIS IS BECAUSE ALL RELATIONSHIPS ARE DIFFERENT ONLY YOU CAN FIND THE ANSWER BE STRONG AND OPEN MINDED IF IT IS MEANT TO BE IT WILL BE GOOD LUCK
2006-12-20 02:23:56 · answer #7 · answered by champainlady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he sounds like a player let him go cause if youtruly loved you why would he be engaged to someone else there are more men in this world and you will find one that just totally takes your breath and heart out of your chest
2006-12-20 02:05:27 · answer #8 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really looks as though you must accept that he is commit ed to his fiancee,you may love him,which is very understandable,but its obvious he has no intention of parting from his fiancee, part good friends,it will be hard and hurt full but not as bad as if he dumped you
2006-12-20 02:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him. He needs to grow up. If he is willing to cheat on his fiance now - what will stop him from cheating on you in the future ?
2006-12-20 02:14:14 · answer #10 · answered by Dr Sixpack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i he's got a fiance, she did not just turn up yesterday and no matter how much u luv him, dump him, he's a lying rat and if he's cheated on her then he's cheating on u, get shot of him and see what else is out there.
2006-12-20 02:44:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋