They are kind of dating, but he won't make a move. He takes her out and spends time with her, and you would think they are boy/girl friend. But.....they are not making the next move. He keeps waiting, like, not doing anything, and she's frustrated. She says they are not dating now, but he keeps showing up. Now he bought her Christmas gifts, and she is like "?" I said she should just grab him and make out w/ him and he's hooked for life. She says, OMG I need to get him something now, stupid boys, what do I do? Well. Please help :) Legit answers only please.
2006-12-20 02:01:06 · 16 answers · asked by cycwow 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a gift to you does not mean you have to give one back in return..and guilt is no reason to buy one
2006-12-20 02:03:15 · answer #1 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coming from a guy's perspective, I think she should if she really has a thing for him...if not, he's just playing the the man he should be, it's not about what you get, but what you give...He's making an effort, if she is hooked on him, a little gift for him won't hurt. BTW, have these "two' been dating for some time, or has the dating started around Christmas? I have the same situation now, won't make the move, but I need to show her I care, so I have to make a decision. Guys make the move first, it's nice to see a girl suprised, but nicer to see both of them suprised as well. So she should take the dive, maybe he will open up more, and express his feelings. Hope this helps in any way.
2006-12-20 02:09:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he really likes her but is nervous around her. Sure she should buy him gifts also to let him know she is thinking of him too. She shouldn't make a move but wait on him. He will eventually warm up to her. I hope this helps. Take care and have a wonderful Christmas.
2006-12-20 02:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are spending time as a couple. Most likely they are a couple. Maybe she doesn't really want to be with him. In this day and age she doesn't have to wait for him to make the first move. Tell her to be aggressive and I agree with you. Grab him and kiss him. but to answer your question. Yes she should get him a little something.
2006-12-20 02:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is the season for giving, but in a case like this there is something very simple and low cost that she could do.
Go to any store that sells cards. Tell her (or is it YOU?) to get a card for him, and inside write that she has feelings and wants to be with him. Then write that she's put a 'flip' on the whole gift giving idea, and that she's actually 'requesting' a gift - that he be with her.
problem solved
2006-12-20 02:08:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mister 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just because he doesn't "make the next move" (which it take it you mean,have sex) doesnt mean hes not interested in her. cant they be legitimately dating without having sex.? he obviously likes her or he wouldnt be spending time with her and buying her gifts. if she is interested in him, she should buy a gift in return,if shes not, then she shouldnt bother.maybe he just wants to actually get to know her really well before he "makes the next move". she should be flattered by this, but if shes not, then she should move on and find a more superficial guy who'll be more than anxious to "make the first move" by wanting to get into her pants after one date, if thats what she needs in order to prove that hes really interested in her.
2006-12-20 02:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by mickey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give him a card that portrays your feelings. Then maybe add a gift certificate to a restaraunt you want to eat at. Hopefully he puts the two together and takes you out to your favorite restaraunt.
Good luck!
2006-12-20 02:12:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She doesn't need to buy him anything. It's a gift.
If she feels guilty if she not get him anything, then get something. Or else, just let it be.
2006-12-20 02:10:26 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but if you have been together for a long time well its far for both to buy a gift to each other
2006-12-20 02:10:02 · answer #9 · answered by Ana V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes but something small, no reason to go over the top, just something that says im thinking of you kind of thing
2006-12-20 02:03:43 · answer #10 · answered by batts1030 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋