I've been with my partner for 6 years now we have 2 kids we lived together before but we broke up and now I'm living by myself and he's still living at home. I've heard rumors that he's cheated on me before while we were together and I kinda had a feeling that he has and every time I bring it up he's says I'm crazy or that I need help. I've tried breaking up with him but he always comes back and says how we've been together for so long ect. ect......... I'm not even sure if I'm in love with him or if it's just that I'm used to him. What should I do please help ? I need advice!
P.S. I forgot to mention we got back together after we broke up.
But he keeps pushing off moving in together again we've been living apart for 2 years now. Oh and he always mentions how nobody is ever gonna wanna be with someone who has 2 kids.
2006-12-20 01:29:06 · 8 answers · asked by precious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ugh, he sounds like a jerk. Don't listen to his bull about no one wanting to be with a single mom. He is just trying to lower your self esteem so you will be there for him to use. It sounds like you do not love him anymore and are just "comfortable" in the so called relationship. The longer you put off moving on, the harder it will be . . . for you and your kids. I hope you make the right decision. . . Good luck!
2006-12-20 01:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by sweet_carmel_angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's clear to me that you are not being smart about this. Men target women's insecurities in order to control thme and put them just where they want them sometimes. It's sounds like your "ex" is having his cake and eating it too. You need to embark on some military tactics in order to protect your children from botth the actions and the influence of a manipulator like your husband. You need to understand that his saying that you won't find anyone who can love you with two kids both insults the children, and your intteligence. He is harping on the things you may expose to him, with insecurity about your ability to meet someone else. You must be focussing on that, and he knows, he can sense that you can't be alone. so he first limits you by telling you you deserve no more than he will give you, and then he rations his time out between you nad the other sappy women whom share the bed he sleeps in. It's a shame to think that your weakness will most definately result in a power struggle between you in your children when they get old enough to feel like they want contro. your being a door mat now is making a script for you for the rest of your life. Stop now, or you will be 80 and still trying to get your huband to love and respect you. When you die, he'll fight with your kids over who deserves whatever you've left behind. He will never stop taking as long as you keep letting him
sorry, but true.
2006-12-20 01:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by kikumatsu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take some time away from him to figure out if he makes you happy and if you are really in love with him. For the thing about no one will be with someone that has 2 kids THATS WRONG I have 3 children and I met someone and he loves the kids. So just because you have kids don't mean that someone else won't fall in love with you.
Good luck!!!
2006-12-20 01:36:59 · answer #3 · answered by MeganVP 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to break free from him. If there is no cheating going on, although I imagine he is, you already have a lack of trust plus you don't love him, it appears. As for the 2 kids, that would never stop me from pursuing a woman I liked. Don't let that stop you, there are many men who have no issues with a lady who has kids from a prior relationship.
2006-12-20 01:37:35 · answer #4 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to what he says about no one else wanting you because you have 2 kids. Plenty of women with children get into new relationships with men that aren't their babies father.
He's just saying this to bring you down so that it will be easier to keep you at his beckon call. If you don't love him, kick him to the curb for good. Being in a relationship like this isn't good for you or your children. Also, don't let him guilt you by saying "what about the kids?" Because he can still be in their lives and not be in a relationship with you.
Stand up for yourself.
2006-12-20 01:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People with kids start new relationships all of the time. Dumb the cheater and find a new man. Any man who strings you along is not worth your time.
Joining a club for single parents is a good place to start. Check with your church.
Merry Christmas
2006-12-20 01:33:25 · answer #6 · answered by mingcrew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be on a test. understanding and patience could be helpful. but a very important point need to be explored: do you love him or not? Answer this question truthfully and also thoughtfully and you may not require any external help at all. best of wishes and good luck.
2006-12-20 01:37:15 · answer #7 · answered by braj k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man is an idiot if he thinks nobody's gonna be with you and 2 kids, and u need to get backbone and stop trusting the cheater, and get another man, don't let him move in with you again
2006-12-20 01:32:40 · answer #8 · answered by sinfulheaven777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋