Ok me and my new girlfriend have dated for about 3 weeks. When i met her it was as if it was love at first sight. I never really planned on having sex anytime soon, for the fact that sexual intercourse makes the relationship complicated, and she is a virgin. I have been being very sweet to her, asking her out by sending her a cake with "will you go out with me on it?" and sending her flowers when she is sick, and taking her out to the movies, and dinner, and always opening doors for her. I am just not the type of guy who just want's to have sex all the time or anything, but i want to give her what she want's, and she has told me she wants me to be her first. I mean i want this also, but i just don't know if it is too soon.
2006-12-20 01:09:52 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just continue to be there for her and when the time is right, you will both know it! If you aren't comfortable with having sex with her right now, let her know. I know I love it when a guy lets me know how he feels. If you want to have sex with her, you will both know when you are ready. You may be thinking that it will complicate the relationship because you have only been with her for 3 weeks, but keep in mind...sex can also strengthen your relationship and bring the two of you closer! My boyfriend, who is my husband now, was my first and we were only together about 5 weeks or so.We both made the decision together to have sex. It brought us closer together and we are now happily married.Good Luck!
2006-12-20 01:21:49 · answer #1 · answered by Danelle L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex does complicate things. Three weeks is too soon for me and I am not a virgin. She sounds like she is really into you and that is wonderful. I would advise taking things slowly. Get to know her when she is not at her best. Let her see you when you are not at yours. At three weeks you both still probably only see the wonder of each other. Enjoy that but get to know each others quirks, likes and dislikes. She has waited for the right guy so be absolutely sure you are him before hopping into bed. Sometimes we women get clingy or possessive once the deed is done. Ask yourself if this is what you want. At any rate, her virginity is a very precious gift. It can't be returned. With that comes responsibilities. Are you ready? I don't mean to sound like a prude but both of your feelings are at stake.
2006-12-20 01:32:19 · answer #2 · answered by firefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's ok if you want to, but personally I think it might be a good idea to know her a little better and be with her a little longer before you do that. I'm not one to talk though, I haven't always stuck to that rule of waiting for a good while, and I'm married to that girl now, so it actually worked out ok for us. Ultimately, it's up to you and her, and it won't be the end of the world if you give in and do this early. Whatever you decide to do will be ok. The decision is yours my friend.
~Kyle
2006-12-20 01:14:03 · answer #3 · answered by Kyleontheweb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get to know her more, and dont ask for our advice on here there real answer is between the both of you, and she is a virgin which means most likely that when yall do have sex she is gonna be attached to you and if u break her heart she will be hurt so badly we are emotional like that. wait until you two really love each other, sex is so much better when 2 people really love and care about each other!!!!
2006-12-20 01:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are able to desire to pass and notice her in individual and ask her out on A date back ok, then take a seat and communicate together with her approximately everthing. Then as your leaving turn around and seem into her eyes and say I Forgot something !! and grab her and kiss her on an analogous time as hugging 2 and notice what happens from there ? Then tell her which you have deep emotions for her and which you relatively prefer to properly known if the thoughts are mutual ?
2016-10-05 13:12:26 · answer #5 · answered by wardwell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 weeks....eeyah that's about the same time i was dating my fiance ..and she was a virgin too...personally i'd wait til marriage, you're already in the good side of the relationship...it's just morally right to wait....because if you can hold out for each other..then you can hold out for the long term. See i think i should've waited..i suppose my constant addiction to her wouldn't be as bad. But she wanted me to be her first, because she knew I wasn't gonna use her, or cheat on her or treat her like dirt, and that I was in it for the long term. So I was honored by her gift, and I make it a promise she never regrets it.
So I suppose you can go off on the same note...she's offering you something that should be respected and like i said honored..it's a once in a lifetime thing, and you get to be the first one to take it....so i'd make it worth her while, not on that moment, but for a memory never to be regretted. :).
2006-12-20 01:20:26 · answer #6 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just let things happen. If it is supposed to happen that way then it will. I've had a girl tell me that she wanted me to be her first, but it didn't work out and we never did have sex. She was a little psycho.
2006-12-20 01:15:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 weeks is way too soon. Maybe after 2-4 months
2006-12-20 01:13:13 · answer #8 · answered by Cavegirl948 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's never too soon if you are both ready. too me it doesn't sound like you are - If she's a virgin then you should both be 100% ready before you 'Get it on'.
Don't rush things
:)
2006-12-20 01:17:51 · answer #9 · answered by Jen (G cup UK) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If both of you want to have sex, then go ahead. Make sure that is really what she wants to do though. From the sounds of it, you do treat her the way that she should be treated, so I don't see why she wouldn't want to with you.
2006-12-20 01:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by Angelica 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋