I am a Christian & so is my fiance and his whole family ( Pastoral Home)-he comes from, but I on the other hand (my whole family ) as of now are not Christians. Well we are getting married at my mothers home (tent wedding)on Feb 10th 07. My mother said instead of having beer and liquor out. She would make punches for my family (with liquor) and punches for my fiances family (without liquor)..I thought that was ok....and so did my fiance! but last night after talking affraid some of his family members wouldn't go to the wedding he suggested no liquor! but I don't feel i want to ask that of my family..(if anything i think we should show example--but not by forcing them) It is my mothers home and she is making all the arrangments ! what should I do ????? I don't want to start comforming to his family...my family is just as important!!
2006-12-20 00:43:12 · 30 answers · asked by sarapereznj 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
First, when you say you are a Christian, do you mean you have been born again, or you are a member of a church?
Have you asked your mom, 'would you be upset if I asked you not to spike either punch, just so I can have all of his family'.
Besides, you are to leave your parents and cleave to your husband. If your feelings for your family would cause a rift with his family, are you doing what the scriptures said?
Remember you are now a Christian.
From that day foward, He is to be the head of the family, just as Christ is the head of the Church.
Are you familiar with Ephesians 5:22-33?
2006-12-20 00:58:14 · answer #1 · answered by Theophilus 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
At the weddings attended by Jesus there was wine. In fact Jesus turned water into wine at a wedding.
Whe you mrry into a family, you become part of that family, yet you and your (soon to be) husband form a new family.
Your mother is hosting the wedding. As a good host she is taking in other people's comforts by providing non-alcoholic punch.
I say that if some of your future family members would use that as an excuse not to come to your wedding there are other reasons.
Go enjoy your wedding (and new life) and realize that you will never be able to make everyone happy. Just insure that you and your new husband stay with Jesus and you will have real happiness.
Best of luck!
2006-12-20 00:50:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do YOU want? My family is Christian (Baptists to be exact, that basically means no liquor and no pre-marital dancing), but my lovers family isn't so strict and realise that the occasional drink and dance is okay. My lover and I, well, we like to drink and dance and do all sorts of things. I told my parents "there will be drinking and dancing" and his parents are paying for an open bar! There was no asking for permission. As an adult, you should be able to make that choice. Since, you already said you decided with the idea that some liquor is okay (besides Jesus made wine for a wedding!) and that your family has the ability to choose whether or not to drink then go with it. Your parents will just have to accept that you are an adult and you are your own person. Growing up to be independent and self sufficient is indeed another way of 'honouring thy mother and father' especially in this day in age when self sifficience is much more important for survival than familial relationships.
2006-12-20 00:50:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are your Christian relatives not aware that Jesus' first miracle was to turn water into wine at a wedding? Perhaps if you and your fiance tactfully share these scriptures with his family, they will feel differently.
Matthew 2:6-11/Jesus turns water to wine
Psalms 104:14-15/ Wine is a gift from God
If you could reassure them that there will be no overindulgence, I'm sure that will comfort them also.
2006-12-20 02:47:44 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus was Jewish to start with, no Christian. Secondly, weddings in those days lasted days, and the whole of the two villages at times participated, so wine was in need in large quantities. And lastly, the important part of that Gospel story is not necesarily the wine, but the meaning of the the start of His ministry, and how at the end of His ministry wine was also involved. Study a bit further and you will find things other than something to joke about. May God bless you and yours always.
2016-03-13 08:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by Karin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible does not prohibit the use of alcohol. It is drunkedness that is a sin. As to why you mentioned the word "christian", christians can drink but not get drunk. Now, since you are having a large crowd having free flowing wine may cause someone to get drunk and sin so the question is, do you want to be responsible for that? So unless you can control as to how much a person is going to drink then by all means have wine, if not don't.
2006-12-20 00:47:24 · answer #6 · answered by Pinolera 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are perfectly OK not drinking alcohol at a wedding. The few who'll be upset at the lack of alcohol can drink themselves silly after the wedding. Don't swaet it, we've been to several weddings and parties where no alcohol is served and most people don't miss it. The ones who can't have fun without it can just sit and pout.
Have a beautiful wedding and a happy and healthy marriage.
2006-12-20 00:50:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your choice. You're the bride. I didn't have liquor at my wedding, but that was more out of cost than conviction.
Christianity has nothing to do with it really. Remember when Jesus went to a wedding and turned the water into wine? How people tease positions out of Christianity with zero Biblical evidence is absolutely beyond me.
2006-12-20 00:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by silverside 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yep have wine, there is no biblical reason for christians not to drink wine and there is certainly no reason for them not to attend weddings where wine is present. No one will force them to drink. If they make a big fuss over it then it is they who are being totally unreasonable and in the end a pretty rubbish witness.
2006-12-20 00:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Casper P.D. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would say that it's OK as long as one doesn't over-indulge. The Scriptures speak of several instances where being drunk is immoral and improper, so as long as everyone practices self-control, I wouldn't have a problem with it. You may have to make concessions however for family members who have chosen to abstain from such a scene due to it being a personal conviction to not be in the presence of such an atmosphere. the Apostle Paul called it a "thorn in the flesh". With it being such a sensitive subject, you may have to set up a wet bar or something in a private location if possible to help avoid such problems.
2006-12-20 02:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by bigvol662004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋