After I recent break-up with the love of my life I am finding it really hard to walk away. I keep wanting to contact him but he does not want to talk or see me, says it makes it easier for him. I have never been in this situation before and I do not know how to deal with it. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him and he did too at one time and then things suddenly changed. He said that it was bothering him for sometime and he promises that there is not anyone else.
2006-12-20 00:41:10 · 16 answers · asked by Kimber 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you don't have to like the situation or agree with the situation but you do have to accept it and move on..it happens to everyone
2006-12-20 00:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe it is best to find ways to fill your time so you don't spend it constantly thinking about your past relationship. Renew or make new friendships - engage in an activity that you have wanted to do but haven't such as learning to play a sport or volunteering your time. These are constructive ways to use the energy you have so that you are creating new memories and moving on.
Additionally, it is a good idea to not dwell on your memories and when you find yourself possibly doing this - redirect your thoughts to something positive. If that doesn't work - think about things in the relationship that weren't so great - maybe that even bugged you.
In human nature it seems we always want what we can't have - but not everything we want is necessarily good for us. And why, when we have so much to offer someone would we want to be with someone who doesn't want us? You deserve better.
Take care -
2006-12-20 00:57:35 · answer #2 · answered by chequamegon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really do not have a choice but to let go.
I know that it will be hard but there really isn't anything else that you can do.
The same thing happened to me and even though i thought that when we broke up we would still be the best of friends, we do not speak to each other. But that is where part of my heart is. I loved him and still do.
You will find someone else and the moment he does something to make you happy that your ex never liked to do, the transition will be easy.
Just be care full not to transfer your feelings for you ex to another man cause that just spells trouble.
Take it one day at a time and everything will work out okay.
2006-12-20 00:50:24 · answer #3 · answered by Osunwole Adeoyin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE Kimber--the sooner you accept 100% that the relationship is over, the healing will begin.
Don't keep fantasizing about "maybe" this or "eventually he might" that.
WALK WALK WALK. You will feel a little bit better every day. Soon it will be a week from now, then a month, then you will see guys flirting with you, and that old feeling will come back. In three months you will be amazed that you ever lost sleep over that guy.
I've been through this a few times. YOU GET OVER HIM! The pain leaves without you even trying. You just have to accept it.
2006-12-20 00:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you adore someone all you opt for is whats perfect for them, Evan in spite of the undeniable fact that he says he doesn't love you deep down i imagine he does yet he needs to get on inclusive of his study and thinks you may do the same, A cpl of hours per week isn't a lot, you may imagine why do you've a lot time to socialize yet he doesn't? why does he no longer have buddies at uni, ask your self those questions and then ask if it is wisely worth persevering with with him, you've a mess of free time so enable him flow and flow on, it truly is likely for the perfect, stay buddies yet tell him it is all it will be from now as you dont opt for to be damage again. Sorry this has got here about to you yet i desire lifestyles receives more beneficial xx
2016-11-27 22:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing has happened to me Kimber. I feel for you. It has been only 1 month since my world has fallen apart and I can not get over it. I loved him with all of myself. I gave him 13 years. I wanted to grow old with him and he just said he doesn't want that with me anymore. I want him back and he wants a divorce. I am so deeply upset by all this. Everyone tells me it'll get better but I don't want better without him. I don't know if I will recover from this.
2006-12-20 00:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by out2lunch 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really, truly believe him, let him go. He isn't part of your life now. I know it's hard to walk away from someone like this (it tears my heart out everytime I try to even think of breaking up with my girlfriend) but you have to. Things have changed for him; they should change for you too. If you still have some doubt, ask him why he wants to let go. Bombard him with texts, emails, phone calls, and even go visit his house unannounced if you have to.
You'll get over it; breaking up with someone is killing a part of yourself, a part that loved him dearly.
2006-12-20 00:45:36 · answer #7 · answered by i6am6satan6 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start going places where you won't bump into him. Pick up old friendships, get a pet, start concentrating on other things. He is not interested in being with you. I feel like he is lying to you when he says there is no one else. Guys are always looking.
2006-12-20 00:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just accept his decision and stop insulting yourself. There are lots of guys out there. The guy is being honest and factual with you; would you rather find out his true feelings by seeing him cheating on you? Get over it, dear.
2006-12-20 00:44:49 · answer #9 · answered by seek_fulfill 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how hard it can be 2 jst walk away but u need 2 move on you r thinking about your self 2 much and what u want and need think of the guy and how he feels and what he wants and needs jst move on good luck
2006-12-20 00:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by PRINCESS! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋