I have asked my girlfriends and have had a 50/50 responce. So over to you - if you met the man of your dreams, and he was amazing in every way, you know you will be together one day, but he is not ready to settle right now (i am 2years older than him at 23 - so have done it all) and he doesn't want to be tied to me as he will end up hurting me as he has things he needs to get out of his system - do i repect his honesty and freedom, and try and wait? do i keep him as a 'move' (please read between the lines) or do i get someone new, hoping i forget the past three months? I have met alot of men and this is the real thing. This is real love. I know what i am gona do about it - i just want your opinions ladies please. Thanks and merry christmas!!!
2006-12-20 00:22:10 · 13 answers · asked by Ms.Trouble 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well said told me he loves me way way before i felt like this - he was talking about our kids way before i would have even considered it, and yes at 23, i have done a hell of alot of things!! I have made the most out of the last few years!
2006-12-20 00:28:42 · update #1
set him free if he comes back he is yours if he doesn't he was never yours
2006-12-20 00:25:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Read the book "He's Just Not That Into You". It changed my life. It might sound depressing, but every minute you waste on a guy who is not into you is a minute you could spend doing something that helps you instead of hurts you.
Please realize that a guy is not necessary, ever. If you are a whole person, then meeting a whole guy is just wonderful. You can both give and receive from a whole relationship. Anything else is a parasitic relationship, and after the original "honeymoon" period, it will bleed you dry, and you will have nothing but regret.
2006-12-20 00:27:11 · answer #2 · answered by sixgun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have tried waiting for a guy. Truth is...it's not worth it. He said he loved me and I was totally enamored by him. I am certain that in another time and another place we probably would have ended up together. What if something even more amazing comes along, but you're too busy waiting for this other guy? Go ahead and wait if you like, but don't put your life on hold at the same time!
2006-12-20 00:41:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how 'true' love is when it's not reciprocated. I would definately wait for a man for as long as it took if the feelings were mutual but NOT for this reason. If he has things to do, it's an excuse. When a man loves you back, he can't help but want to be with you constantly. You should definately respect his freedom but also your own.. Move on.
2006-12-20 00:28:32 · answer #4 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd basically do it when you'vee regularly occurring the guy a lengthy time period, yet at the on the spot are not in a severe courting. That way the lady knows you care sufficient to be on time once you first initiate going out. besides the indisputable fact that it also makes you unpredictable (being late) once you get to carry close her more beneficial. that's all interior the little issues. I did it because once i replaced into stuck in site visitors and replaced into late and she replaced into all horny and reported "I missed you." and she appeared to choose me extra. i do not understand, it worked.
2016-12-01 00:08:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're 23 and "have done it all" - hahaha!
I agree with him, no one should be settling down at 21 or 23! Why do you think the divorce rate is so high?!
2006-12-20 00:24:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok... i am 23 also... i have two kids, been married, now divorced, did the partying thing, i have done ALOT... but please beleive that i have not done it all... and neither have you. you still have more to come in life.
if he really wanted to be with you, he wouldnt be scared of having to get things out of his system. because you would be there to do it with him.
i think that you should move on.
2006-12-20 00:47:24 · answer #7 · answered by BigMaMa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i am in the same sort of thing.. i really really like this guy and he seems to like me but doesnt want a commitment.. so what do i do.. i play it .. you can wait for him and still see other guys.. what is he doing all this time.. i think if it is meant to be then eventually he will come around but you really shouldnt just sit home waiting and waiting and waiting.. go out have fun.. what ever happens happens
2006-12-20 00:25:13 · answer #8 · answered by bajajunglemama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why waste your time on a guy that just wants his freedom away from relationships.. get a new guy :) :) :)
2006-12-20 00:30:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is it really love if it is one sided? he doesn't want to be tied to you so i don't think he's in love with you ..so i would move on
2006-12-20 00:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
rent the movie Serendipity (spelling?)
2006-12-20 00:26:47 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋